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To think she has no self respect. Or respect for others for that matter

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Bippitybopityboo · 01/10/2017 03:04

DM runs a pub. DH occasionally helps out and does DJing at party's now and again.
He came in tonight and was laughing about a girl who was recently the barmaid at a hotel where we attended a wedding. DH told me about the conversation they had...

Girl: can you play some new chart stuff please?
DH: sure
Girl: I recognise you? You were at a wedding at hotel 2 weeks ago with your wife wasn't you.
DH: ohh yes was you there?
Girl: yes I work there. Your wife is really pretty.
Dh: haha thanks

Girl goes to dance, come back to ask for lots of songs repeatedly through the night.

Towards the end of the night
Girl: do you want to come back and finish the night with me and my friend?

DH declined.

How FUCKING RUDE!!

DH and DM are laughing saying she's just a silly little girl but I'm fuming!
She knows he's married as she complimented me in the night. Why would you offer a married man yourself on a plate. AIBU to think she has no self respect or respect for others especially fellow women.
I hope one day when she's settled down some little tramp throws themselves at her bloody husband! Angry

OP posts:
MrsKoala · 01/10/2017 07:16

Fucking hell, i've woken up in the 80s.

DontDrinkDontSmoke · 01/10/2017 07:24

He’s obviously not doing it right if he's a DJ and this is only the first time he’s been hit on.

Yep, definitely the 80s Grin

MrsKoala · 01/10/2017 07:25

Did he play Agadoo Having a GangBang?

shakeyourcaboose · 01/10/2017 07:27

@Limeys I think you forgot about the tarring and feathering her first.... This frothing misogynistic mob will need that of course to feel true retribution against this, what is she again?? slapper, bint, slag fucking awful words you lot.

Ilovetolurk · 01/10/2017 07:28

MrsKoala it was Rita and Sue

Coconutspongexo · 01/10/2017 07:28

No I'm not the girl Hmm but I think the OP is being ridiculous and presumptuous and stealth boasting.

MrsKoala · 01/10/2017 07:28
Grin
strawberrisc · 01/10/2017 07:28

Bloody Beverley Macca. She's like a fly around shit - but she's too fat to be the fly.

KarateKitten · 01/10/2017 07:30

Unless she is under 20, she's not a girl. It would be great if we could stop referring to grown up females as girls just like we don't call men boys all the time.

I'd say this woman was pretty low as a person. Same

BlondeB83 · 01/10/2017 07:30

I reckon she wanted him to go out drinking with them. Chill out.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 01/10/2017 07:30

Beverly Macca!! Fucking brilliant! Grin

pictish · 01/10/2017 07:35

Didn't she mean that he should come along and have a drink/smoke with her at the end? I don't think he was being invited for a threesome with her and friend. DJs often get invited along to house parties and gatherings and the like. That's what it sounds like to me.

Coconutspongexo · 01/10/2017 07:36

That's what I was thinking Pictish
I don't imagine many WOMEN walk up to men and ask them for a threesome out of the blue.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 01/10/2017 07:37

I would tend to agree pictish. Certainly in my experience it's relatively unheard of to randomly approach someone you barely know and request they join you for a threesome.

Birdsgottafly · 01/10/2017 07:42

"How low must her self esteem be? "

Not low at all, we don't know if she was offering a threesome, anyway.

Why do we never talk about men's self esteem when they make the first move for sex?

Women don't have to be the gatekeepers of sex. I agree that you don't shag married men, though. If you do, then it means that's what you are into, not that you've no self respect.

"Silly little girl", you'd have to have self esteem issues if you refers to other Women in that way, especially at the MILs age.

OP what was said. When I used to go out with one friend in particular, we'd always end up all in one room drinking, or back at someone's house, "to finish the night off".

And sending a drink over for the DJ, has no strings attached. A good DJ makes your night. I know that they get a lot of attention and I don't see the attraction, but don't interpret any attention as an offer for sex.

pictish · 01/10/2017 07:44

"Drink these days seems to turn many women into slappers who will approach anyone looking for a shag."

Wow...what an absolute load of meaningless shit with no basis in reality.

MyBreadIsEggy · 01/10/2017 07:47

To be honest, I would forget about the fact that a tipsy young woman hit on your DH, and focus on the fact that DH obviously is 100% committed to you and turned her down. I know a few men who wouldn't have turned her down regardless of the fact they are married.

Crunchymum · 01/10/2017 07:47

My DP is a tradesmen and has been propositioned a few times over the years (most recently by a woman who asked if he wanted to stay on after for dinner and to 'see where the night went') this woman did know about me as I booked the job in for him and had spoken to her as his OH a few times but he of course just says no thanks.

Then it's done.

I was a bit taken aback. Usually his clients won't know his relationship status but he had actually taken time off this job for our scan so this client knew we had a baby on the way and that we have other kids Shock

It's done, My DP said no thanks and the job finished so he won't see her again.

Rheged · 01/10/2017 07:49

You husband is a DJ. He’s going to get propositioned occasionally . It’s an occupational hazard.

He was polite but not encouraging with the requests and firmly turned her down when she suggested more. The only thing that was unwise in retrospect was sharing it with you. Given the way you’ve reacted, I don’t imagine he will again.

elevenclips · 01/10/2017 07:52

Op a colleague of my dh came knocking at his hotel room door (work trip) and said to him late at night "do you want to stay the night in my hotel room I won't tell eleven and nobody will ever find out"
It was one week before our wedding and his whole office knew we were getting married!

It is absolutely not funny and not a bit of fun. It's actually an offer to wreck a few people's lives. She's a nasty piece of work.

Livingdiisgracefully · 01/10/2017 07:53

I agree with pps: bint, slapper and slag are words we really should be removing from our vocabularies in my view as they really feed into a misogynistic view of women. I've regularly pulled guys up on a mainly male website I post on for using them but really didn't think mn would pile in with these awful words. I've been approached by married guys loads in my youth but we just don't have words for men that are equivalent.

By all means say you're not happy about your dh being approached like that but I really think it's fairly common, but not thoughtful or fair, among people of both genders to try their luck.

MyHusbandIsNotADick · 01/10/2017 07:55

If he djs semi regularly and this is the first time anything like that has happened he must be quite unattractive...

I imagine it happens all.the.time. The difference is that op dm witnessed it this time so he had to tell op and 'laugh it off'.

Ellapaella · 01/10/2017 07:56

Personally I think he's a bit of an idiot for telling you - it was bound to upset you, I can't imagine he wouldn't realise that was insensitive.

TheStoic · 01/10/2017 07:57

Just off on a tangent, and no disrespect to the OP...but why are DJs hit on so often?

I actually can't think of many less sexy professions.

BanyanTree · 01/10/2017 07:57

People like her need calling out on their behaviour. I'd go looking for her and tell her what I think in front of everyone. I just wouldn't let her get away with it.