To not be thankful MIL has cut the grass?

[Dontgiveaflyingfuck]

Just got back from a week camping to discover MIL has been gardening. How do i know this in the dark? Because the house I spent my only child free day the entire summer holiday cleaning is a fucking tip. She has dragged everything out of cupboards to find things and has left stuff everywhere. I have a 2 year old and the sight of hedge trimmers, saws, two badly balanced ladders and numerous cables gave me palpatations. Oh and the house is covered in mud and grass. My oldest two (9 and 7) are upset because their bedroom is a tip. Eldest child is autistic and everything is now in the wrong place. I assume MIL left my 2 year old nephew whom she cares for in the bedroom while she made my house into a shit tip. DH thinks we should be thankful shes tried to help. I'm dreading the daylight - if shes cut my fucking hedges im going balistic. I have lovely neighbours but very noisy so grow the hedges tall for privacy and MIL has always complained they are too high.

It's daylight OP.........can you see the hedge?

@Dontgiveaflyingfuck dare I mention it's daylight now...

What's the verdict? Hedge or No Hedge?

Gosh I hope it's not too bad...

My MIL has done some gardening a few days this week as she's been to let the dogs out, but she's very good and always asks about anything big/significant before going near it!

Further to script...
And how bizzare, they have Done Things in Our Garden.
We feel so violated. Do you think it was the neighbours? We purposely left the hedges high because...Sob.
We're going to have to move. Sob.

It won't happen again.

What a very strange story.

Did she think you were going for 2 weeks? It's still odd- but might explain the mess.............

Not as bad but in laws stayed in our house while we were away and fil in law did some "gardening" i.e. hacking away at our hedges and trees which he really enjoys doing and we have to be grateful for. Leaving all the cuttings for me to get rid of, didn't want them chopped back anyway. Doesn't do any of the crappy gardening like weeding

Uck my mother does stuff like this, drives me nuts.

Um lone voice saying you are being a tad unreasonable - as someone whose mil ignores us and refuses to visit is give anything for a slightly over involved but means well mil. She did mean well even if she messed up.

I'd be fuming too. My in-laws do similar so I can sympathise. DH also just thinks we should be 'grateful'.

Your DH needs to speak to her.

No one who leaves mud and grass tramped into your floor is in any way reasonable. Get dh on board to clean up today. And change locks. Never ever ever give her a key again. But if your dh is defending her he needs to feel the discomfort of having to put it right

Sorry but so what if she meant well, she's trashed the place! Cheeky fuckers all over the place bet on getting away with shit because "oh but I meant well".

no you shouldn't be grateful for something you didn't want nor ask for. my mil tried this too.

I have no idea how the kids bedrooms are involved in gardening??

Are you sure it was mil. Maybe you were burgled

Why do people like this get keys?

Leaving someone elses house like a tip is not helping anyone Twist. OP has spent her on my child free day cleaning up the mess hardly helpful is it? She had no business in the bedrooms or letting nephew trash the bedrooms. Dragging mud and grass all over the house is not helpful in any universe.

I would be furious to come back to a house like that.

OP your dh should have cleaned up if he thinks it's ok. But you need stern words with your Mil.

Kids bedrooms appear to be messed up courtesy of the 2yr old nephew that MIL brought with het

Just wondering what the actua freaking use a love spell would be on an interfering Mil?

Get a life!

There's meaning well and then there's trashing the house and not tidying up after yourself!

I always clean before we go so I come home to a tidy house, I'd be gutted to come home to this!

"She did mean well even if she messed up."

How do you know?

Reported the spell casting post, might be useful to spread a little love around though!

DF used to do our garden because XH couldn't be arsed and apparently I was incapable. One time when we were on holiday, he went into my bedroom (no idea why) and spotted some clean, folded clothes that I had decided, at the last minute, not to take with me. He took them home with him, washed and ironed them and brought them back. Apart from the fact they didn't need washed and what the fuck was he doing in my bedroom anyway, I was massively allergic to the washing powder he used and had to wash all the clothes again, plus treat myself for the ghastly rash I developed. When I got on to him about it, he declared that he assumed that I had left them out for washing (who folds dirty clothes?) and he had gone into my bedroom to check that the window was closed.

This was on the day he went away and left my patio doors standing wide open. Fortunately, my neighbours spotted this and knew to phone him. He was completely unrepentant, as 'nothing had been nicked'...

He meant well, but still... While he continued to come into my house like it was his own, he never again touched any of my stuff.

I for one am glad I saw the spell casting post before it was deleted. Gave me a chuckle before breakfast.

I won't allow anyone in my house when we are all out. It's a good rule to deter helpful in laws.

When you really just want to say 'fuck off, you interfering old bat'

It's true. I do.

Keys back please.

This sounds awful and I would be fucking furious but I don't understand why she has brought hedge trimmers, saws and ladders into your house. Weren't they in a shed or garage?