NOt to offer to sit in the back?

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We are going to a theme park today. 49 minute drive. Mil has been undecided on whether to come and this morning has announced she will squash between the two car seats in the back as she has never driven there before.
She will not fit. I am about 3 sizes smaller and would be very squashed and uncomfortable. I know I should offer to sit in the back but I really don't want to! There is not reason she cannot come in her own car other than she isn't a great driver. She is only 60 and in good health so not like I am crushing the bones of an old woman but still, I know it would be the kinder thing. Aibu not to sit in the back?
I will add that we do get on fine but She isn't my kind of person.

Pink - Totally agree!!!!!! They wouldn't dare!!!!

"Why on earth are you taking a 60yr old to a Theme Park? "

Are 60 year olds not allowed on the rides, then?

Why wouldn't you take a 60yr old to a theme park if they wanted to go? I presume she understands it will be hell on earth.

Car seat in the front is an inspired solution btw why did we never think of that?

Maybe I am unreasonable too. Very possible. My personal hell is an hour of BH traffic crammed in between annoying dcs, listening to my mil wittering on to dh, on the way to somewhere even less comfortable to stand in a queue all day in the burning sun. Yes I am a misery.

Why on earth are you taking a 60yr old to a Theme Park?

You are right - they shouldn't be allowed out in the community, God knows what they might do. Get back in your houses all you presumptuous, theme park loving 60yr olds and STFU.

Why on earth are you taking a 60yr old to a Theme Park? How on earth did you get her to agree to go? My Mum would NEVER come to a Theme Park! In fact she hasn't been anywhere with my daughter, but that's another thread entirely...confused

Maybe she goes with other people and doesn't tell you incase you spoil her fun. Maybe you're too much of a kill joy for her.

Why wouldn't you take a 60yr old to a theme park if they wanted to go? I presume she understands it will be hell on earth

Actually they're great fun and at 60 I wont stop going anytime soon. Me and my brother. There isn't a ride scary enough for us here or abroad.

Why on earth are you taking a 60yr old to a Theme Park?

I guess because they were told to take her out of the tank occasionally. Maybe the air holes needed clearing.

(Ffs.)

I never sit in the back in my own car. I am larger however and I would find it more uncomfortable than most people

@Penhacked, I don't much like listening to MIL wittering away to DH either, and she can witter for England lol, especially on the telephone, but she does have the right to talk to him sometimes. There's only one thing worse than her wittering away to DH and that's her wittering away to me, so I just let them get on with it.

But I know I'm being U so I just suck it up, such is life. (I won't start my own thread on it though I have been tempted lol.)

YANBU - being squashed in the back seat or letting MIL be squashed in the back is not comfortable for anyone and probably massively unsafe given the extra weight impacting on the car seats should there be a crash!

Yeah, because mils "witter"

Other people talk, or chat or even have conversations. But mils witter.

I don't think it matters if the OP is a stick insect - it is never comfortable for an adult to sit between two car seats in the middle seat at the back. Never! Really, that kind of car is a 5 seater for adults, or 4 seater if there are car seats involved.

MIL...does have the right to talk to him sometimes.

Ah that's nice of you - allowing your MIL the right to speak to her son sometimes.

Other people talk, or chat or even have conversations. But mils witter.

Too true. Les Dawson's legacy lives on.

You sound like a tweenager

Other people talk, or chat or even have conversations. But mils witter

To be fair, an awful lot of people witter, mil or otherwise!

YABU and mean. 60 is not super old but isn't young either. I hope karma bites you in the ass when you are 60+.

It is almost laughable the way some grown women on here view people who are over 60, how they view mils, and expect their husbands or partners to have no regard for their own mother once they have a wife/partner.
I doubt it ever crosses their mind that it may sometimes be themselves that are the problem.
I hope they are looking forward to the day their own sons marry a woman sees them as a pain in the arse....because they will.

Gottagetmoving

Agree with you 100%.

@bluegrape, I was being tongue in cheek, sorry. It's just that my DH complains about her talking for ages on the phone and exhausting him so the comment about wittering rang a bell.

I'm fascinated by the feeling by some that a 60 year old woman is a little old lady. Most women of this age will still be working full time or looking after grandchildren full or part time.

At what age does one become incapable of leading the same life as the rest of us, and start wearing orthopaedic sandals and a rain bonnet. My mother and my MIL are mid seventies and nothing like the "old women" portrayed on this thread. They are just the same women they were 10 or 20 or 30 years ago .

The majority of 60yr olds I know wouldn't be seen dead at a Theme Park!
At what point did I say they "shouldn't be allowed out?!" Now that is putting words into my mouth isn't it?

I don't think you're being unreasonable, OP. MIL is an adult and can decide for herself whether she prefers to sit in the back of your car, or to follow you in her own car to the theme park if she wishes to go. Your DH is an adult and can help his mother if she asks. Nobody has requested that you sit in the back, so I'd personally feel it would be the most polite to respect her decision until she asks for it to change, and then let your DH help his own mom.

That said, the children's safety should come first, and this should lead your decision about where to put the carseat. I'd suggest asking your pediatrician.