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Original poster

To breathalyse DP before he drives tomorrow?

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Ilovecoleslaw · 10/09/2017 02:28

DP gone out for the night with the 'lads', but due to drive at 9-10 tomorrow as planned to go see an old mate and get out of my hair whilst i do my dissertation.

He has form for wanting to drive the morning after a heavy session and sometimes he gets a bit angry/annoyed if i dare suggest the alcohol may still be in his system even though he feels fine.
I have a pack of the france breathalysers that you need to carry in your car when over there, and don't think he can argue with that!
My judgement may be clouded by annoyance as we had planned to spend the night together and he's also just text asking for a lift home at 3, which most certainly won't be happening Hmm
I'm also not entirely sure he'll be going now, as he'll have a stinking hangover and he normally sleeps for the majority of the day after!
But wibu if i were to get him to do the breathalyser?

OP posts:
MarmaladeIsMyJam · 10/09/2017 02:30

Well he will obviously be over the limit if he's not even home yet and you want him out by 9/10. Is he driving the children somewhere?

silverbell64 · 10/09/2017 02:32

Depends, would you normally breathalise him? Or are you wanting to do this out of anger?

silverbell64 · 10/09/2017 02:33

Dont think kids are involved here, think the OP is cross

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Ilovecoleslaw · 10/09/2017 02:34

We don't have children.

And no not all, not angry at him jist slight annoyance.

I only just found the tests from a while back that I forget we had. If i had found them earlier, i probably would have wanted him to do one on the previous occasions.

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silverbell64 · 10/09/2017 02:35

Did he tell you a time he should be coming home? I personally hate this if I'm out and having a good time. I can come home when I want.

Original poster
Ilovecoleslaw · 10/09/2017 02:35

And i wouldn't say I wanted him out, I'm happy to go to the library if he wants to stay home Grin

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Ilovecoleslaw · 10/09/2017 02:36

No? Hmm He can come home when he wants, he's a grown adultGrin
My issue here is not what time he comes home, it's with him possibly drink driving

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silverbell64 · 10/09/2017 02:37

Do you like to go out with your friends and get home when you want? or does he stipulate when you should come home?

MarmaladeIsMyJam · 10/09/2017 02:38

Well I'm assuming he will have a hangover then and won't be going anywhere Grin

silverbell64 · 10/09/2017 02:38

I think you're pretty pissed off with him. I personally wouldn't make it an issue when he came home and what time he decided to drive in the morning.

Seren85 · 10/09/2017 02:39

God if I were him I'm want to take the test before driving. I can't imagine the guilt of being in an accident and then discovering I was over the limit the day after. Why he does he get annoyed of you ask him not to drive the morning after? Does he not understand how the science of the metabolism of alcohol works? Why the police do loads of random tests at 7.30am around Christmas party season?

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Ilovecoleslaw · 10/09/2017 02:41

I'm not pretty pissed off with him at all, and if you'll read the thread, i don't care what time he comes home Grin
But i am concernced about him possibly drink driving. I don't think i could forgive myself if something happened and I knew he was over the limit

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silverbell64 · 10/09/2017 02:41

Only on mumsnet. The OP is very pissed off that he went out and is enjoying himself.

silverbell64 · 10/09/2017 02:42

really? why would you care so much?

silverbell64 · 10/09/2017 02:44

you wouldn't forgive yourself? a grown man going out and maybe getting up at 9 and getting the car. controlling behaviour much?

Original poster
Ilovecoleslaw · 10/09/2017 02:44

Silverball64 - because he's my partner, i love him very much and I wouldn't want to see him injured/killed in a car accident or injure/kill another person! Confused

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feckoffpeppapig · 10/09/2017 02:46

silverbell64 Are you reading the thread? SHE DOES NOT GIVE A FUCK what time he's home but the fact he's gonna be over the limit.....geez.

quercusarbor · 10/09/2017 02:47

He might still be over the limit, drinking until the early hours then driving at 9am. Have you asked him to use one of the tests before? What happened then?

feckoffpeppapig · 10/09/2017 02:47

Controlling behaviour? WTF

quercusarbor · 10/09/2017 02:49

Sorry, as you're well aware. I'm stating the obvious there. Yes, I would ask him to. And if personally in the same situation, and no tests to hand, I wouldn't drive.

quercusarbor · 10/09/2017 02:51

Silverball, I don't mean to be rude but have you read the thread? It's about possibly still having alcohol in his system and not being safe to drive.

feckoffpeppapig · 10/09/2017 02:51

Hes gonna be over the limit OP and he knows it. Im presuming you want him to test to make him believe it?

He will have to live with the consequences.....

silverbell64 · 10/09/2017 02:53

Not sure Id want my partner telling me I need a breath test after a night out due to them being so concerned but whatever.

Topseyt · 10/09/2017 02:54

Some dubious responses here.

Of course he will still have significant alcohol in his bloodstream at 9 or 10 in the morning after getting home around now. You aren't being at all unreasonable.

Hide the car keys and pretend you know nothing of where they are, just in case he does decide to get up and go.

Jgmahe · 10/09/2017 02:55

you wouldn't forgive yourself? a grown man going out and maybe getting up at 9 and getting the car. controlling behaviour much?
Erm I think most people would be bothered by their partner potentially drink driving Hmm

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