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To think she has no self respect. Or respect for others for that matter

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Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:04

DM runs a pub. DH occasionally helps out and does DJing at party's now and again.
He came in tonight and was laughing about a girl who was recently the barmaid at a hotel where we attended a wedding. DH told me about the conversation they had...

Girl: can you play some new chart stuff please?
DH: sure
Girl: I recognise you? You were at a wedding at hotel 2 weeks ago with your wife wasn't you.
DH: ohh yes was you there?
Girl: yes I work there. Your wife is really pretty.
Dh: haha thanks

Girl goes to dance, come back to ask for lots of songs repeatedly through the night.

Towards the end of the night
Girl: do you want to come back and finish the night with me and my friend?

DH declined.

How FUCKING RUDE!!

DH and DM are laughing saying she's just a silly little girl but I'm fuming!
She knows he's married as she complimented me in the night. Why would you offer a married man yourself on a plate. AIBU to think she has no self respect or respect for others especially fellow women.
I hope one day when she's settled down some little tramp throws themselves at her bloody husband! Angry

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DancesWithOtters · 01/10/2017 04:21

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kali110 · 01/10/2017 04:55

Cheeky little bint. I'd be popping over to her workplace at busy Sunday lunch time and loudly but politely informing her that you'd appreciate if she did not solicit threesomes with married customers.
Seriously?

differentnameforthis · 01/10/2017 05:10

I'd be popping over to her workplace at busy Sunday lunch time and loudly but politely informing her that you'd appreciate if she did not solicit threesomes with married customers. Wow, so you would want to humiliate her in front of her colleagues, (and show yourself up) because she asked your husband back to hers?

Best thing op is to see it as a compliment that you have a dh that other want, and that you have a dh who turned down another woman. You can be as smug as you like with all that, no need for anger or revenge!

numbmum83 · 01/10/2017 05:24

For some reason djs tend to get a lot of attention from women . I don't know what it is .

My ex's Dad used to cheat on his girlfriend regularly with girls (that's what they tended to be for him!) They were like flies round shite and he was nothing special.

I've seen it on nights out too, the dj always has hangers on sitting by them , getting them drinks ...

I think your DH needs to get some boundaries perhaps to prevent this. Coz he will always get the girls who are tipsy or drunk trying it on . Drink these days seems to turn many women into slappers who will approach anyone looking for a shag.

elfinpre · 01/10/2017 05:26

I find the whole post rather a steath boast. Oh my husband is so attractive that other women throw themselves at him and be also turns them down because I am so pretty. YABU to post because there's no dilemma here Biscuit

elfinpre · 01/10/2017 05:28

Drink these days seems to turn many women into slappers who will approach anyone looking for a shag

And as for that, it's just pure misogyny and double standards.

TheStoic · 01/10/2017 05:32

You honestly think this is a stealth boast? It all seems pretty mundane.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 01/10/2017 05:49

Yuk. Slappers, tramps, slags. Listen to yourselves. Nasty misogynistic shite.

So she did something that is largely frowned upon (that is if she was looking for mr perfect to fuck her and her friend Hmm), but all this slut shaming is just nasty and immature.

Schmoopy · 01/10/2017 06:12

I think your DH needs to get some boundaries perhaps to prevent this.

What, in anything you have read in this thread, suggests to you that her husband doesn't already have boundaries in place?

He engaged in a polite, but not commital, exchange with someone asking for requests and then turned them down when they suggested more!

It's something that happens in clubs etc all over the country, many times, every weekend. I can't see what all the drama is about, tbh.

DJ gets hit on. Hardly front page news...

PetalMettle · 01/10/2017 06:21

Yanbu to be annoyed but as a Pp said Di's do often get hit on. The important things are 1. He didn't do anything 2. He told you.
So I wouldn't go on about it with him now

WonderLime · 01/10/2017 06:28

Cheeky little bint. I'd be popping over to her workplace at busy Sunday lunch time and loudly but politely informing her that you'd appreciate if she did not solicit threesomes with married customers.

No you wouldn't.

And I would definitely say LTB to anyone who with a partner unhinged enough to behave like that.

MyHusbandIsNotADick · 01/10/2017 06:30

I'm sure she has plenty of self respect, just no respect for you or your marriage.

Of course you are entitled to feel your feelings, but this thread is a bit appalling.

Ilovetolurk · 01/10/2017 06:32

I'd be popping over to her workplace at busy Sunday lunch time and loudly but politely informing her that you'd appreciate if she did not solicit threesomes with married customers.

Unhinged, but effective

YANBU OP by the way

WhatDoIDoAboutThisHmm · 01/10/2017 06:49

Unhinged, but effective

Yeah... until it gets you dumped. Which it should do. I'd dump someone who reacted like that. It's appalling.

Ilovetolurk · 01/10/2017 06:51

I am sure some men out there would like it

It would probably have the desired effect with the recipient

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 01/10/2017 06:52

^"No you wouldn't.

And I would definitely say LTB to anyone who with a partner unhinged enough to behave like that."^

Quite.

Pengggwn · 01/10/2017 06:54

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LineysRun · 01/10/2017 06:54

Burn her, burn her

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 01/10/2017 06:55

Cheeky little bint. I'd be popping over to her workplace at busy Sunday lunch time and loudly but politely informing her that you'd appreciate if she did not solicit threesomes with married customers.

Also, it's all just a bit Eastenders, isn't it? Crass and cringeworthy. Thankfully most normal people don't actually behave like this.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 01/10/2017 06:56

Lineys 😂😂😂

ColossalKalamari · 01/10/2017 07:07

What an absolute non issue to get worked up about. What a load of fucking nasty misogynists on the thread

DeadButDelicious · 01/10/2017 07:07

I can see why you're annoyed, I wouldn't like the idea of anyone hitting on my DH. Not at all. But you aren't certain that's what's happened, it's all assumption. Unless she actually said 'would you like to finish the night with me and my friend by fucking us silly' you don't actually know what the intent was. Whatever was meant by it, your DH declined and returned home to you. Even if that is what she meant, nothing happened.

Also...

*Yuk. Slappers, tramps, slags. Listen to yourselves. Nasty misogynistic shite.

So she did something that is largely frowned upon (that is if she was looking for mr perfect to fuck her and her friend ), but all this slut shaming is just nasty and immature.*

^ That.

user1487175389 · 01/10/2017 07:14

I would pity her. Imagine how shit her life must be if she gets her kicks propositioning married men. How low must her self esteem be? It's like she saw you, thought how gorgeous and happy you were on your big day and thought 'what would make me better is having what she has.'

RJnomore1 · 01/10/2017 07:15

If he djs semi regularly and this is the first time anything like that has happened he must be quite unattractive...

RJnomore1 · 01/10/2017 07:16

Either that or for some reason he's never mentioned it to you before...