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To ask if I have left it all too late?

184 replies

youcan · 13/08/2017 15:19

Aged 37, for marriage and children?

Be honest!

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SleepFreeZone · 13/08/2017 15:20

No.

SheSaidHeSaid · 13/08/2017 15:21

Nope.

humanfemale · 13/08/2017 15:23

No way.

DustinGee · 13/08/2017 15:24

Definitely not.

user1480334601 · 13/08/2017 15:25

Nope. My mum had me at 41 and that was 30 years ago!

And I was single 2 years ago, today I'm sat curled up on sofa with a fiance and our 9 week old.

Plenty time just be positive and open to it

Usernamegone · 13/08/2017 15:25

I got married 8 months ago and I am now expecting my first child. I'm 37.

MagnumAddict · 13/08/2017 15:27

Honestly? For natural conception by the time you meet someone, maybe.

For marriage, definitely not.

There will always be stories of whirlwind romances and happy ever afters with kids post 40 and that absolutely does happen but sometimes it doesn't and it's only sensible to prepare yourself or make alternative arrangements in case it doesn't.

Mummaofboys · 13/08/2017 15:27

No

milliemolliemou · 13/08/2017 15:28

No. Have you got all your ducks in the row if Mr Magic or Ms Magic doesn't turn up? Could you afford to go it yourself?

Clearly you can google the odds.

AnUtterIdiot · 13/08/2017 15:29

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Orangebird69 · 13/08/2017 15:29

Nope. I got married at 37, baby at 40 conceived naturally.

ethelfleda · 13/08/2017 15:31

Of course not.

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SleepFreeZone · 13/08/2017 15:32

I was single at 35, met my fiancé at 36, expecting a baby at 37 and am now 42 and expecting number 3.

user1490465531 · 13/08/2017 15:32

Are you in a relationship now OP? marriage can happen at any age but baby wise as someone said by the time you meet someone and then wait to have a baby you might be nearing 40+.
If your more desparate for a baby I would look at other options as waiting for the right one can waste years that fertility wise you might not have.

Loveache · 13/08/2017 15:34

Nope. My best friend's mother was widowed early, didn't meet anyone again until her late thirties. Then believed she couldn't have kids. Had my friend at 43 and they're well and happy 34 years later. :)

cottagerose · 13/08/2017 15:37

Definitely not. Im 40 now and only I met my other half when I was 37. My life has changed so much, moved to a different area, left my horrible job and are now expecting out first baby. Never could have imagined any of it.

youcan · 13/08/2017 15:37

I'm not in a relationship at the moment, no.

It does worry me as I desperately want a family.

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Butterymuffin · 13/08/2017 15:39

Get cracking on the child front then. Look at your options. You can get married any time.

youcan · 13/08/2017 15:40

It's a family I want not a child buttery

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notevernotnevernotnohow · 13/08/2017 15:41

You will get an awful lot of No, I know so and so who had 3 children after 45 etc.....and that may well be true.
But logically, if you are 37 and not in a relationship, you do not have very much time. To meet someone, form a relationship strong enough, get married (if that is important to you) AND also get and stay pregnant at least once.....well the chances are lowering all the time.

Nobody knows. You may be someone who stays very fertile for another 10 years, or you may already be in the fertility drop off stage. You may meet someone tomorrow and all goes well, or you may meet somone tomorrow and break up in 3 years and be back here.

Impossible for anyone to sy.

WhatEaglesWear · 13/08/2017 15:45

Would you consider children without a partner?

Drycleanonly7 · 13/08/2017 15:46

Not at all. Met my husband at 38 and had our son at 41. Go for it!

BeyondThePage · 13/08/2017 15:49

No, not left too late at all.

I had a long term relationship break down at 35 - one of his parting comments was "good luck with finding someone who wants you to have their babies at your age ".

I did.

Spent 6 months wallowing in self pity, picked myself up, dusted myself off and started living for me for a change.

Met DH at 36, married at 37, babies at 38 and 39.

Rossigigi · 13/08/2017 15:50

No it's not to late. Why not join a dating site?