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Mothers ott reaction to Child going to school...get a grip

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Whatislove233 · 05/09/2017 10:04

All over Facebook mothers ott reactions to children going to school..
The one that got my goat was....
"I stand and watch you walk away with tears in my eyes,the girl I once knew has gone,you will never be fully mine again"
The child is going into year 2 not sent to a Japanese concentration camp...

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MrsFrisbyMouse · 05/09/2017 13:07

I love back to school photos. Don't even mind the sentimentality of some people (though I do wonder sometimes about when these little darlings will be given space to grow up.)
My not so little started her period yesterday.
Me: that's great news, have you got what you need and know what to do. OK then, if you need to know anything just let me know
Husband: (through the sniffles) my little girl, all grown up, their childhoods are so fleeting.

MrGrumpy01 · 05/09/2017 13:08

Why do you bother having children in the first place if it's such an ordeal to be with them.

Because like a pp we didn't tick the box for autistic child. Who hates his little sister and spends most days yelling at her. So no we will not apologise for being glad that he is back at school with the routine he desperately craves.

I cried this morning after dropping dd1 off on the bus for her first day at secondary school. This was mainly the realisation that having been so focused on getting her there we hadn't actually discussed bus times home. And the bus that drops her closest to home is only every 30 mins and the more frequent bus (which is then a big walk) goes from a different stop.

coddiwomple · 05/09/2017 13:09

For some parents milestones are hard, and I don't think it's funny to laugh at those Mums who, like me, are just trying their best.

don't worry, both OTT sides are as bad as each other, the ones smirking and proud to say that they are just looking forward to be lazy are even more attention seeking.

Some mums are really looking forward to school because they work full time and will save a fortune in childcare, some because their kids need the stimulation and the social aspect. It's the dramatic ones who think they are "cool" that are cringing. They can't have that much of a life if they can't cope with a bit of time with their kids.

Of all the things to get worked up about, a mum upset because she will miss the child she loves should really be at the bottom of the list. It doesn't mean the child will not be independent, popular and very successful because someone is upset.

formerbabe · 05/09/2017 13:09

Oh poor you! You should consider boarding school, it's bliss for both sides

I'm not saying 'poor me'...If you read my post you'll see I said that I love spending time with my DC...I'm also going to miss them when they're back. I was just saying I'm looking forward to doing some exercise and having a few moments to myself Confused

Ktown · 05/09/2017 13:11

The kid will wind up anxious and nervey.
Great parenting.

MrsHathaway · 05/09/2017 13:12

Meanwhile my FB friends are posting memes like the attached ... Grin

Mothers ott reaction to Child going to school...get a grip
MrsHathaway · 05/09/2017 13:13

I'm mainly glad to get my DC back to school because after nearly seven weeks in each other's company they are close to killing each other and desperately need interaction with some other children. You can't replicate the density of friendship they get at school when you're at home.

coddiwomple · 05/09/2017 13:14

So no we will not apologise for being glad that he is back at school
but is it really necessary to make fun and insult parents who are a bit blue that the holidays are finished? Why should parents who are upset to see their kids go to the next step, why should they apologise either?

Countdowntofour · 05/09/2017 13:15

😂😂😂

Twofishfingers · 05/09/2017 13:16

I don't judge - I have never cried at school drop off but I don't judge.

Honestly, you stiff upper lip lot, other people have different feelings from you. Big deal. Really, big deal. I don't get why it's any of your business, or for you to judge.

milliemolliemou · 05/09/2017 13:16

DP took both DCs to their first day at nursery and school as was the nature of our jobs.

Both ran in happy as Larry. I can imagine it's more difficult with children who are uncertain and parents who are unsure.

DP can't remember anyone crying. We certainly didn't open bottles of bubbly - I was already at work and DP went on to work. Most people's situations?

@whattodo - I think I understand and sorry for your loss. I think most posters on this site love their children and enjoy their company. I can also understand the relief when the juggling for working parents stops with school. Or a SAHP has time to crack on. All the OP was saying was she found the lachrimose nature of FB posts was ridiculous.

Spikeyball · 05/09/2017 13:17

Well I'm glad mines gone back. Six weeks holiday is too long for him and he has become more stressed and anxious resulting in more meltdowns and self injurious behaviour, as the holiday has gone on. He also has some freedom at his school rather than being confined to the tiny number of places he can cope with outside of it.

MrsHathaway · 05/09/2017 13:18

Feeling sad or wistful or whatever is one thing. Emoting all over Facebook is another. Emoting all over the possibly baffled child is completely unhelpful.

Coffeetasteslikeshit · 05/09/2017 13:20

I have no problem with people being upset at their children going to school. everyone's different after all. I do have a problem with competitive grief on Facebook though, it's puke inducing.

coddiwomple · 05/09/2017 13:21

starting a thread mocking or insulting others is just as bad MrsHathaway, it's pure playground bullying. A bit pathetic, isn't it?

liz70 · 05/09/2017 13:21

"When dd went off to uni DH and I took our clothes off and danced around the living room in our pants"

We tried that too, but then 17 year old DD2 came downstairs to raid the fridge, and 8 year old DD3 had finished playing with her train set and wanted to watch Mr. Peabody and Sherman again.

coddiwomple · 05/09/2017 13:22

and the competitive smugness is just as bad, if not worst.

MrsHathaway · 05/09/2017 13:24

starting a thread mocking or insulting others is just as bad MrsHathaway, it's pure playground bullying. A bit pathetic, isn't it?

I see your point, but I genuinely think OP was mocking the actions rather than the feelings. Do you disapprove of her posting about it or her feelings about it?

Crunchymum · 05/09/2017 13:26

Year 2?

I might just be able to get it on some tiny level if the kid was off to reception after being at home with mum for 4+ years but year 2? Year 2?

liz70 · 05/09/2017 13:27

"Of all the things to get worked up about"

Frankly coddi I think you should maybe step away from this light-hearted thread, because it strikes me that the only person really getting worked up here is yourself.

MiaowTheCat · 05/09/2017 13:28

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minmooch · 05/09/2017 13:28

It's what they are meant to do - go off to school/college/work/get married.

I think it's ok to be whistful at the passage of time but the fucking drama of kids doing normal things that they are supposed to do is rather ott.

But then one of my children died so perhaps other people's drama grates just that bit more.

Only1scoop · 05/09/2017 13:32

Do people actually post that stuff

Dear God

DrHorribletookmycherry · 05/09/2017 13:32

Ah. The joy of slating every one elses parenting Hmm Why bother "friending" people if you're just going to damn them for caring or damn them as not giving a shiny shit?

coddiwomple · 05/09/2017 13:34

seems I hit a nerve with you liz70 sorry Grin