Ponytail

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So here it goes.
DD is 19 months old and attends a Montessori nursery. I wanted her to go here as I liked their teachings and I let as though the children could be themselves, free sprites that kind of thing.
DP picked her up with a tacky high pony tail in. Now, DD has the craziest hair around , it's wild , curly, had a life of its own, a bit like DD . It's just her. She will never ever let me put a slide in or do anything with it, complete little wild child.
I don't see why they tied it up?? It's not in her way, it's short and I feel as though she has been treated like a doll for the entertainment of the staff.AIBU if I complain?

zzzz Yes, I know all that. I still don't see how it's particularly relevant unless the delay is very severe and the child can't do anything at all to let nursery know she's unhappy about having her hair up.

Far more likely that she simply plays up for her mum and not for them. But feel free to focus on whatever you like.

My Dd used to let her keyworker put her hair long before she let me. They tied it up so it didn't get messy during lunchtime or messy play and to reduce the chance of headlice spreading.

If your Dd didn't like it, wouldn't she have just taken it down? Also you day developmentally delayed so couldn't walk away but also unlikely to sit still for it to be done happily? So she is able to move away and express discomfort or displeasure?

Hearmeroar
I'm asking Friday in person , not over the phone

zzzz good work on the made up quote! It's nice to see quite how thoroughly you missed my point.

In regards to the delay. It wasn't something I brought to anyone's attention, it was monitored by the midwife and then appointments made. A few months ago she was the equivalent of an 8 month old. We have another check up next week, also awaiting physio apt, and one for her sight

zzzz Erm, what about the other quote?!

Op - sorry this has all been a bit derailing, hope she's ok

Derailing isn’t the word, zzzz . Why don’t you let op get a word in on her own thread?

Just found this thread open on my iPad after not using it for a while. Now I'm dying to know if you ever found out....

Your dd is going to grow up to be an absolute nightmare if you continue like this, go you're planning on home schooling because you're in for a shock if you send her to regular school

a tacky high pony tail

A what?

Graceadler made my point for me ^-
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Op, do you look down on the nursery staff? The 'tacky' high ponytail and idea that paid employees want to play 'dolly' suggests that you do.

Still can't believe OP is planning on raising this with the nursery. You sound like hard work OP.

Yabu to call it ‘tacky’
It’s a non event
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Maybe she enjoyed having her hair done
If you know she didn’t ask, you don’t know she objected.