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To think it's inappropriate to sell these in a shop aimed at pre-teens?

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TheActualMarilynManson · 10/10/2017 20:22

NC as I've told people I'm posting this but I'm a long time regular, 'cancel the cheque', yoni, korean lady, etc.

So, I'm in Claire's Accessories today and see these..... (hopefully the photo will upload correctly.)

For starters, anyone who knows what these items are intended to be used for will not buy one from Claire's Accessories.
Secondly, I don't know a person over 13 who buys anything from this shop, they are unlikely to understand, so why sell it?
Third, children will buy this stuff, have their photo taken, then in a few years will come to realise what their parents allowed them to wear in the name of 'being trendy'.

That's just the obvious points. I also have a massive issue with BDSM being made 'mainstream' because of the negativity which always comes with it in the media.

'50 Shades' did a HUGE amount of damage to the BDSM scene. Their relationship was not D/S, it was emotional abuse, with some sex thrown in.
True D/S relationships are built on trust, respect, years of commitment, and learning.

As someone heavily involved in the BDSM scene, I find it hugely offensive that a way of life, and a whole community of likeminded people, can be essentially mocked by what is deemed 'fashion'.

So, AIBU to think this is inappropriate 'jewellery' for a childrens accessory shop?

To think it's inappropriate to sell these in a shop aimed at pre-teens?
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Tessliketrees · 10/10/2017 20:38

For starters, anyone who knows what these items are intended to be used for will not buy one from Claire's Accessories

You'd be fucking livid if you went to Pets At Home.

RunningOutOfCharge · 10/10/2017 20:39

Tess Grin

SilverdaleGlen · 10/10/2017 20:39

I'm outraged the BDSM fetish scene are try to co-opt the throwback choker Angry

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 10/10/2017 20:40

90s?! I wore one in the 70s (ok it was velvet) and I was early teens.

Rheged · 10/10/2017 20:40

Gosh, relax. It’s just a choker. A fashion necklace.

I imagine someone looking for BSDM accessories would not call into Claire’s. They look way too flimsy to attach a leash to anyway.

TooManyPaws · 10/10/2017 20:40

I still have my black leather studded choker somewhere. I'm also 56 and still shop at Claire's Accessories for things for my long hair; I've never felt ancient or out of place there. It's got ranges that appeal to all ages.

Expemsiveuniform · 10/10/2017 20:41

That’s a choker not a collar. Don’t be ridiculous.

khajiit13 · 10/10/2017 20:41

I shop at Claire's Confused great for cheap hair accessories and jewellery

Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 10/10/2017 20:43

Calm down love they are just choker necklaces it's not like they are selling ball gags and chains and whips your looking for issues that aren't there just so that you can make a song and dance about how someone is taking the piss out of the weird shit that your in to. Stop trying to make a few fashion accessories in to something that it's not.

Sayyouwill · 10/10/2017 20:44

I'm sure OP was clasping her pearls or rather dog collar when she saw them.

Lesson Learned: never tell anyone you're making a mumsnet post

Heratnumber7 · 10/10/2017 20:44

When I was a teenager we used to make our own chokers out of bias binding!

wrenika · 10/10/2017 20:44

They're just chokers. Teen goths and the likes will love them...I did when I was a teen. I think I bought mine out of Claire's back in the day as well!

RideOn · 10/10/2017 20:45

Tess! Grin

Also struggle to see it either mocking or an example of mainstream BDSM. The photo is of a choker, not for actualy choking, just a short necklace.

TheActualMarilynManson · 10/10/2017 20:45

Chokers are fine....ones intended to bw worn in your mouth so someone can throat fuck you....different matter surely?!

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LovelyPrep · 10/10/2017 20:46

Way of life?! It's just a sex fetish, dear. Maybe goths and punks should be offended by the BDSM lot hijacking their dog collars?
It's just the cycle of fashion. Some of it is nice, some of it is god awful. Either way it just keeps coming back around.

Alloftheboys · 10/10/2017 20:46

That's nothing OP you missed the nipple clamps for tweens on the next rack! Grin

Herja · 10/10/2017 20:47

It's the type of choker surely? The ring ones are made to go over your face to hold you're mouth open for deep throting.

Expemsiveuniform · 10/10/2017 20:47

Those aren’t ring gags don’t talk tripe. Not even close.

RunningOutOfCharge · 10/10/2017 20:47

They are NOT!!!!

You sound like weirdo now.... wanting input from us all. Yuk yuk yuk

SignoraStronza · 10/10/2017 20:48

They're just goth wear. Honestly, Claire's accessories aren't trying to take the piss out of the self proclaimed sexually superior 'community', nor are they attempting to corrupt young minds.

Herja · 10/10/2017 20:48

Your

ShirleyPhallus · 10/10/2017 20:48

ones intended to bw worn in your mouth so someone can throat fuck you.

What on earth is "throat fucking"?

Is it what you do if you need to give someone a tracheotomy and there is no biro go hand?

RunningOutOfCharge · 10/10/2017 20:48

Everyone maybe we should be cautious here....

Herja · 10/10/2017 20:49

And yes, I do find it inappropriate.

kaytee87 · 10/10/2017 20:49

Chokers are fine....ones intended to bw worn in your mouth so someone can throat fuck you....different matter surely?!

Eh?? Have you been on the wine?

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