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To breathalyse DP before he drives tomorrow?

203 replies

Ilovecoleslaw · 10/09/2017 02:28

DP gone out for the night with the 'lads', but due to drive at 9-10 tomorrow as planned to go see an old mate and get out of my hair whilst i do my dissertation.

He has form for wanting to drive the morning after a heavy session and sometimes he gets a bit angry/annoyed if i dare suggest the alcohol may still be in his system even though he feels fine.
I have a pack of the france breathalysers that you need to carry in your car when over there, and don't think he can argue with that!
My judgement may be clouded by annoyance as we had planned to spend the night together and he's also just text asking for a lift home at 3, which most certainly won't be happening Hmm
I'm also not entirely sure he'll be going now, as he'll have a stinking hangover and he normally sleeps for the majority of the day after!
But wibu if i were to get him to do the breathalyser?

OP posts:
orlantina · 10/09/2017 13:37

I trust my own judgment though

It's a good thing alcohol doesn't impair judgement then, isn't it Hmm

Toblernone · 10/09/2017 13:37

So just because you trust your own judgement everyone else has to? How controlling! No-one bar police can ask for proof you're not drunk if they think you are AND it massively involves/affects them?

Finalmente · 10/09/2017 13:38

I've rarely read such nonsense!

orlantina · 10/09/2017 13:38

Well in that case, I'd sign myself into a care home

Reverse it - if your partner / child was in a similar situation and you were concerned they were over the limit but they said they were fine - WWYD?

orlantina · 10/09/2017 13:39

I've rarely read such nonsense

Sounds like it's selfish, arrogant people like you who just make this world a crappier place to live in.

Finalmente · 10/09/2017 13:41

Orlantina. Trust me. I know better than you. Get yourself off the internet now. You're making no sense.

Toblernone. I trust you acknowledge my superior capability to judge whether or not you should be allowed on the internet. I, in my superior intellect, decree you NOT FIT to be posting online.

Toblernone · 10/09/2017 13:41

Do you also go spare at the checkout if ID'd for booze Finalmente?

Toblernone · 10/09/2017 13:42

When it involves/affects you to a large degree Finalmente I'll be happy to oblige actually, so remind me, how does me being online have life altering risks to you again?

Pumperthepumper · 10/09/2017 13:44

Finalmente so you would want your partner to let you get into a car while still over the limit, say nothing, then phone the police after you've left?

orlantina · 10/09/2017 13:44

finalmente

Well you're an interesting poster, aren't you Hmm

StickThatInYourPipe · 10/09/2017 13:44

Just wanted to add I always use the rule of 12 hours bottle to throttle.

Being late is better than being dead

Izzabellasasperella · 10/09/2017 13:45

Finalmente I don't think anyone reading your posts would 'trust you'.

Finalmente · 10/09/2017 13:46

It's like walking into a secondary school debate where nothing has any relevance! I hope none of you plan on driving today you naughty people you.

orlantina · 10/09/2017 13:46

I hope none of you plan on driving today you naughty people you

Can you expand on that?

Finalmente · 10/09/2017 13:48

I've forgotten what this discussion is about, the personal abuse is so enthralling....

Where were we?

Finalmente · 10/09/2017 13:49

The only thing expandable here are my knickers.

Finalmente · 10/09/2017 13:50

So. Back to the discussion.

To breathalyse your husband or not.

Toblernone · 10/09/2017 13:51

I'm just about to start the ignition actually, got no licence (medical reasons, not disqualified ;) ), no insurance, going to steer with my knees so I can hold the vino in one hand and mumsnet with the other. It's not even my car while we're on the subject. But I've decided it's fine so you wouldn't question it would you Finalmente? My DH says it's a terrible idea, controlling arse isn't he! I promise I'm a proper big girl so I can be trusted. Let's hope I don't get into any scrapes before the police get called hey Grin

Finalmente · 10/09/2017 13:53

All men should be breathalysed as a matter of course because they are completely incapable of making a correct decision.
I however should not be breathalysed by a man, as he is guaranteed to have made a uniquely devastating decision for himself.

Finalmente · 10/09/2017 13:54

If you hang out with people who are incapable of taking adult decisions, I suggest you have been teaching pre-school for too long.

Toblernone · 10/09/2017 13:55

I think it'd be illuminating if we were all breathalysed before using MN Smile

Finalmente · 10/09/2017 14:01

You reckon you'd fail Toblernone?

Toblernone · 10/09/2017 14:02

I'm game to find out if you are?

FallingOrbit · 10/09/2017 14:02

I think it'd be illuminating if we were all breathalysed before using MN

Yeah! And anyone found to be any less than four times the drink drive limit should have their account suspended until they consume enough alcohol to pass the thing!

Izzabellasasperella · 10/09/2017 14:46

Surely Finalmente is winding us up? If not then I despair. How could you fail to step in and stop someone doing something potentially dangerous to themselves or other people . I don't see it as policing I see it as caring which surely as a society we should all WANT to do.