Ponytail

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So here it goes.
DD is 19 months old and attends a Montessori nursery. I wanted her to go here as I liked their teachings and I let as though the children could be themselves, free sprites that kind of thing.
DP picked her up with a tacky high pony tail in. Now, DD has the craziest hair around , it's wild , curly, had a life of its own, a bit like DD . It's just her. She will never ever let me put a slide in or do anything with it, complete little wild child.
I don't see why they tied it up?? It's not in her way, it's short and I feel as though she has been treated like a doll for the entertainment of the staff.AIBU if I complain?

You sound like an absolute nightmare and rather than a "wild child" your kid sounds like shes learning to be pretty up herself tbh

For someone who wants her DD to be free spirited you seem very uptight

Children never behave the same for other people as they do for their parents. I'm sure she was fine

DD wouldn't have shown interest in this kind of thing

Seriously?

To add , it was like a very tight pulled back tight, brushed and combed within an inch of its life and tied very tightly

My friends nursery constantly has a hairdresser corner set up because the kids never get bored of it.

You sound a bit weird about this to be totally honest.

I think if you go in softly softly I noticed that dd had her hair up when she got home last night, was there an activity she needed it up for/ was it getting in the way etc you'll probably get a straight answer and if it was for an "unacceptable" reason you can ask them not to in future.

OTOH If you go in guns a blazing why did you put dd's hair up in such a tacky ponytail then they will probably be defensive/touchy.

You sound particularly unhinged. Your poor DD.

Nits. Messy play. Hairdressers role play.

I just feel as though she's been used like some kind of doll, and that she should just be playing etc, I know some children at 19 Months may like role play etc but she's delayed in development and only just showing interest in playing etc , not grasped the idea of role play

Waffles.... to say 'poor DD' is slightly cruel, have a word with yourself

I can assure you no nursery staff have the time to decide they want to treat a child like a doll, it was most likely getting in the way of an activity.

Will people please read. It would literally be impossible to get in the way of an activity

Just ask "oh how did you manage to get her hair tied up? She never lets me do that". Ask in a conversational way.

So not in her eyes?

How can three inches of hair be tied back tightly? I'm not able to imagine this ponytail at all.

Are you for real?

"tacky high ponytail" wtf

MN's got them all in tonight. Do you know the mum who "treasures every piece" of Boden, OP?

On a serious note, it's no problem. Just let it go.

Free sprite
Wild child
Play with her like a doll??

Most likely it was done for sensible reasons. You do sound a little unhinged, op. There are lots more important things to get stressed about. Am sure the staff are busy enough without doing kids' hair for no reason.

Complain ??!!! Ffs

Headlice protection.

Hair tied back is policy at DDs nursery, always has been and so far she's weathered it without signs of trauma.

For someone who wants her DD to be free spirited you seem very uptight

Hmmm...

Now, DD has the craziest hair around , it's wild , curly, had a life of its own, a bit like DD . It's just her. She will never ever let me put a slide in or do anything with it, complete little wild child

Oh, you crazy-hair-don't-care lot!

I feel as though she has been treated like a doll for the entertainment of the staff

Unlikely. I wouldn't complain anyway, OP, just in case, y'know. It sounds utterly batshit or something.

If it's that short, how did they tie it up? It must have been a tiny ponytail as most of her hair wouldn't have reached the band?

Most nursery settings and schools insist upon hair being tied back.

I can't believe you actually want to raise this as an issue!