Or should my dd be capable of buying sanitary towels?

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I didn't think I was BU however I now have dd1&2 and DH all in a strop with me.
Dd1 has had periods for 3 years and every month I buy the towels, tampax etc until she complained there were too many so I now check, every month and tonight dd2 has started her period. I went into dd1 and requested some towels for her sister and she informs me she is also on her period and is using her last towel, no biggy I gave each dd a carry pack with spare pads etc so they have enough but will need to buy some tomorrow.
This is where the trouble started, I am working tomorrow and told dd1 she would need to nip to the shops for pads etc, at which point she and dd2. Claimed they can't and would rather die than be seen buying ' that stuff' I said that was ridiculous and it's an every day item to purchase when DH started saying of course they shouldn't have to buy it, as a mum it's my job

So I asked him to think about what he was saying and now no one is talking to me, am I deluded ? Will buying their own sanitary products with my money obviously scare them for life ?

If I may interject - a moon cup may not be the best option for a younger teen. Or it may, but there are softer cups.
The height of her cervix, flow, her muscle tone are all factors, not just whether she's had a baby or not or is under 30.
My preference is the MeLuna classic as it's a bit softer, but with soft cups, it can be more of an issue to get them to open properly. If dd is sporty, there is a sport version, which may be more suitable.
If her flow is heavy, the LuvUrBody is a high capacity cup, as well as the Yuuki.
I see she already watches Bree, and she'll have videos on all the different cups too.
Teresa at Feminine Wear is great for advice if you're not sure.
not a crunchy mum, far from it, just a heavy perioded lady who didn't get on with the mooncup

Sorry, not Luna cup, I have the lily cup compact:

There are some beautiful washable pads around (try Etsy). I currently have a Minion pad on

DH has no idea what pads to buy so if asked for pads he buys two of each.

Last time he came home with 14 packs , he says it's easier.

They should buy them themselves really. There's such a bewildering choice of types that they should be able to see what is available and make their own choices about what to use - maybe give them a bit extra allowance so they can just buy them as and when they need them.

All part of learning to be a grown up. It's just another 'mental load' task that the OP needs to be able to pass on - remembering, choosing, budgeting etc.

I'm a bit depressed and a little bit angry by some of the replies. All of you who are embarrassed at buying sanitary products and hide them under other shopping- what signals are you sending to your son's and daughters?

Or that it is "normal" for girls to embarrassed? Why - is that the message parents give?

I'm assuming you live in the UK or somewhere else where these products are widely and cheaply available in countless retailers. There are places in the world where menstruation is still taboo. It is beyond silly to be embarrassed- it is verging on irresponsible behaviour if you have sons and daughters to be so coy and twee.

Oh and the poster who said Tena is embarrassing- equally silly.

Of the top of my head I can't think of any products which you should be embarrassed to be seen buying other than porn, cigarettes and those cheap, fake ciders sold for no purpose other to than to make you drunk quickly.

"DH has no idea what pads to buy so if asked for pads he buys two of each."

So tell him?

Tell him to take the old packet/take a pic of it/look at it & remember?

Are they hidden in a cupboard that he never looks in??

So a quick chat with dd1&2 this morning as I was getting ready and both are happy to try reusable pads. Dd2 because she has researched them and thinks they are ace, dd2 because it means she won't ever have to go to the village shop for pads
Dh seems happy too but would like some training on how to hang them on the line
Peace is restored

Milky and Diddl, unfortunately buying 14 packs of sanitary towels is not the worst example of cluelessness I have ever heard of.

When I was in hospital after having DD3 by c-section, one of the other women on the ward asked her DH to bring her some maternity pads as she was going through hers faster than she had anticipated. She told him three or four packs would do.

He turned up with four writing pads and a couple of pens that he had added for good measure!! I might add that he was lucky not to end up with it all shoved up his arse. Probably he would have done had the rest of us not been present and trying to stifle the giggles.

Writing pad/maternity pad-sounds so alike

YANBU

I am a mean mom. I would not be "understanding" of their feelings of shame of their bodies and natural functions. My dds (17 and 14) regularly seen in supermarkets with tampons in their baskets.

YADNBU I was buying them from 12 - they need to be buying them themselves or they will never learn the skill

Lass there's no need to be angry or depressed that my teenage self once bought a chicken with sanitary towels 😃

These days I am very blasé about biological functions and my 5 year old DS knows about periods (much to the mortification of my parents).

I recently bought just san pro and painkillers in a supermarket and the bloke behind the till asked me how my morning was going. My reply was "I probably don't need to answer that" with an unhinged grin. And I didn't buy a chicken.

stiffstink 😂 I probably would have replied, "How the fuck do you think? " I admire your restraint.

I always had to buy my own. My mum used jumbo massive retro pads. The type with hooks and strings.

No way was I having one of those bad boys bouncing about under my leggings, that would have been far more embarrassing than buying tampax.

My DH just buys them. He asks if we need anything on his way home and just buys them if I say we need some. Dsd texts him too. He gets confused by the 'flavours' though so we tell him green or orange or yellow ones please.

I don't know why we get embarrassed - I know that we know all women have them, but to me it's a private thing and I don't like someone thinking of me in that way. DH has never been able to buy condoms from a shop he goes to regularly, he'll go out of his way to buy them in the next town over or, thankfully, he can now get them on Amazon.

I buy them at the village shop were I know most of the staff. Dont care about buying them. I'm a woman, I have periods,, all I care about is not bleeding through my clothes.

This thread reminds me of dd once telling me how she went to buy sanitary products in the village shop in my home country. Though she is bilingual, her mind went blank when she got to the shop and she couldn't remember the word: she only just stopped herself in time from asking for condoms. It is a very small gossipy village. She was about 12. We would never have lived that down.

We have 3 DDs, they have different flows and need different types of sanitary towels. Problem is they never tell DH which ones to buy, they just say Dad we need sanitary towels. It's not DH I need to educate it's DDs to be more specific.

The kids share a bathroom and all the sanitary towels are in the press in their bathroom. It's great because all their friends know where to find sanitary towels if they're caught short. Because DH and i never use that bathroom neither of us would know which one they're running out of.

Having said all of this, I need to remind DH to just ask which type is needed.

Reusable pads are the way to go, the girls love them and are making sure they got in the lidded bin to be washed so far all good thank you so much for the help.

So glad they like them! They're much more comfortable and nicer to use wish I'd known about them when I was a teenager!

Re usable pads, ACE!!!

I fon't know why anyone would say it's 'bizarre' or 'sad' that they're embarrassed. At 13 you're embarrassed by everything! It's a tricky time being that age. I'd get it for them.
DH needs to get over it though.

Seems a lot of bother, if theres 3 women in the house, just add to the weekly shop (mum or dad!) so that they're always in.

I can understand teenagers being a bit self conscious about it but your dh will have to buy them then. My fil, dh and df have all bought sanitary products in the past (dmil passed away when sil was very young) and as far as I am aware their penises (peni?) are still attached. (Certainly in my dh's case anyway!)