Or should my dd be capable of buying sanitary towels?

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I didn't think I was BU however I now have dd1&2 and DH all in a strop with me.
Dd1 has had periods for 3 years and every month I buy the towels, tampax etc until she complained there were too many so I now check, every month and tonight dd2 has started her period. I went into dd1 and requested some towels for her sister and she informs me she is also on her period and is using her last towel, no biggy I gave each dd a carry pack with spare pads etc so they have enough but will need to buy some tomorrow.
This is where the trouble started, I am working tomorrow and told dd1 she would need to nip to the shops for pads etc, at which point she and dd2. Claimed they can't and would rather die than be seen buying ' that stuff' I said that was ridiculous and it's an every day item to purchase when DH started saying of course they shouldn't have to buy it, as a mum it's my job

So I asked him to think about what he was saying and now no one is talking to me, am I deluded ? Will buying their own sanitary products with my money obviously scare them for life ?

Can they Prime Now it? And in future, if they don't warn you it's tough luck.

My teenage DS has gone down to the shop and bought some for me when I've been ill. He didn't see it as any big deal.

The OP's DH is a wuss, and needs to step up for his daughters if they are too embarrassed to get them for themselves.

Ah - have now RTFT and seen that DH has gone. Good!

Depends on how old they are really .. anything from 13 up then they should be capable .. in the same way my DP will grab some tampons with the milk and bread on his way back from work ... the cashiers really don't care

You've been buying them for three years so it's not as if this is all new to her. She needs to get her own. The one who has just started...well, I can understand she may be a bit embarrassed. Why can't your husband get them though? I don't think YABU.

I think this is a sad thread, with some posters having an almost congratulatory air that they made their teenage DDs buy their own sanpro

I think it is a sad thread because of comments like this.

In all honesty I would balk at buying tampons at my village shop. It's ridiculous, I know, and I'm usually a pretty open person but I'd just rather not.

I remember being mortified when I went away to Uni and had to buy my own tampons for the very first time

And the many similar comments expressing embarrassment, mortification etc.

I'm really, really not getting this. What on earth is embarrassing about having a period?

I grew up in a village and after the first couple of times don't recall my mother ever buying them for me. I used to collect my prescription for the pill from one of 3 chemists ( quite bizarre why we had 3 pharmacies in what really was just a large village) Two of them were staffed by parents of boys in my year at school and the third by a friend of my grandfather's didn't bother me in the slightest collecting either tampons or the pill.

For god's sake, I'd tell your eldest and your dh to get a grip. So what if it is the village shop - they stock them, they know women and girls use them, what is the problem? I'd give your younger one a break as it is her first period - that said either of mine would have marched down and bought the stuff without worrying even for their first.

I'd expect everyone in my house to be able to go to our local place and buy STs/tampons from the local/friends/highschool kids at the tills - and that includes DS, both DDs, DH and me. Doesn't everyone in the world know that women get periods? Don't the guys who stock the shelves or order STs/tampons for the shop know what they are?

I am really surprised at women being embarrassed to buy sanitary towels - and I say that as a woman whose mother referred to it as "the other thing", gave me cloth towels with loops, and thought men should be shielded from all that side of things.

My two teen daughters will openly tell their father, brother, me and the dog about their periods. why not?

The OP's DH is a wuss, and needs to step up for his daughters if they are too embarrassed to get them for themselves

As are her daughters. I think it is pretty appalling that anyone should be giving the time of day to the idea that being too embarrassed to buy sanitary products is reasonable behaviour.

Your children are being ridiculous!

It's no different than buying a toothbrush.

All this 13/16 up is okay business is crap too. Surely kids would by them for mum if they were needed, this continues until they need them themselves.

Cannot seriously believe anyone got to 18 without buying tampons!

Shopkeepers know you probably use them at some point of the month!

DD 13 class had a bag inspection recently due to a theft

Everyone had to empty their bag on the table and teachers checked the empty bag

The girls weren't embarrassed placing their tamping on the table along worth books and pens

Nobody commented

It's just normal

Tampons what's is tamping?

Grew up in a SMALL town (basically a village but kept historical town status). Me, sis, bro all bought from local chemist from about age 12 (bro wasn't buying for himself of course but his sis's or mum ) dad and mum too of course. I'm trying to figure out if they never go shopping with you when you buy them? Geez dd used to use the pads as a booster seat for dollies in the supermarket as a toddler. She has NO shame but is sometimes nominated to buy for friends who skulk outside the shop as if she's buying them something illicit!

