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To think she has no self respect. Or respect for others for that matter

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Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:04

DM runs a pub. DH occasionally helps out and does DJing at party's now and again.
He came in tonight and was laughing about a girl who was recently the barmaid at a hotel where we attended a wedding. DH told me about the conversation they had...

Girl: can you play some new chart stuff please?
DH: sure
Girl: I recognise you? You were at a wedding at hotel 2 weeks ago with your wife wasn't you.
DH: ohh yes was you there?
Girl: yes I work there. Your wife is really pretty.
Dh: haha thanks

Girl goes to dance, come back to ask for lots of songs repeatedly through the night.

Towards the end of the night
Girl: do you want to come back and finish the night with me and my friend?

DH declined.

How FUCKING RUDE!!

DH and DM are laughing saying she's just a silly little girl but I'm fuming!
She knows he's married as she complimented me in the night. Why would you offer a married man yourself on a plate. AIBU to think she has no self respect or respect for others especially fellow women.
I hope one day when she's settled down some little tramp throws themselves at her bloody husband! Angry

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nevereverever83 · 01/10/2017 03:08

wow, chill out. she was probably just cheerful and tipsy. nothing bad happened. relax.

TheStoic · 01/10/2017 03:10

Yeah it's cheeky. But no harm done. Don't waste any more time thinking about her. She is nothing to you.

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Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:11

Sorry, didn't realise that when your cheerful and tipsy you offer to sleep with random men Hmm

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Beelzebop · 01/10/2017 03:11

I have been in a similar situation as my dh used to run a club. I know it's really, really irritating but don't let it get to you. He handled it OK I think, and she was a silly girl. It's rough though!

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Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:13

Very true The . I was just outraged I think. DH and DM are still laughing it off so I'll have to do the same I'm just suprised at how blatant she was!

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highinthesky · 01/10/2017 03:13

DH has done nothing wrong so just drop it. He's handled fandom well and shared it with you.

Alternatively use it as a stick to beat him with and watch him take up the next offer.

Original poster
Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:14

Ha, I'm annoyed at the girl not DH Confused

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XiCi · 01/10/2017 03:16

Massive overreaction. Also, finish the night could just mean more drinks not 'come back and fuck me and my friend'

Original poster
Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:16

He has just said "I've still got it" though Grin

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Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:17

She definitely ment fuck me and my friend.

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Coconutspongexo · 01/10/2017 03:20

She didn't mean come back and spend the night with her Hmm

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 01/10/2017 03:20

Stealth boast about being pretty, op.?

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Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:23

Hahahaha yep definitely stealth boast because it matters to me that mumsnetters think I'm pretty. Also I do not think myself pretty.

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Coconutspongexo · 01/10/2017 03:24

I imagine you dislike younger women
I doubt the girl wanted your husband to fuck her, it's presumptuous of you to even think that.

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Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:26

Why would I dislike younger women?
I'm 25 and I dont know many younger women who would do this to be honest.

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GeneandFred · 01/10/2017 03:28

I would be pissed off with the girl too. I think she was acting a bit trampy. Try and forget about it and don't let her get to you.

RavingRoo · 01/10/2017 03:28

Sounded like the girl has low standards. Plenty do. Keep calm and carry on.

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Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:29

I had a rant because I thought what she did was rude.
The way she said what she said and how she had been through the night makes it obvious she didn't mean to come and have a few drinks from what DH and DM said.
I have calmed down now and can see the funny side I just still think that's really bad of her I'm sure she could have gone out and found a single man why try it on with one you know is married that's my issue Confused

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Sohurt17 · 01/10/2017 03:29

OP, do you really think she meant come back and have a threesome with me and my friend? Really truly? I think she wanted to continue partying and thought your dh was cool and probably did fancy him but there's a massive leap between wanting to hang out and have fun to having an orgy!

Coconutspongexo · 01/10/2017 03:29

She hasn't done anything ffs she was being friendly.
If you're a young woman refer to your peer as a woman not a 'girl'

Coconutspongexo · 01/10/2017 03:30

So now she had suddenly been a certain way through the night? Because asking for songs and dancing isn't trampy

DingDongDenny · 01/10/2017 03:34

Seeing as that's what your husband thought she meant, I'm sure it was. After all he was there, not the other posters and I presume she made her intentions clear

And I also would be fuming OP for the same reasons.

PyongyangKipperbang · 01/10/2017 03:47

Well she sounds like a slapper o me. YANBU.

Raggymagz · 01/10/2017 03:48

Are you the girl Dipping Hmm

Raggymagz · 01/10/2017 03:49

You do need to chill OP but I agree with above poster it would annoy me too. It is a tramp thing to do but it's done with now don't lost sleep over it!