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Mothers ott reaction to Child going to school...get a grip

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Whatislove233 · 05/09/2017 10:04

All over Facebook mothers ott reactions to children going to school..
The one that got my goat was....
"I stand and watch you walk away with tears in my eyes,the girl I once knew has gone,you will never be fully mine again"
The child is going into year 2 not sent to a Japanese concentration camp...

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coddiwomple · 05/09/2017 12:43

Showing you they all love their cherubs sooooo much more than yow.

Twats.

Or it's just about themselves, and you take it personnally. Why is that do you think? Do you feel inadequate?

Whattodofirst · 05/09/2017 12:43

That poem does seem a bit over the top but, as a bereaved mum, I cherish every single second I have with my living children and do feel it's equally sad that people are so excited to be rid of their chdren, all the talk of bolting doors and popping champagne saddens me, I would hate someone to be that happy to see the back of me and think my daughters would be understandably upset if they thought I was celebrating to be "rid" of them. As with anything there's a middle ground... My daughter goes back tomorrow and I will be sad to leave her in the morning as I have loved our time together this summer, so no tears and poems but no celebratory dancing either, for me.

CruCru · 05/09/2017 12:43

My son goes back tomorrow. We've had a great seven weeks but I think he misses his schoolfriends and his routine.

CruCru · 05/09/2017 12:44

Ah fair enough Whattodofirst.

Spikeyball · 05/09/2017 12:44

Most I know are doing the happy dance and given that some have being 20 hr days since the child only sleeps for 4 hrs, I don't blame them.

Fauxgina · 05/09/2017 12:45

I cried about my child starting school.

Funnily enough the other people I know who are struggling are also those who have suffered grief.

I think it's pretty fucking unkind to sit here sneering about other Mums because most of you are so cool and glad for the break after summer. Hmm

For some parents milestones are hard, and I don't think it's funny to laugh at those Mums who, like me, are just trying their best.

YorkieButtons · 05/09/2017 12:46

I love my kids as much as any parent but fuck me I couldn't wait to take dd back to school yesterday ( year 2 ) no tears from me- just a spring in my step along with 200 odd other parents.

The new reception parents had a meeting today as they start tomorrow and I saw 2 women crying, I can only imagine the infants playground tomorrowGrin

Ds goes in year 10 tomorrow and I seriously cannot wait, he is eating me out of house and home and is fed up now.

So yeah I sound like the worst mum ever don't I? But I'm honest and I'm sure I will look forward to seeing them after school.

Partypolitics99 · 05/09/2017 12:46

Could not wait for my son to start school he was so ready and beginning to be hard work

littlebird7 · 05/09/2017 12:46

Broadcasting ( grand standing ) is sickening. Why do people think anyone cares???
That said I always drop off my dc and come back to a silent house, see their toys scattered around and sincerely have the biggest wrench that another year off their childhood has passed, I would be lying if I didn't feel anything. As the years go by I feel it more strongly not less

ParadiseCity · 05/09/2017 12:48

I like the back to school posts even if they are cringey, it's like reading Ye Olde Parish Newsletter. I love mundane local shite. Of course I wouldn't post it myself!!

There was one that put a lump in my throat and that's a child who has had a donor organ. The whole community has followed her and we didn't know last year if there would be a this year. So BIG PLUG please sign up for the donor register and talk to your family about your wishes. Flowers

PickAChew · 05/09/2017 12:48

I'm sick of the sight of mine because they both have SN and spend all their time sniping at each other and winding each other up and ds2 spirals into more and more obsessive, ritualistic behaviours without the stimulation of school. Getting them out of the house cuts down on all that but we had to cut far too many days out short towards the end of the holidays as ds2 has been more restless and difficult to keep safe.

I wanted children, yes, but I certainly didn't tick the box for disabled ones on the order form and there is only so much of me to go round.

Lovingmybear2 · 05/09/2017 12:48

Oh stuff that crap I always post a piss take.

No more school for us now though dds are off to uni! Last of the tribe.

I weep with genuine fucking delight!

