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AIBU for not wanting to stop over at my in-laws?

262 replies

Lauraw1989 · 02/09/2017 16:09

Hi Ladies,

My MIL thinks I'm being unreasonable because I don't want to stop over at her house (who are a 20 minute drive away) with my 1 month year old baby so my hubby don't have to drive and he can stay up with them and have a few drinks.

We have a house cat so I worry about him being on his own overnight. Plus I just want to be in my own bed and to put my baby asleep in my own house.

Am I being unreasonable?

OP posts:
BertrandRussell · 02/09/2017 16:10

Yes.

Mrscropley · 02/09/2017 16:10

Your dh is being unreasonable for not standing by your decision and getting your coats on. .

Bluntness100 · 02/09/2017 16:11

Why can't you just get a taxi if it's 20 mins away?

BertrandRussell · 02/09/2017 16:11

Well, yes if your dp wants to stay, that is.

Bluntness100 · 02/09/2017 16:11

Your dh is being unreasonable for not standing by your decision and getting your coats on

What cause only her feelings count? Confused

MyBrilliantDisguise · 02/09/2017 16:12

BertrandRussell you think she's unreasonable for not wanting to sleep in her MIL's house with her one month old baby?

Get a taxi home or let him bring you home and go back again if you don't drive.

RedPepperYellowPepper · 02/09/2017 16:12

No, get a taxi and sleep in your own bed.

JennyWoodentop · 02/09/2017 16:13

Context is all....
If you drive can you drive home and he gets a taxi in the morning? Or you get a taxi home and he drives home the next day?

Or is it that you don't want him staying over either? I agree that you shouldn't be pressured into staying if you don't want to, whatever the reason.

EngagedWithALeaf · 02/09/2017 16:14

If it's 20 mins, can't you drive home and pick him up in the morning??

Mrscropley · 02/09/2017 16:14

When her dh has the next dc himself he can decide sleeping in his own bed isn't important.

Bluntness100 · 02/09/2017 16:15

BertrandRussell you think she's unreasonable for not wanting to sleep in her MIL's house with her one month old baby?

Unless the house is a shit tip I'm failing to see the issue and still can't see why she can't hop a taxi, it's 20 mins.

NicolasFlamel · 02/09/2017 16:16

Confused Why can't you all just get a taxi? 20 minutes isn't a long journey.
Either way I wouldn't stay over at someones 20 minutes away, no. Totally pointless. YANBU

DewDropsonKittens · 02/09/2017 16:16

Yabu too expect your d.h not to enjoy an evening with his family

Get a taxi home

CryingMessFFS · 02/09/2017 16:16

YANBU, I hate staying anywhere. You're only 20minutes away, why can't you get a taxi home with your baby and DH stay over if that's what he wants?

stitchglitched · 02/09/2017 16:17

YANBU. Get or taxi or send DH on on his own whilst you have a nice quiet evening at home. I wouldn't be staying away from home with a tiny baby just to facilitate my partner getting pissed.

Bluntness100 · 02/09/2017 16:17

When her dh has the next dc himself he can decide sleeping in his own bed isn't important

Ffs, yup giving birth totally gives you all the decisions in a marriage. Yup. he gets fuck all say.

Bluntness100 · 02/09/2017 16:19

When her dh has the next dc himself he can decide sleeping in his own bed isn't important

What wrong with people on here. Who said anything about him getting pissed. It was so he could have a few drinks with his parents. You can have a few drinks not be pissed but also not safe to drive. Jesus. Take it to extremes much?

Bluntness100 · 02/09/2017 16:19

I wouldn't be staying away from home with a tiny baby just to facilitate my partner getting pissed

Sorry that should be in response to this little gem.

exLtEveDallas · 02/09/2017 16:20
  1. You need to learn to drive.
  2. If your DP has to drink then you can get a taxi.
BenLui · 02/09/2017 16:22

I absolutely wouldn't want to sty the night with a new baby if I was 20 minutes from home.

I don't think my DH would either. However if your DH wants to sit up drinking with his parents why doesn't he stay over?

Why can't you go home on your own and him follow in the morning.

AlternativeTentacle · 02/09/2017 16:22

No of course you are not being unreasonable.

Can he not drive you home and pop back, or you drive home yourself, or get a cab?

MiddleClassProblem · 02/09/2017 16:23

Taxi. I'm surprised how lucky I am that DH would drop me and the baby off then head back in this situation. I don't drive but would happily get a taxi back to my dog. He's my other child.

BertrandRussell · 02/09/2017 16:24

"Your dh is being unreasonable for not standing by your decision and getting your coats on."

Why? What if he wants to spend some time with his parents?

NerrSnerr · 02/09/2017 16:25

Could he drop you home and come back or you drive and get him in the morning or get a taxi?

blueskyinmarch · 02/09/2017 16:26

If you do t want to stay over with the baby then that is fine. Either you drive yourself and baby home, DH drives you home and goes back to spend the evening with his parents or you get a taxi home. Plenty of workable options.

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