Or should my dd be capable of buying sanitary towels?

[goodeggsarehardtocatch]

I didn't think I was BU however I now have dd1&2 and DH all in a strop with me.
Dd1 has had periods for 3 years and every month I buy the towels, tampax etc until she complained there were too many so I now check, every month and tonight dd2 has started her period. I went into dd1 and requested some towels for her sister and she informs me she is also on her period and is using her last towel, no biggy I gave each dd a carry pack with spare pads etc so they have enough but will need to buy some tomorrow.
This is where the trouble started, I am working tomorrow and told dd1 she would need to nip to the shops for pads etc, at which point she and dd2. Claimed they can't and would rather die than be seen buying ' that stuff' I said that was ridiculous and it's an every day item to purchase when DH started saying of course they shouldn't have to buy it, as a mum it's my job

So I asked him to think about what he was saying and now no one is talking to me, am I deluded ? Will buying their own sanitary products with my money obviously scare them for life ?

It is a life skill they need to learn. What do they think would happen if you couldn't get to the shops, for some reason?

YADNBU!!

Rationally YANBU at all but i was sooo embarrassed by this sort of thing until I was 16 or so. You could maybe ask your dh to pick some up?

I can understand them being iffy about it tbh, it's one of those things that can be embarrassing as a teenager. But they're going to be menstruating women for many years to come, they have to get used to it sometime!

Bad form from your DH not backing you up, too (and being generally wrong).

When I was that age my dad knowing or having an opinion on my periods would have been far more embarrassing.

But yanbu, they can buy their own products if they need to.

Also, why hasn't your dh offered to get them? Why is it just a mum's job? My dh buys my sanitary towels for me, if I happen not to be at the supermarket with him - so if your dh thinks his precious girls shouldn't have to do this awful, embarrassing task - why hasn't HE offered to get them what they need!!

Blimey what's your dh stropping about he sounds an arse! My dh went to boots to get our dds towels and asked the assistant for pain killers too.

Your dds need to step up and give you warning if they running low and of course they can buy their own pads.

What's to be squeamish about?

YANBU.

How old are your DDs?

Fuck that - of course they need to. I went to the chemist aged 13 to buy my first box of Tampax - it didn't even occur to me to be embarrassed.

I assume they're early to mid teens. That sort of thing can be embarrassing I suppose. They will probably look back in a few years and laugh at how silly it is.

But really, you buying it for them isn't a big deal.

I would tell DH that if he is so convinced is will scar them he can go to the shops for them.

I remember being on holiday when 14, i came on. My dad went to the shop to buy me some sanitary towels. Never once cared. Once they have done it once they will realise that no one cares.

My mum never once bought my sanitary products for me. She let me know where hers were so I could use them when I first started and if I was caught short, but otherwise it was my responsibility to sort myself out.

Your DH needs to butt the hell out, and your DDs need to step up a bit.

I was 18 and had moved out before I could do it.

Btw my dad used to buy our tampons etc if they were on the tesco list. No drama. Not sure what the big deal is!

YANBU at all, really. But I remember being hideously embarrassed buying sanpro until I was quite an old teenager. My mum kindly used to buy it for me. Obviously your DDs will have to buy their own this time, but I don't think it's a big deal to chuck some Bodyform in with the Tesco shop. Although why your DH felt the need to wade into this one, I don't know! They'll have to buy their own eventually when they move out.

Well if dh thinks they shouldn't buy it, he can go to the shop.

You are at work, they either mange til you get home after getting caught up and having to work late/go to the gym/after work drinks , or they sort something between the 3 of them.

If you're feeling nice, point out that the self service tills mean they can get in and out without human interaction and nobody will notice what they buy.

I even still struggle and I am 40 with twins...
I really struggled at that age but I know I weird

It's one of those teen quirks that you've got to ignore and just roll with.

However, if you really are busy, then your DH or one of them can get them. Do you have a Tesco/Asda with a self-serve?

That's ridiculous, they're going to have periods for approx 40 years, they need to deal with them. They need to shop for themselves & in doing so try different options. What would they do if they were away, or started unexpectedly?

My stepdad does the weekly shop so he bought most of the sanitary products for 3 people. But I also occasionally bought my own from about 14. 1 year after my periods started.

The girl - not being unreasonable they are embarrassed
The dad - very fucking unreasonable he should now the on 'buying stuff duty'

Clearly now not the time for the moon cup talk ! How Old are they ! ?

Your DH needs to man up here and stop seeing them as something icky too

That's bizarre. They really need to get over that.

I remember being hugely embarrassed about periods as a teenager. I was 12 when I started and I remember my mum telling my dad, and he mentioned it to me and I was so angry with my mum for telling him - I burst into tears and went to hide in my room

I don't think it's unreasonable to expect them to buy their own, but a bit of understanding that periods and puberty are really embarrassing to some people wouldn't go amiss.