To think it's inappropriate to sell these in a shop aimed at pre-teens?

[TheActualMarilynManson]

NC as I've told people I'm posting this but I'm a long time regular, 'cancel the cheque', yoni, korean lady, etc.

So, I'm in Claire's Accessories today and see these..... (hopefully the photo will upload correctly.)

For starters, anyone who knows what these items are intended to be used for will not buy one from Claire's Accessories.
Secondly, I don't know a person over 13 who buys anything from this shop, they are unlikely to understand, so why sell it?
Third, children will buy this stuff, have their photo taken, then in a few years will come to realise what their parents allowed them to wear in the name of 'being trendy'.

That's just the obvious points. I also have a massive issue with BDSM being made 'mainstream' because of the negativity which always comes with it in the media.

'50 Shades' did a HUGE amount of damage to the BDSM scene. Their relationship was not D/S, it was emotional abuse, with some sex thrown in.
True D/S relationships are built on trust, respect, years of commitment, and learning.

As someone heavily involved in the BDSM scene, I find it hugely offensive that a way of life, and a whole community of likeminded people, can be essentially mocked by what is deemed 'fashion'.

So, AIBU to think this is inappropriate 'jewellery' for a childrens accessory shop?

But Claire's accessories isn't a shop that tends to mainly teenagers or a shop that caters to mainly goth attire. It's a mainstream children's shop not an alternate one that sells alternate jewellery.

It's a shop that most under 13s love, if you gave your dd money to pick whatever they wanted would you all really be okay with a pre teen coming it with this and wearing something like this??

It's a shop that most under 13s love, if you gave your dd money to pick whatever they wanted would you all really be okay with a pre teen coming it with this and wearing something like this??

Why not say 'you're not having that' if you think it's inappropriate? The problem in the scenario above is that the parent has said 'pick whatever you want' and is upset that shops sell stuff that might be inappropriate and they don't want to have to veto it.

Presumably Claire's can see a market for these items otherwise they wouldn't be selling them, so whether that's from younger kids who have been told by their parents they can have anything they want or teenagers who want those items for fashion, surely it's up to the parents to filter out anything they view as inappropriate?

Also, if my 13 yr old chose to wear that, I'd think she was emulating the pop/punk look of a lot of teens in US high school shows as opposed to acting out a scene from 50 Shades of Grey.

Claire's may be a mainstream store, but so is the goth/punk look nowadays.

Rosecoffee as a punky 40-something yo and mother of a punky 18yo I can confirm that Claire's sells a lot of alternative jewellery. Also make-up and also stuff for hen parties: handcuffs, clockwork willies, the lot!

My local tesco sells condoms. Better not let the kids buy sweets there, eh?

Its not shops in general I'm referring to, Tesco caters to families so you can expect to buy everything there, I'm not saying children shouldn't be able to buy from a shop that sells things that isn't suitable for them, e.g alcohol, condoms and cigarettes because that would eliminate most shops and wasn't the point I was getting at whatsoever. But I just find it odd in a shop that has a main demographic of 10-14 year olds where you'd expect to say 'you have £10 buy something you would like' that things like this would be for sale.

I understand that the punk/goth/pop look is very much in fashion but should we really need to filter what children buy in a shop aimed at children?

Well, I wouldn't veto the stuff in the OP if my daughter wanted to wear it (it's not her style and would look ridiculous on her, but that's by the by).

However, I probably would veto some of their hen-do products. I don't see the issue with a parent having to say 'no, you can't have that'.

If you genuinely believe that the items in the OP are sex clothes, then why can't you just say they can't have them?

I'm sure most people looked at the photos and thought 'oh, look Claire's are selling the same pedestrian misappropriated punk accessories they sold when I was a kid so a whole new generation can overlook the irony of being 'punk' by all dressing the same' or 'oh, look some chokers'. Not 'ooh, those are harnesses for men to put their tiny penises in'.

I would. I'd say, "No...that's not appropriate, put it back.". That's fine.
My beef is that these items are offered up as being suitable for that demographic at all!

They're being offered up to anyone who'll buy them, just like the hen party accessories.

Chokers are really in fashion as are accessories with metal rings

I see the sun has picked up this story.

I can't believe I just read the words 'throat fuck'

Well if you are right OP I will never look at Prince Charles the same

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