School photographer telling my daughter to 'look smart' for her photo and making her do her tie up

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Eldest DD is in Y7 and has come home this evening with the proofs from her school photos were were taken in the first week of term. I've only just got in from work and seen them and tbh a pissed off that they don't represent how she looks for school and she's since told me that the photographer made her do her top button up and 'look smart' for her photo.

I totally believe DD on this as she hates having her top button done up - she doesn't have her tie very loose but enough to be comfortable, and has done ever since day 1 of primary school. None of her teachers have commented on it, she's never worn it done up for any of her previous school photos, and was furious at having been told to do it!

Is this normal or AIBU to think it a bit crap of them? Surely it's up to the child how they look for their photo, and if it's 'smart' enough for the school then the photographer should go with that?

For my professional photos at work (financial services not modelling!) the photographer got pissed off at me and my wispy bits of hair - I'd already pinned back most of it and he kept fussing and in the end photoshopped my hair!! It's looks stupid. I look much nicer with my actual hair.

I can't take this seriously. Surly you have a job? Hobby? Other Holstein? How has this disturbed you so much?

Are you genuinely trying to say that by tweeking her tie and doing a button up your daughters appearance changed so much that it didn't represent her?!

My stupid phone!
*surely
*children

Wish my kids school told them to smarten up before photos! I'm fed up of school photos where their hair is all over the place, they have food/paint down themselves and their clothes are all skew whiff.

It was one photo, once. Presumably your DD was free to undo her button and tie again afterwards and wasn't overly upset by this? I wouldn't overthink this tbh.

Like 'Inception' for unsatisfactory school photos

It's normal.

If balsamic had a daughter with a male pe teacher, and daughter didn't bother either uniform and got told off, balsamic would be in the head teachers office like a shot to complain that a strange man told her daughter what to wear

In the DC's primary school, y3 and up are expected to have top buttons done up and ties on, nursery to y2 are expected to have top buttons undone and no tie. Anyone who doesn't won't get star of the week. I can't believe a secondary school is so lenient!

So OP you demand your human right to be as slovenly as you choose both at school and in photos.
I pity the teachers, your neighbours and anyone else you come into contact with!

Have you lot really not got anything better to do than harangue a fellow Mumsnetter?

Is it really the case that we can't come on here for a bit of a rant after a hard day without being attacked repeatedly?

And apart from that, can you see the irony? You've reacted far worse than the OP and you don't even know the half of it!

'And apart from that, can you see the irony? You've reacted far worse than the OP and you don't even know the half of it!'

Yes what a load of frothy overreactions to a fairly innocuous op .

I'm sorry you've had a bad day OP but I'm utterly amazed at this thread!

I'd be embarrassed if a photographer had to tell my DS to do his top button up for the photographer. Of course your DD should look smart for the photo. Unbelievable

And apart from that, can you see the irony? You've reacted far worse than the OP and you don't even know the half of it!

Especially as the OP only asked Is this normal or AIBU to think it a bit crap of them?

Yet she'd had replies such as So OP you demand your human right to be as slovenly as you choose both at school and in photos.

I mean, how the fuck do you go from the OP's question to that?

This site is going downhill faster than Eddie the eagle ffs.

Poor Eddie wasn't all that fast, to be honest.

Looking back at some of my photos I wished a few of the photographers had been like this. Most of them are my own fault with poor haircuts though. One year I went for the "Princess Diana" cut and came out looking like one of the blokes from Bucks Fizz.

There's a hilarious photo of DS1 by a different photographer to the one they usually get at school. God knows what happened but DS1's nose is up in the air and he's looking down into the camera. He looks like something out of Game of Thrones. Of course, I bought many copies and put them everywhere!

"This site is going downhill faster than Eddie the Eagle"

LOL-ing my head off 😂

I work a 60 hour week in A&E but still have the energy to be scandalised and furious about a crappy expensive optional to buy school photo.

Take your own with button undone and print it off in a Asda from 5p.

YABU

Absolutely. Batshit.