To think she has no self respect. Or respect for others for that matter

[Bippitybopityboo]

DM runs a pub. DH occasionally helps out and does DJing at party's now and again.
He came in tonight and was laughing about a girl who was recently the barmaid at a hotel where we attended a wedding. DH told me about the conversation they had...

Girl: can you play some new chart stuff please?
DH: sure
Girl: I recognise you? You were at a wedding at hotel 2 weeks ago with your wife wasn't you.
DH: ohh yes was you there?
Girl: yes I work there. Your wife is really pretty.
Dh: haha thanks

Girl goes to dance, come back to ask for lots of songs repeatedly through the night.

Towards the end of the night
Girl: do you want to come back and finish the night with me and my friend?

DH declined.

How FUCKING RUDE!!

DH and DM are laughing saying she's just a silly little girl but I'm fuming!
She knows he's married as she complimented me in the night. Why would you offer a married man yourself on a plate. AIBU to think she has no self respect or respect for others especially fellow women.
I hope one day when she's settled down some little tramp throws themselves at her bloody husband!

*My husband went to the pub ONCE a month with mates!

That's quite sad that you and your husband feel you can't share or talk about these things.

Did she say she couldn't talk about these things or she doesn't even think to? If I went out and got hit on by the time I am home I would probably have forgot all about it. Not that it has happened in a very long time for me.

My husband is handsome. I am not stupid, I know he gets attention from females. I have been there when it has happened. I would wonder why he felt the need to tell me that someone else fancied him though. I am not stealth boasting by the way. I know you can't say you or your partner are good looking without being accused of that.

OP reacted badly. I am assuming her husband knew she would too. And why on earth would her mother mention it to the OP? Do people do that?

I really can’t imagine even batting more than an eyelid if someone hit on my husband, Never get all mad like some sort of jealous partner.

Whatever she meant,and the op wasn’t there, she only has her husbands word for it, I’m sure the husband would just LOVE to think he was propositioned for a three some by some attractive young woman.

I call bullshit. She invited him for a drink and he knows it ,the threesome thing is his ego talking. Three some my arse.

I really can’t imagine even batting more than an eyelid if someone hit on my husband, Never get all mad like some sort of jealous partner.

So what? Doesn't mean 'your' way is the right or only way.

Just popping back, OP, to repeat your own original post's words, fwiw.

DH and DM are laughing

she's just a silly little girl

on a plate

she has no self respect or respect for others especially fellow women

some little tramp

Grim.

jenna a can assure you after many many years together, there's little DH and I can't share .

But nether of us would see being propositioned as unusual or worthy of mentioning. We know it happens. We know it's not news.

I call bullshit. She invited him for a drink and he knows it ,the threesome thing is his ego talking. Three some my arse.

Totally agree.

Coffee I didn't say he did. You're really not getting my point. 🙄

Thankyou Lineys ill sleep better tonight

This thread is interesting

It's not about being annoyed (fair play !) it's how fast we default to certain language to describe her

I think it's interesting how fast we can say 'slapper , slut , tart , Tramp , skank, slag, trollop'

I think if it was a young guy doing this we wouldn't have such a wide vocabulary to (rightly ) denigrate him

Cheeky little cunt (woman's word there !) , wanker , bastard (actually unisex but the men have it !)

There really isn't a male equivalent is there

OP I think that's been the main issue

Hope you and David are ok

I am quite interested in what is the appropriate way to describe the woman's nature/behaviour based on the fact she offered sex to a man she knew to be married.

it shows a lack of humanity and it shows selfishness and nastiness.

If slag/tramp isn't ok, what is? Just because all women have vaginas doesn't mean there is a sisterhood or that we all stick together. Propositioning another woman's husband quite clearly demonstrates that the sisterhood is fiction.

Only MNHQ used the word 'sisterly'.

Take it up with them.

'If slag/tramp isn't ok, what is?'

Inappropriate behaviour seems to be all that's allowed. I'd go for cheeky cow myself.

@PortiaCastis

We could be friends 😊

I've been known to says similar, and OH tells me he wouldn't mind so much if I ran off with another bloke because he'd soon fetch me back 😂😂

Cheeky Cow is good with me untill the animal rights activists chip in about the poor cows.

I really can’t imagine even batting more than an eyelid if someone hit on my husband, Never get all mad like some sort of jealous partner

I'm not the jealous type at all really. If anyone tries to pick dh up on a night out so be it, I have enough trust in him to not be bothered in most circumstances.

But I've seen dh being quite clearly flirted with/propositioned after he made it clear he was married and it gave me the absolute rage, it really did.

We were queuing at a busy bar and had been pushed apart slightly by the crowd so it didn't look as though we were together, but I was only one person down.

The woman in question was next to him along the bar and chatted and flirted quite obviously...dh was polite but clearly giving 'not interested' signals and responses and I was nothing more than fairly amused.

She then ramped it up and said she was leaving soon to go back to her flat and would he like to go too...the meaning was obvious. He gave an uncomfortable chuckle and said 'thanks but I'm married'. She then laughed and said 'Oh I know, I saw the ring silly! But anyway...' and kept going.

Never seen anyone that brazen before or since and it made me really bloody cross. Someone upthread has objected to using awful words such as 'tramp' but I struggle to think of a better one!

I'd defo call someone a cheeky fucker and laugh and roll my eyes. I'd possibly also go with inappropriate too if it was a very obvious sexual come on and the recipient was clearly uncomfortable. I wouldn't go as far as lack of humanity as i think it wasn't as calculated as that.

Flanders that would piss me off because i hate it when people can't take no for an answer. Persistence pisses me off - i know my own mind the first time i answer. I'd be just as annoyed if the person was offering a drink or some food and kept going on tho.

FlandersRocks

I had something similiar in a bar. It was very quiet, me and DP sitting at the bar...a group of 4 or 5 women sitting in a corner. I go to the toilet and when I come back, one of the group standing beside DP chatting(even though the full length of the bar was empty). When I came back, the woman stood in front of my seat so that I couldn't sit down, she ignored me and carried on telling DP what bar they were going to next and would he like to go with them. Shameless, but according to some posters on here I should have thanked her for finding DP attractive.