Dh and I are planning a good out of term time cheap holiday and may even go to a child free hotel so not even pesters by hearing the little buggers

Bring on the good times Grin

formerbabe · 05/09/2017 12:49

I actually enjoy spending time with my kids. Why do you bother having children in the first place if it's such an ordeal to be with them

I enjoy spending time with my DC. I am looking forward to them going back to school though. I haven't been able to go to the gym for 7 weeks or even pop to the shops by myself! It's not an ordeal being with my children but like most people, every now and then I just need a little bit of time to myself even if it's just to do the housework or the weekly shop without being pestered to buy toys and sweets!

ParadiseCity · 05/09/2017 12:49

Although I do struggle with the people saying 'finally some well earned time to myself' whilst I fuck off to work get again like almost every other week day of the year.

littlebird7 · 05/09/2017 12:51

Also miss the lovely summer days. Singing in the car, cuddling in bed in the mornings, picnics and sunny days with them. I will miss it all. I am pretty much counting down the days to October. I know I am going to cause some raised eyebrows, but can't wait to the next holiday

littlebird7 · 05/09/2017 12:54

Pickschew
That is hard - really really hard. There can't be anyone who wouldn't desperately need a break in those circumstances.

BitchQueen90 · 05/09/2017 12:55

I enjoy spending time with my DS but today was his first day at school and I am looking forward to a routine. I'm a single parent and I was previously working nights so having him every day over the 6 weeks holidays trying to find things to do when I was shattered from work was just exhausting. I start a new daytime job next week so I will appreciate the time I do have with him in the evenings and weekends so much more then. I'll have more energy and probably more fun!

I'm not a crier, didn't cry when I waved off DS this morning but I was happy and sad in equal measure.

fortunacookie · 05/09/2017 12:56

Two words Attention SeekingHmm

That should be name for FB cos that's all it's about ...oh how I love the unfriend button !

treaclesoda · 05/09/2017 12:56

Because no matter how private you think your Facebook settings are, they're not. Anything you post on Facebook or other websites is public. Which means personal, identifying information about children is being put out there without their consent. Some people are clearly fine with that, but I'm not.

It's no different to the local newspaper taking photos of the kids. When I started school there was a photo of me in my local newspaper and it said something like 'Starting Random Town Primary School today was Treacle Soda, here she is pictured with her P1 teacher, Mrs Johnston', and a picture of me looking terrified. No one asked my parents consent, and they would have thought it odd if they did. It's 40 years ago and that photo still pops up in the newspaper from time to time in articles called things like 'Memory Lane' and on their website. In which case everyone shares it on Facebook and has a good natured laugh at the state of me. Nothing changes, it is just the method of delivery that changes.

HateSummer · 05/09/2017 12:58

😂😂 Japanese concentration camp.

I wish I had ott people on my friends list, but they're all normal people who have had enough of the holidays and can't wait for them to go back Sad

Tomorrow I'm sitting on the sofa and watching TV all day until 2.30pm. I might buy some breakfast pastries on the way home and make a big pot of tea. Can't wait.

coddiwomple · 05/09/2017 12:59

I haven't been able to go to the gym for 7 weeks or even pop to the shops by myself!

Oh poor you! You should consider boarding school, it's bliss for both sides.

LaurieFairyCake · 05/09/2017 12:59

When dd went off to uni (driving herself) DH and I took our clothes off and danced around the living room in our pants

treaclesoda · 05/09/2017 13:00

I'm sitting here with the radio on and Afternoon Edition on Radio 5 Live has got a whole item dedicated to the trauma of waving your child off to school for the first time!

HateSummer · 05/09/2017 13:01

This
Also miss the lovely summer days. Singing in the car, cuddling in bed in the mornings, picnics and sunny days with them.

And this:
When dd went off to uni (driving herself) DH and I took our clothes off and danced around the living room in our pants

😂😂 would make a brilliant advert for something...I don't what😂

upperlimit · 05/09/2017 13:03

But just think Coddi, if everyone else was as amazing as you and didn't look forward to the change in pace when the kids go back to school, you wouldn't be here, getting a kick out of being so superior.