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Mothers ott reaction to Child going to school...get a grip

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Whatislove233 · 05/09/2017 10:04

All over Facebook mothers ott reactions to children going to school..
The one that got my goat was....
"I stand and watch you walk away with tears in my eyes,the girl I once knew has gone,you will never be fully mine again"
The child is going into year 2 not sent to a Japanese concentration camp...

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liz70 · 05/09/2017 13:37

Not at all, coddi, but if thinking that makes you feel better, by all means crack on. Smile

Oblomov17 · 05/09/2017 13:38

Seems a lot of these days. Can't stand it myself.

Witsender · 05/09/2017 13:40

Tbh, I have a right mixture on my timeline. The majority jumping for joy. 😂 On Facebook is all well and good, I've seen a few discussing it in front of their kids which makes me a little sad, only cause mine would be gutted if they thought I was desperate to be shot of them.

We home ed so no change here bar everywhere we normally go gets a bit quieter. A wee bit of me is jealous though, the only downside of home ed for me is the lack of headspace so I would certainly celebrate school for a bit of that!

flownthecoopkiwi · 05/09/2017 13:40

Is it a SAHM thing? Not used to being away from them?

MrsJayy · 05/09/2017 13:43

Nobody actually is mocking parents what posters are eye rolling at is over emotional drivel about doing a usual normal thing.weeping and wailing online with ott poems about a child never being mine again is beyond ridiculous

liz70 · 05/09/2017 13:44

"It's what they are meant to do - go off to school/college/work/get married."

Exactly. I did feel slightly wistful at the thought of my tiny baby girl now being 18 and leaving home for uni (how the fuck did that happen so quickly?) , but she's so mature and ready for independence, and she's studied and worked so hard to get her place, so I'm happy and proud for her, and besides, it's not about me. Plus she's only an hour away, and we can still keep in touch on Messenger and by phone. Smile

Lovingmybear2 · 05/09/2017 13:45

laurie

Yep sounds familiar! Unfortunately our last dd of all has decided to go to uni and live at home

Why God why! Grin

FuzzyCustard · 05/09/2017 14:01

Actually I might post a pic of my DD2 going back to school with a schmalzty poem and lots of hearts and a "mummy loves you sooo much I know you'll do really really well".

Does it matter that she's a teacher?

MrGrumpy01 · 05/09/2017 14:05

coddi I don't think I did judge at all. My next paragraph was about sitting in my car after having got her on the bus and bursting in tears. So not sure how you got judgment from that.

farfarawayfromhome · 05/09/2017 14:12

mine starts tomorrow and i'm dreading it.

i live overseas and they start young (she's still 3!) and they go 7.30-12.30.

the super early start is grim and the pick up is a complete nightmare for the working parent.

Ttbb · 05/09/2017 14:14

I get it. I still feel like I have lost younger versions of my children. They change so quickly. But if anything shouldn't you be happy for them (and maybe for yourself a tiny bit too). They're growing up and becoming gnome independent. It's surely a good thing.

liz70 · 05/09/2017 14:21

"gnome independent."

Is that like Noddy telling Big Ears to stop fussing and fretting all the time?

coddiwomple · 05/09/2017 14:55

I wasn't judging you MrGrumpy01, more referring to the title and the whole subject of this thread, which is not about the good points of your kids going to school, but the self-complacent tone of the OP who believes she is superior because she is judging her "friends" on Facebook.

We all have an opinion about things, but bitching about your "friends" on an anonymous forum because you expect others to jump and say that "oh you are so right and clever hun", is a bit pathetic. It's funny to read, but still pathetic.

MyOtherNameIsAFordFiesta · 05/09/2017 15:07

I seem to have a barrage of friends who've received a "Mummy's Pack" on the first day of nursery/preschool. These contain some variation of the following: tea/coffee/hot choc sachet, chocolate bar, a tissue, and a schmaltzy poem about how the nursery will take good care of their most precious child. One even contained a cotton wool ball for "Mummy" to hold during the day to remind her of the softness of her child's hand.

All of these have been posted to Facebook (with a close up of the poem) with hashtags like #sweetbaby #sobbing #lovemybabys and have been met with a storm of slightly odd comments like "Wow, that's a wonderful pressie", "that must be a really good nursery, so thoughtful", "oh my gosh that must have made you cry all morning".

As others have said, there's nothing at all wrong with feeling emotional or sad at the passing of time, but turning it into schmaltz for Facebook is just attention seeking.

Personally I'm sad to see summer ending, as we've had lots of fun, and will miss the DCs while they're out of the house, but I'm happy that they're growing up and looking ahead to the next stage.

angelnix · 05/09/2017 15:09

My eldest has started secondary this week. She had her friends knocked for her on the first day to walk down together, and then I spot the helicopter mum who insists on walking them (and her PFB) down. I've just seen the same mum lurking by the playing field waiting for her child to reappear to walk home!

BeautifulLiar · 05/09/2017 15:27

Nah, I'm rather looking forward to it. Feel like I've earned it actually! I've had four DC off for seven weeks, with no help from their dad (he hasn't seen them since June actually...) AND child no 3 will be starting reception. So I'll just have an 18 month old at home, and it'll seem like a dream!

MrsJayy · 05/09/2017 15:30

Oh my Cousins grandchilds mum got a mums survival kit when they started the other week Hmm

MrsJayy · 05/09/2017 15:37

Started nursery* When mine went it was Wave to mummy from the key worker bye mummy and off you skipped.

mummmy2017 · 05/09/2017 15:43

I cried when mine left Primary, but only as it was such a FAB school, and would miss all the teachers.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 05/09/2017 15:55

My DD has had a pretty full holiday so I think she's ready to go back. I'll cry a little come next summer when she finishes primary. No twee fb shit though.

grannytomine · 05/09/2017 15:57

Actually I might post a pic of my DD2 going back to school with a schmalzty poem and lots of hearts and a "mummy loves you sooo much I know you'll do really really well"

Does it matter that she's a teacher?

Oh it could be a thing, I'd do it but I think she might kill me. No sense of humour on the first day of term.

HollyBuckets · 05/09/2017 16:06

It's this I find really disturbing:

you will never be fully mine again

No-one owns their child. Ever. Possessive and narcissistic. Poor child Confused

tootiredtothinkofawittyname · 05/09/2017 16:09

I thought I'd be one of those mothers today when DS started school, instead I've been enjoying a little bit of free time and counting down until DD starts nursery in January. freeeeeedom!

tootiredtothinkofawittyname · 05/09/2017 16:12

flownthecoopkiwi I don't think it's just a SAHM thing, I'm looking forwward to getting the house to myself & now having to share my biscuits.

WhosTakingDeHorseToFrance · 05/09/2017 16:15

Need I say more.
I'm obviously heartless 4 year olds first day tapdanced out of the playground..