Mothers ott reaction to Child going to school...get a grip

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All over Facebook mothers ott reactions to children going to school..
The one that got my goat was....
"I stand and watch you walk away with tears in my eyes,the girl I once knew has gone,you will never be fully mine again"
The child is going into year 2 not sent to a Japanese concentration camp...

Well I am charmed :)

Well done that young woman, enjoy uni!

I do find it a bit sad so many parents are actually sick of the sight of their kids to be honest!

Oh, give over.

People put that crap on fb to say ' look at me, I love my child so much, probably more than you love yours. I am such a good mum!'
I think a child's very first day at school is a bit poignant and yes, you may worry a bit but all the sugary sentimental wailing is weird.

I just can't get over how many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put pictures of their children in school uniform, clearly identifying the school they attend, all over Facebook. The mind boggles.

Why? confused

Because no matter how private you think your Facebook settings are, they're not. Anything you post on Facebook or other websites is public. Which means personal, identifying information about children is being put out there without their consent. Some people are clearly fine with that, but I'm not.

Yes it's so sad that the literally statistically most privileged kids in the world who have been pampered and entertained for six weeks solid now have to face the appalling grind of golden time, smoothie workshops and trips to the theatre. And their mums are fucking delighted.

I'm crying here :(..

I do find it a bit sad so many parents are actually sick of the sight of their kids to be honest!

I think the kids are probably more sick at the sight of us.

Endofthelinefinslly, I am sorry for your loss

I couldn't agree more op! It's the same when kids leave primary school, oh the tears and the get togethers where everyone hugs! I couldn't wait for the primary days to be over. And don't get me started on the "proud" parents on their kid's graduation from nursery, complete with cap and gown. Just no.

It's a form of Martyrmumming. Showing you they all love their cherubs sooooo much more than yow.

Twats.

Oh, OK then. I just can't imagine why it should be keep confidential that DS goes to one of the local primary schools. It's hardly top-secret information! I understand why people would be cautious about sharing too much information about looked after children, or where there are other safeguarding issues but in general, I really don't see the problem.

I love you OP!! I'm putting up bunting, popping champagne and having a nap.

I get why they want to mark the occasion and why it's a bittersweet feeling; my DD is about to go to nursery and I'm a little bit teary over it. But not enough to cry all over FB about it. I discuss my feelings with family and friends, then suck it up because I'm genuinely looking forward to going back to work. So I get your point totally despite a bit emosh myself at the moment!!!

"Well I am charmed

Well done that young woman, enjoy uni!"

Thank you.

Tbf, DD2 can do charming when she wants to.

(Complete with DD1 in full on photobombing mode)

I confess I was desperate for the DDs to go back to school, and so was DD1 actually. DD2 wasn't so sure because, though she has lots of friends, she'd also become extremely clingy.

So I was thinking, wow I'm looking forward to some peace and quiet, and a long bath without being disturbed lol!

Then when it was time to go, I did feel a lump in my throat, I surprised myself actually. But it's nice to finally have some space again, for a few hours.

I'm on a home ed Facebook group and every so often someone will post that their (usually) secondary aged DC has expressed an interest in going to school, but "the thought of it totally breaks my heart" I feel like commenting that they must have had a very uneventful life if the prospect of going to school provokes that reaction.

On the Facebook thing, my friend is a court adviser for CAFCASS and prior to that a social worker in child protection. Another friend's hub is DS in serious sex crimes unit. Neither will let pics of their kids anywhere near the internet. Combination of personal security in view of job but also having seen consequences, neither prepared to go into detail on the latter point. I do put the odd one of mine on but at 14 he hates it so I get his approval first.

I've read my previous post and realise I sound quite arsey, which wasn't my intention. I think identifying the child's school might not be problematic in isolation, but added in with all of the other information already put out there, it can become an issue (for me, anyway).

If someone wanted to, they could quite easily compile quite a full picture of some children's lives from Facebook. They'd know when they born, where they go to school, who their parents, grandparents, aunties, siblings are, where they've been on holiday, silly nicknames they might have, personal health/development issues, behavioural issues at school, etc, etc, etc. You have to be really on top of things to keep up with Facebook constantly fiddling about with privacy settings, and it just makes me really uncomfortable that all that information's there, and it's not really private at all.

Isn't it normal to be glad that your children are going back to school? I don't know any mums who weren't. Is this the cynicism that comes with Y4 kids?

My kids are sick of the sight of me, and more importantly, sick of the sight of each other.

I get you op, totally ott, and unesessary. I was so happy I did a happy dance, once they had been dropped off into school.

liz70 Tue 05-Sep-17 11:44:57

Brilliant!!!!!! your dd looks fabulous and clever. I love the two photos in juxtaposition x

What I find depressing is the amount of parents who can't wait for the kids to go away, moan constantly during the holiday that's it's "too hard" and just want to get rid of them.

Why?

No drama here about the first days at school, the little ones can't wait to be as "grown-up" as their siblings (yeah right), but no-one is dreading the holidays and we all would have been happy to have 2 or 3 more weeks off. I actually enjoy spending time with my kids. Why do you bother having children in the first place if it's such an ordeal to be with them.

Funniest op I've read for ages!

I did actually laugh out loud at the OP. Brilliant. I was the only non weeper (some were in floods) at the leavers assembly last year and was beginning to think I was emotionally stunted. I wouldn't say I'm overjoyed they are back to school, but I'm certainly not sobbing into my laptop at the thought. Growing up isn't a sad thing -there is so much more to look forward to. Enjoy the memories and what is coming next.

"I think the kids are probably more sick at the sight of us."

So true!!

I mumsnet.

Not arsey Elizabeth! And I totally take your point about privacy settings on Facebook; it's really not as locked down as people think and they do change them all the bloody time so you need to be on top of it.

And I think it will be interesting when this generation of children grow up to see how they feel/what the implications are of having so much of their childhood shared on social media. I joined Facebook when I was pregnant with DS. I think my first post was his scan pic! His childhood has been pretty well documented on there but I do try to be careful about what I post and consider his privacy (never, ever post naked pics or anything that might embarrass him when he's older) But yeah, I don't consider his school to be a particularly confidential thing.
Everyone has their line don't they? Friends of mine do post naked pics of their kids, with the view that it's just innocent children playing but it makes me really uncomfortable.