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...to be angry at DSs 'friend' for abandoning him

217 replies

MrsMuddlePluck · 28/08/2017 23:54

Boys at Reading Festival. My DS had his debit card nicked so no money to get train home. His friend got a lift from his Mum in a 7 seater car home to a street half a mile from our house. Told my son it wasn't his problem that he couldnt get home. Took 4 hours for my DH to find DS to fetch him home. In the meantime he had a panic attack - hungry, dehydrated, lonely & upset.

AIBU to want to slap this selfish little sh#t for leaving him behind?

OP posts:
Littleorangecat2012 · 28/08/2017 23:57

YANBU! What a shitty 'friend'. He should avoid this person in future - that's a pretty bad way to let someone down.

Longtime · 28/08/2017 23:57

Nope definitely not!

Loopytiles · 28/08/2017 23:58

Were DS and the friend together in the same place, or in touch by mobile, when it was time to leave?

sarahC40 · 28/08/2017 23:58

Not a friend to your poor son! Did his mother know about his situation?

Happytobefree17 · 28/08/2017 23:59

I'd be absolutely furious with his mother. What planet is she on?

Sirzy · 28/08/2017 23:59

That's not a friend!

What was the original plan for them getting back? How did they get there?

TyneTeas · 29/08/2017 00:00

How old are they?

If they had gone together, did the mother not ask about your DD when she collected hers?

steff13 · 29/08/2017 00:00

If I were the mother in that situation, I'd have offered to take him home. Even if I didn't know about the stolen debit card. I always ask my kids'friends if they need a ride when I am doing pickup.

Madwoman5 · 29/08/2017 00:03

I would be Tempted to call the mother and ask her whether she knows what went down. I would be furious with my son if he had done that.

WillowWeeping · 29/08/2017 00:03

How old is your DC and how was he originally planning on getting home?

Guavaf1sh · 29/08/2017 00:04

YANBU- slap away!

AnyFucker · 29/08/2017 00:06

How was he originally getting home ?

ijustwannadance · 29/08/2017 00:06

A real friend wouldn't do that, even if they'd had a fight about something.

Why did the other lads mum leave him there? I presume she knows him?

gingergenius · 29/08/2017 00:09

On the surface, this sounds bad. So If 16/17 - not good. If 25, Perhaps different.

RubyGoat · 29/08/2017 00:10

I'd be mortified if my child treated someone like that. It wouldn't even really matter so much why, if they'd had an argument I'd tell them to sort it out later once they were home.

Hope your DS has got his card cancelled & is now ok.

Happytobefree17 · 29/08/2017 00:10

Even if they were 40 it would not be on to not offer a lift!

Keel · 29/08/2017 00:11

Your poor lad. Hope he feels better now. That's a low, shitty way for a friend to act.

Viviennemary · 29/08/2017 00:19

I think I'd call the mother too. Chances are she knew nothing about it and her son was just being a horrible little shit.

MammaTJ · 29/08/2017 00:25

Half a mile? Really? I am pretty sure my nearly 11 year old and my just 12 year old would find getting home from that short a distance, from any direction pretty nontraumatic!

Having said that, I would not have found it a hardship to drop a child a further half a mile either!!

How did it take your DH 4 hours to find your DS half a mile away?

AnnieAnoniMouse · 29/08/2017 00:25

I'd have 'let' (not attempted to stop) DH going around there when he got home.

Did DS say why his 'friend' did this?

It would be a cold day in hell before he stepped over my threashold again. Little shit.

Still my lovely, be glad DS is home & safe, unlike one poor lad.

Italiangreyhound · 29/08/2017 00:25

Agree with Madwoman"I would be Tempted to call the mother and ask her whether she knows what went down. I would be furious with my son if he had done that."

The boy should realise that what he did was not on.

Your poor son. Thanks

Windytwigs · 29/08/2017 00:26

This doesn't sound like the whole story. If they had spent all their time together at the festival, weren't they travelling there/back together? Why get only a single ticket there if you were planning on returning by train as well? Did the friend's travel plans home change? Were they in fact going straight home (half a mile away from you)? I doubt very much that the mother knew ds couldn't get home. Did you actually get the full story?

Some ppl always think the immediate worst of others. Hmm

AnnieAnoniMouse · 29/08/2017 00:27

The friend lives half a mile away from the OP. Her DS was left at the Festival on his own.

MammaTJ · 29/08/2017 00:32

Ah,. misunderstood!! Sorry! Friends mother is a bitch of the highest form! Anything could have happened to your DS and she does not give a flying fuck!! I would be at her with both barrels!!

She needs an empathy implant, as she is seriously lacking!!

Annonymiss123 · 29/08/2017 00:33

*Add message | Report | Message poster MammaTJ Tue 29-Aug-17 00:25:04
Half a mile? Really? I am pretty sure my nearly 11 year old and my just 12 year old would find getting home from that short a distance, from any direction pretty nontraumatic!

Having said that, I would not have found it a hardship to drop a child a further half a mile either!!

How did it take your DH 4 hours to find your DS half a mile away?*

I presume the other boy lives half a mile from the OP, and DIDN'T bring him home from the festival.