Or should my dd be capable of buying sanitary towels?

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I didn't think I was BU however I now have dd1&2 and DH all in a strop with me.
Dd1 has had periods for 3 years and every month I buy the towels, tampax etc until she complained there were too many so I now check, every month and tonight dd2 has started her period. I went into dd1 and requested some towels for her sister and she informs me she is also on her period and is using her last towel, no biggy I gave each dd a carry pack with spare pads etc so they have enough but will need to buy some tomorrow.
This is where the trouble started, I am working tomorrow and told dd1 she would need to nip to the shops for pads etc, at which point she and dd2. Claimed they can't and would rather die than be seen buying ' that stuff' I said that was ridiculous and it's an every day item to purchase when DH started saying of course they shouldn't have to buy it, as a mum it's my job

So I asked him to think about what he was saying and now no one is talking to me, am I deluded ? Will buying their own sanitary products with my money obviously scare them for life ?

Of course you are not being unreasonable. Not at all. It is something they will both have to regularly do before too long, but I guess teenagers perhaps think it is uncool.

I too would send DH. That would soon shut him up, and I bet he would be all at sea with it.

so DD1 is about 15/16?
YANBU, but then you have so far enabled this learned helplessness, and as PP have said, it does seem embarassing at first.
Go back to the and ask what they think should happen, since you are unable to do the purchasing. I would prime your DH first, as the solution, short term is that HE should buy them. Then, in a week or so you should go with DD1 and buy them together. The next time, you both go to the shop, but she does the purchase. Next time you wait outside the shop...etc...etc..

Are they of an age where periods are still taboo? It's not an excuse but I can remember being embarrassed to buy sanitary products at age 13 but a year(ish) later I didn't think anything of it. A firm talking to by my DM at the time made me realise that it was all part and parcel of growing up!

YADNBU!!

YANBU. OK it might be a bit bothersome for them to feel they're letting on they have their period, but they're going to have to get over it one day, why not this one. I grew up somewhere with no secrets and my step dad owned the shop so I didn't love it but had no other choice!

As for your DH not buying them, my friend's husband once bought me pads when I got my period unexpectedly while staying at their house as it was a PITA for me to pack my two kids into the car and go to the supermarket and he was passing one on the way home. If he really thinks your DDs shouldn't have to do it he should step up.

OMFG.

Honestly? Leave them a £10 note and let them get on with it.

Nothing to stop DH buying supplies if the DDs can't. The first few times I bought my own I felt like the whole world was looking.

Your daughters need to woman up pretty damn fast and your DH is being a massive dickhead. Of course they can go to the shop and pick up their own sanitary towels. I wouldn't make them pay for them, obviously, but they can certainly go to the shop and get them.

I started my periods at 11. I not only got sent round to the corner shop for my own towels, but also my mum's and my sister's as well!

I should also add that my dad was completely relaxed about that sort of thing and would often shout 'Anyone need tampons?' up the stairs when compiling his shopping list for the weekly 'big shop' at Tesco.

Teens get embarrassed about all kinds of weird stuff so I don't consider them too bad but your DH sounds a bit of a tit.

I can't stand people who are embarrassed (men and women) by buying sanitary products, condoms etc.

It's incredibly offputting that kind of immaturity.

Dd2 has the excuse of her first period. I recall the emotions and hormones knocked me for 6. How old is dd1? If 14 up she should sort it. If younger, DH. Yeah it's a bit arbitrary.
I once went to get pads with my mum as we were on the way somewhere and got served in Co op by a boy I fancied. Mortifying. If she goes to school / anywhere else with your shop staff, DH should do it.

It was painfully embarrassing buying pads or tampons as a teen. Horrifically self-conscious.

Sorry being fair to DH - he will buy them but he is working aswell and they will run out whilst we are working tomorrow. I have no issue buying normally but I'm not psychic !
Dd's are 13&14
Moon cups are being discussed but they need to learn their flow rates, dd2's description to DH of ' there was a massacre in my pants ' probably means fairly heavy

Yanbu

At very least they should say they are running low and and add it on to the weekly shopping list.

I think it depends on how old they are. I remember being really embarrassed at buying tampons when I was young. Particularly going on just for tampons, rather than throwing them in a basket with other stuff.

Can your DH not get them for them?

Whilst it is silly that they won't, I can understand why they would be embarrassed at that age.

Yes it's embarrassing but Jesus they need to learn, you can't buy them for them forever

I had to go at ten to get for my mum who was flooding and didn't have any nightmare! Even the lady at the shop commented I was so young put me off for years but now I'll buy anything, I can get it though especially if they are particularly hormonal tonight.

Dh not backing you up in front of the kids though....would be a while till I spoke to him again.

Huh? Why would anyone be embarrassed about buying sanitary products?
Sounds totally prissy for these days.

We do talk openly on any topic not always comfortable over dinner and DH is happy to deal with bra fittings etc as long as dd's are. I just don't understand why, if they need them they can't bloody fetch them ? It's a pack of pads not a vibrator !

I think I was about 18, left home before I started buying mine, I was embarrassed which is ridiculous seeing as I was a mum myself at that point

My DD is 13 and I wouldn't expect her to buy them but she only started her first one last week, I buy a packet in every weekly shop so we've always got a stock of them.

I was an early starter so by the time my friends started their periods I was almost over the embarrassment but preferred to be served by a woman, at the big chemist shop in nearest town.

My friend started unexpectedly at school, we went as a group to support her buying pads for the first time. Some numpty had decided to pile the packs of pads on top shelf, several fell off when she reached for a pack, quickly put them back and went to pay.
A few seconds later cute older boy walks past the same shelf, Lynx spray in hand, loads of packs of sanitary pads drop on his head like a comedy sketch, !
Tell your DH he should buy them if he's so concerned! But DDs need to learn too, so he can take them with him!

Thank you for all your answers, it is a small village shop maybe that's why they are all being daft? I didn't consider that.

YANBU. Your youngest might be slightly excused for a short while but your eldest can certainly do the sanitary shop. However, so can your DH. How in the hell is he allowed to think it's "mum's job" to do that? I think he needs to take on the shopping role more frequently.

Ultimately, women have periods. Your girls will get used to this sooner or later. Your dh should have a certain understanding of biology given he has produced children. Personally I would send him on a sanitary shopping expedition tonight if there is a late night supermarket near you. Afterall, its a woman's job to ensure copious amounts of chocolate are consumed and weepy chick flicks are watched while bundled up with a hot water bottle and blanket on the sofa during this time of the month!!

They are going to have to die....