NOt to offer to sit in the back?

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We are going to a theme park today. 49 minute drive. Mil has been undecided on whether to come and this morning has announced she will squash between the two car seats in the back as she has never driven there before.
She will not fit. I am about 3 sizes smaller and would be very squashed and uncomfortable. I know I should offer to sit in the back but I really don't want to! There is not reason she cannot come in her own car other than she isn't a great driver. She is only 60 and in good health so not like I am crushing the bones of an old woman but still, I know it would be the kinder thing. Aibu not to sit in the back?
I will add that we do get on fine but She isn't my kind of person.

It's not that bad in the back and it's far better to only take one car.

Dh can squash in the back and you drive.

Why do people just make up problems for themselves. Let her sit there for this one time fgs.

Presumably the car seats will be occupied by your children? So you could have a lovely journey talking to them...

YABU and very petty.

I guess the OP wanted the MN stamp of approval from the MIL haterz?

In the words of Nessa. Don't be a twat Stace.

You've already said she has announced she will squash between the seats in the back. So why do you have to sit in the back?? She obviously doesn't mind! You're being ridiculous!

It sounds as thought you are being unkind.

It is extravagant, wasteful and polluting to take a second car when everyone would fit into one.

You're moving, not because if her age, but because if her size and the comfort of the other back seat passengers. But if you cannot be considerate on this occasion, no-one will force you.

Put one car seat in the front and one car seat in the middle of the back and both sit in the back.

Yes I can drive.
And the point is that we can't comfortably fit in the car. I would have to sit at an angle the whole time which will be painful. And I didn't invite her. In fact I wasn't asked if I minded her coming at all! As it happens I don't mind her coming. I do mind being in pain for an hour and a half because she doesn't like driving out of the city she lives in. I may suggest I drive our other car and meet DH and mil there. Then we are all comfortable.

YANBU. I can technically fit between the two car seats in the back seat of my car but no way could I travel for an hour! I have to sit on one butt cheek and twist my back and getting the seatbelt round me is very difficult.

I don't think there are many cars whereby an adult can fit comfortably between two car seats so unless your car is very big then I don't think you're being unreasonable.

WHY don't you want to sit I the back?
Is it a power thing? Your mil can't have your place in the front?
It's so petty. You know YABU. If you don't, then you are not rational.
I really hate these ridiculous resentments of mils. Grow up.

I can't imagine making my MIL drive somewhere if she wasn't confident to do so when I could help her out by being a bit uncomfortable and all going in one car.

Are you for real

I'd stay at home avoid the '49 minute' journey both ways....

You sound like the joy police

She has offered to sit in the back yes, but we all know she won't fit and at that point I would be obliged to offer to swap. That is what is annoying. If someone said to me. "Do you mind sitting in the back as mil won't fit" I would do it. But it is expected of me and that is what pisses me off.
And no I won't get to chat to my kids. One will be asleep and the other gluedto his iPad so I will be sat there squashed and listening to DH and mil talk amongst themselves.

You sound like a control freak OP.

Of course yabu. And mean

My MIL is a narcissistic bully who is fairly vile to DH and I (but lovely to DD) and even I wouldn't be this petty. There's no need to take 2 cars when you will all fit in one, it's not a long journey and you would be the lest uncomfortable sat in the back so just be a good person and offer.

Why don't you drive the kids and dh go with mil. Otherwise, you or dh must at least offer to sit in the back.

Yes I can drive.
And the point is that we can't comfortably fit in the car. I would have to sit at an angle the whole time which will be painful. And I didn't invite her. In fact I wasn't asked if I minded her coming at all! As it happens I don't mind her coming. I do mind being in pain for an hour and a half because she doesn't like driving out of the city she lives in. I may suggest I drive our other car and meet DH and mil there. Then we are all comfortable.

Why ask here then? You clearly already made up your mind,

So take your other car and meet them there. Sorted.

Of course it isn't a power thing. It is a "i don't want to sit with my spine twisted for an hour thing!"
If someone asked me nicely to do it I would. But no one will. It is expected of me to be nice enough to offer.
And what annoys me the most of everything is that despite anything said on here. When it comes down to it of course o will swap! Because no decent human being wouldn't.

I said I will suggest it. It will cause an argument though.

put one of kids in the front and then two adults in the back?

And I didn't invite her. In fact I wasn't asked if I minded her coming at all! As it happens I don't mind her coming.

Well thats not mils fault. And you dont mind her coming, so why would ot matter if you werent asked

You could also not take the ipad