Or should my dd be capable of buying sanitary towels?

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I didn't think I was BU however I now have dd1&2 and DH all in a strop with me.
Dd1 has had periods for 3 years and every month I buy the towels, tampax etc until she complained there were too many so I now check, every month and tonight dd2 has started her period. I went into dd1 and requested some towels for her sister and she informs me she is also on her period and is using her last towel, no biggy I gave each dd a carry pack with spare pads etc so they have enough but will need to buy some tomorrow.
This is where the trouble started, I am working tomorrow and told dd1 she would need to nip to the shops for pads etc, at which point she and dd2. Claimed they can't and would rather die than be seen buying ' that stuff' I said that was ridiculous and it's an every day item to purchase when DH started saying of course they shouldn't have to buy it, as a mum it's my job

So I asked him to think about what he was saying and now no one is talking to me, am I deluded ? Will buying their own sanitary products with my money obviously scare them for life ?

Give them a break. They are still quite young and it's easy to get embarrassed at that age. They will have years when it will be entirely their responsibility, so no need to push them into something they are not comfortable with so young.

I know it wouldn't bother my DD, but it's easier just to buy them myself.
Her free time is very limited and she is not often in a supermarket.
I also buy razors, shaving foam for the boys, shampoo, bubble bath etc for various family members.
I buy in bulk too when stuff is on offer. I know my DD has 12 packs of tampons and 12 packs of pads in her cupboard right now. I hate to run low on stuff like that.

I was embarrassed to mention anything periods related in front of my dad but buying pads etc was no problem. I thought our household was particularly repressed but I'm surprised to see that a few others found it embarrassing too.

My dh will buy me pads if I ask him to and if we had a daughter I'm pretty sure he wouldn't sit and chat to her about it but would have no issue buying pads for her.

I think your daughters need to learn to be more confident about it and your dh should go out and buy them himself if he thinks the girls shouldn't go.

I remember being mortified when I went away to Uni and had to buy my own tampons for the very first time.

It's good to get them used to buying them. And what's to stop dh?

Glad the drama is over. Teens can be hormonal and theatrical at times but I do feel a bit sorry for DD2 if she has only just started her periods and has become embroiled in this. Can whoever does the supermarkey shop not just throw a selection of sanpro in the trolley/add it to the online shop every couple of weeks to avoid this. Then get your DD2 to get some when they are out and about. Maybe practice at a big boots store or something so they can be blase when they need to buy some at the corner shop?

Washable pads? Then no one will ever run out. I got some last year and they are brilliant. www.facebook.com/pg/Ecodreamsuk/shop/?ref=page_internal

I remember going into a supermarket to buy towels as a teenager and I was so desperate to hide them in the basket with something else, I bought a whole cooked chicken.

My friend used to buy mine for me, with my money, I just made her pay because I was an embarrassed teen. No problems buying them now in any shop but I do get them delivered each month from a lovely company with a few treats for myself included because I forget to buy them otherwise

Get them a subscription then you never run out! They put a chocolate bar in the box too

Stiffstink I used to do that kind of thing too - strategic basket filling to mask what you really came in for Nowadays I couldn't care less, I'll happily go to the till with tampons, chocolate and ibuprofen and nothing else

Bizarrely dd2 has wandered down to say she will buy them no worries
I told her that DH has gone now so not needed and she shrugged! So maybe I got it right with one of them?

In all honesty I would balk at buying tampons at my village shop. It's ridiculous, I know, and I'm usually a pretty open person but I'd just rather not.

Clearly, your daughters are fragile and sensitive young ladies and cannot be asked to do something as endangering to their reputation as buying sanitary towels.

Send your DH to buy some. Such dangerous tasks clearly are the job of the man of the family.

Can they not pop to the supermarket early and go through self scan? No one will really be there and they can go together. It will be a first and less embarrassing experience for both of them

(I myself bought my first pack when I started in a supermarket at 7.40 in the morning before school and it wasn't bad at all)

I think they are playing you. Just being lazy

Ah, I hadn't seen that it has already been solved. Great!

I've just asked my eldest DD if she'd be ok to buy her own & turns out she'd be mortified & soooooo embarrassed! My middle one who hasn't started said it's no big deal!!

Glad your Dh went!

My girls have always, from starting, when necessary just gone to our corner shop and bought them - tbh I thought this was brave, and won't buy them there myself, lol! But it is apparently perfectly possible The shop stock them, so they must expect people to buy them!

What the fuck? Is this really a thing? Get your husband to do it then, mine has no problems. He has bought nipple pads and all sort before without caring.

Mine is 14 and would also be mortified. They're weird things, teenagers, I just get them for her. She'll get over it eventually. I did. No big deal.

My dad used to buy mine. I was too embarrassed

The shop stock them, so they must expect people to buy them!

And it is not exactly a secret that women have periods. I have never considered it particularly embarrassing for other people to know that I have the same body functions as 99% of all women my age.

Suggest they go to a tesco or tesco express where they can pay for it at the self service till. They need to know how to buy their own in situations like this. But It is not solely your job and obviously nothing stopping your husband from buying them .

My 16 year old will buy her own if necessary but I don't think she'd be too happy to buy them in the village shop in the morning. If it's like our local shop half the kids in the village are in there before catching the school bus.

VestalVirgin -
No it's not a secret that women have periods. My DD pointed this out to me very loudly in the ladies toilets a few weeks ago. We went in and her Tampax was in my bag. I offered her my bag to take into the toilet and got a "For gods sake just give me the Tampax - women have periods, it's not a secret!"
I was actually quite proud of her.