babysitter texting DH

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I think I am being a bit silly but has been in my mind a couple of days so I thought I would ask other peoples opinion.

We have a lovely babysitter who occasionally comes and looks after my DD (18months) for a couple of hours.

The other week she asked for my DH's number so that she could send him pictures of our DD. I know she doesnt fancy him (she is 16 he is 35, she has a bf etc etc) and I know he doesn't fancy her etc etc.. so I am not sure if it is reasonable of me to find it odd they occasionally message one another?

The messages are always innocent and usually asking after our DD. Sometimes asking him to go on her instagram as she has posted a picture of our DD on there.

Is this normal? Do any of your babysitters do this? Am I feeling off about it because deep down I must be an insecure wreck?

Note sure if it is relevant but before getting his number the babysitter used to communicate with me about when looking after our DD as I was the one who would know the dates and times etc.. but haven't heard from her since she now messages DH.

I really don't know - sorry, that's no help at all

That's a bit weird! Also - why is she putting pics of your child on Instagram?

I'd be more concerned that your teenage babysitter is posting pics of your baby on her instagram. That's crossing a weird line in my book...

It may be 100% inncocent, but I think it's a bit weird. Say that you'll sort the details out from now and you text her not him.

Seems odd. If she were sending messages to you both the same amount of times then perhaps her intentions are innocent.

I think it's weird, why did she stop communicating with you? She sounds a bit too interested in your DH.

She should know that you never put someone else's child on social media without permission.

Yes it is a bit weird when it is you who knows the dates.

YY to posting pictures of your DC.

Yes, I'd find it a bit odd tbh, especially as she used to message you. I'm not saying anything is going on but have you noticed any change in your DH?

Just because their is an age difference it does not mean she is not interested in him.

It would be a good idea for your DH to never to reply to her.

I wouldn't like that. It may be innocent but it's still a bit odd.
Your DH should of just made an excuse as to why she couldn't have his number.

Maybe she feels more comfortable talking to your husband than to you?

Do you not have a phone?

Her Instagram?

That's ok with you??

Very weird. Why would your DH engage with her?
Odd.

I'm sorry but she's clearly interested in your husband. Nineteen years is nothing - I was in love with one of my teachers at 18, he was 44.

Are you okay with her posting photos of your child on Instagram?!

Yeah don't discount her fancying him! I used to lust after a dad I babysat for at 15, he was probably late 40's.

Not normal.

Why isn't she messaging you if she already had your number?

Late 30's not 40's! Bloody fat fingers 😂

She is very much crossing the line and I don't believe she's "not interested" in your husband for one second. She is clearly fishing for his attention. And your husband needs to stop this nonsense immediately. He is CRAZY to be texting a 16yo girl. It is totally inappropriate of him.

Oh also, she shouldn't be posting photos of your baby on the internet.

I would not like her posting images of my child online. Also, whilst I would be happy with a sitter having both parental contacts ICE, I'd be puzzled as to why she has so obviously changed which one of you she talks to- have you noticed a change in relations between this girl and yourself? Is she trying to avoid you WRT to insta? If her number is still on your phone, I'd message her, saying you haven't heard from her in awhile, remind her that as babys mum you want open communication, and whilst you know the baby is adorable- remove her from insta if she wants to keep her job.

Quite honestly I'd change babysitter.

That's deeply inappropriate behaviour.

I did a lot of babysitting as a teenager and a student, I never once felt the need to contact a parent to ask after their child.

She shouldn't be texting him at all unless it's a response to a text from him requesting a babysit or needing to confirm times.

She also shouldn't be posting your child on her instagram.

I'd have serious concerns regarding her boundaries. I'd also be discussing with my husband that he is potentially putting himself in a vulnerable situation.

I'd find another babysitter and I'd block her from all our phones and social media.

All very odd. Suggest setting up a whatsapp group which all 3 of you are in so she can send photos directly and not in her Instagram.

Ok so have a look at her instagram. Around the times when she wanted DH to look at it, did there also happen to be selfies - the type that a 16 year old would think very seductive - as well as baby pictures?