Half the world has/will have/had periods.

Even my ex who grew up with brothers and a mother who rarely had periods (medical reasons) never balked at buying.

10 or 11 year old just starting periods might be embarrassed buying them and I would buy them to save embarrassment but I'm assuming DD1 is a little older than that. Tell her not to be daft - she does realise that she will have to buy them for herself one day? Send DH out to the shops - he seems very imformed about it all.

I'm surprised at the replies. I never had this issue has a teenager. My dad also bought sanitary pads with no issue. In any case, I buy my pads online from Amazon on a bimonthly subscription, so I don't have to remember! Do you think they will warm up to the idea of mooncups? They are fiddly to start but it's a lifesaver even if you don't use them everyday. More than once it has saved me from the horror of going to a bathroom in a public place and realising I have no more pads on me. I have a collapsible Luna cup, very discreet.

*as a teenager

By the way, YANBU

also whats with the "its your job as a mum" shit - and him stomping off to do your job as a mum since you didn't do it. I'd get an apology for that .

Yes they should be able to buy them for themselves and why can't your DH go if your busy?

My 12 year old son pops to the shop and gets them for me or his sisters without moaning or being embarrassed they need to sort themselves out.

I was going to say they are being ridiculous but I just remembered that I was to embarrassed even to ask my mum for pads when I was a young teen. And I had no money of my own so couldn't buy them myself either. I would just wait until mum bought me some without me asking, which was about one packet every three months. That didn't go far!

My 12 year old son pops to the shop and gets them for me or his sisters without moaning or being embarrassed they need to sort themselves out.

Impressed.

I bought a load of towels and tampons a the weekend- the range was overwhelming. Absorbancies, wings, night time, compac, pearl, applicator, different brands, there was around 100 different options.

A 12 year old boy who can navigate themselves around that selection is to be applauded, I wouldn't ask my OH to buy that suff never mind my 12 year old son.
DD and I have different requirements and even on different days during our periods.
Whether it's gym days, heavy flow at nightimes, sore tummy days, dance days, products that are small enough for a bag or not disintegrate, light flow days, heavy days.
DD and I keep a few different products each at any one time.
My OH wouldn't be able to keep up.

Yabu
I had to buy my own as a teen and it was mortifying . I was so jealous of friends whose mums had a stock at home for them.
Its very different putting sanitary products in with a weekly shop to going and just having a load of sanitary products in your basket as a teen.
I'd just keep a cupboard well stocked if I had teen dd's they aren't going to be still asking you to buy them when they are 30.

allhalloweseve ( love your username btw) I agree.

I can't help feeling that it sounds a bit punitive or trying to make a point in making a teen go to buy her own sanitary towels.

My DS and OH use shaving gel and razors but I don't feel the need to make them go and buy their own stuff.
I buy 90% of the personal care items for the whole family, just chuck it in the trolley or get a delivery or whatever- it just seems daft not to if I am shopping.
I buy razors for OH, DD and DS, shaving gel, shower gel, shampoo, bubble bath, toothpaste etc.
I have a keen eye for a bargain, which other family members don't and I have time to pick stuff up in Poundshops or bulk buy when things are reduced.
I keep a large store of non perishable things at home.
We never run out, I have usually 20 bottles of shampoo, 20 cans shaving foam, stacks of loo roll 20 packs sanitary towels and tampons, wash up liquid, shower gel etc. All bought when I see knock down prices or have coupons. I have shelves in my garage that are stuffed full.

I don't think the OP was saying she refuses to put them in with the weekly shop was she?

She said that her DD had used up her supply and didn't tell her she needed more. And that since she had to go to work, she couldn't be responsible for buying them on this occasion. Which is perfectly reasonable to me.

I would suggest that with three menstruating females in the house it is best to keep in a large store of such things.

If they're too pathetic to buy Sanpro, how will they ever manage condoms, morning after pill, thrush cream, etc. They need to get over themselves.

YANBU. Yes they will be embarrassed. Yes they will get over it. In fact it's a good lesson in a) it's a normal biological function and no more embarrassing than loo rolls or soap, and b) shop assistants are deeply disinterested in your purchases and learning that people are not that interested in you is a valuable life lesson.