It was my day

[6demandingchildren]

It was my birthday yesterday, I woke up for ready to help "DH" out at work as he was very short staffed, when I woke up I didn't even get a card from hubby or the 2 youngest (hubby would of had to get a card from the youngest).
My daughter phoned to wish me a happy birthday and offered to bring me breakfast but I declined as not everyone eats McDonald's.
I go downstairs and there is nothing waiting, we go to work and I was expecting something there but when for there their was also nothing. So I thought he was really dragging this out and maybe he had arranged a BBQ after work with family and maybe friends, well we get home and nothing, I refused to cry in front of him but I did cry and I still am.
My son and Dil brought the grandkids round and got me flowers and a blouse, then my daughter and sil came round and got me a book and a bottle of prosecco, but by this time I was so very upset, all I wanted was a card and a thought but I didn't get that from DH, he is not the most romantic man and I accept that but this was my special day and it was like it never mattered. Aibu?

Well it doesn't really help at all. Obviously.

@strawberrisc

I hate people being precious over birthdays

Oh well.

OP, I'd have been upset too and have been in the past. I have since schooled DP in how things are re birthdays but do have to remind him of some things well in advance (he needs lots of notice, as though it's a surprise, apart from when he doesn't. No, I don't understand it either). It's not about the money for me either - it's about caring and showing love and appreciation. I also think it's important to celebrate special days, otherwise life can get very mundane and samey.

Glad you're feeling better now. I would def recommend that you plan a bit more next year - let him know a bit more about what you expect.

On the bright side, you're loved and family did think about you.

I've been with my DH for so many birthdays now that I often don't do cards or presents- we might go out for dinner or I'd make him breakfast and cards from the kids but nothing huge.

My husband completely forgot mine this year too.... No card, fine.. not saying happy birthday grated on me a bit though - since I had about 500 FB messages on my wall saying it and he was on FB tagging me in stuff.... shocking... but I got over it... I was 39 not 9.