School photographer telling my daughter to 'look smart' for her photo and making her do her tie up

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Eldest DD is in Y7 and has come home this evening with the proofs from her school photos were were taken in the first week of term. I've only just got in from work and seen them and tbh a pissed off that they don't represent how she looks for school and she's since told me that the photographer made her do her top button up and 'look smart' for her photo.

I totally believe DD on this as she hates having her top button done up - she doesn't have her tie very loose but enough to be comfortable, and has done ever since day 1 of primary school. None of her teachers have commented on it, she's never worn it done up for any of her previous school photos, and was furious at having been told to do it!

Is this normal or AIBU to think it a bit crap of them? Surely it's up to the child how they look for their photo, and if it's 'smart' enough for the school then the photographer should go with that?

this is a wind up surely

Hardly worth getting knickers in a knot over.

Got DS2's school photo taster through and he looks like a junior demon accountant. He'll be doing some weird shit with someone's spreadsheet somewhere in another dimension.

One poster had a DD

Are you for real??

Suggest you focus on the really important stuff.

I'm really starting to wonder about some people. Why would this even register on your radar to be annoyed? Don't we all try smarten the kids up for the photos?

That is very much the norm. Most school would tell them to dress themselves properly even when they weren't having photographs taken.

I honestly think that AnyFucker is my spirit animal.

For christ's sake. Is this for real?

OMG, the photographer made DD do her top button up and she never has it done up! AIBU to think this is child abuse?!!!111!?

As a photographer I'd get moaned about if the kids were scruffy It could cost me the contract.

Taling photographs of over 500 kids in one day and keep every parent happy isn't easy.

I suggest you take your own photos in future .

What is a spirit animal ?

FFS, I go round and threaten my students that if they don't look smart I'll never speak to them again. I do it because I know how expensive photos are and I know how bloody glad they'll be in years to come that they don't look like they've just been dragged through a hedge backwards.

You sound very PFB.

Have you tried ringing 101, OP?

I can't decide if it must be wonderful to have only this to worry about....
Or the op needs a hobby

So I assume after your DD got her photo taken she loosened her tie again? All in all it probably only took a few minutes getting her photo taken?

I seriously hope you did not pander to her complaints.

OMG I'd be fummin Hun. Tell the local newspaper, sad faces all around . I mean they can't expect you to pay for your daughter looking smart in her photos, right? Her buttons, her rules innit.

Normal. YABU.

You're seriously bothered about that?

Defo grounds for social services, childline, police etc
How very dare the photographer try to do a good, professional job?

It sounds a bit slovenly. The tie at least should be done up properly.

She's lucky she's got away with not wearing her uniform properly for so long.

Top button undone & tie loose-what's the point in that?

She should wear the uniform properly!

YABVVU.

Most school photographers are shite. No amount of top-buttoning-up will undo that. Tis a painful rite of passage.