To ask if I have left it all too late?

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Aged 37, for marriage and children?

Be honest!

What about coparenting? I am currently 38 weeks pregnant with a gay man I met on a coparenting site. He's financially contributing and helping with childcare. It wasn't my plan A but, like you, I was running out of fertile years. I'll worry about my love life in a year or two, with less pressure - I was going on first dates and sizing up the men based on my hopes for a baby, not for how compatible we were.
Definitely go to the GP and ask for the basic fertility blood tests. You might need to fib and say you've been ttc for a while to get them, I'm not sure. It would give you an idea of how long you've got.

Nope, Hubs was 37 when we got married, and 38 when I gave birth 13 months later.

You're as young as the person you feel ;)

If you want the whole family, you need to meet someone first. Go online etc. If you are then infertile there are lots of options - I was married at 39 but needed donor eggs to have my twins at 44, but if that hadn't worked I would have looked into adoption. Or as PPs have said you might meet someone with children already. Good luck!

Ok so all those people saying you haven't left it too late as they/their friend / relative had a baby past 40 are a bit misleading. The honest answer is that you may have left it too late for a family as it is totally down to the state of your ovaries and reproductive organs / hormones etc.
I started trying for a family at 38 and I am 46 now and we have two children both conceived in my 40s but we have also had lots of miscarriages, an ectopic, a stillbirth and thousands spent on fertility treatment. It's been a nightmare journey.
If I was you right now I would get some basic fertility blood testing done - day 3 FSH, LH and AMH, day 21 progesterone and thyroid function as well as consider a scan to include an antral follicle count and check of uterus structure, any fibroids or endometriosis etc. That way you will get an idea of where you are at. You would also find out the likely success of an egg freezing cycle at the same time which would be a great way of giving you more time if it's possible for you. Once you have eggs frozen then you have at least the chance of a baby in the future even past menopause.
As others have said you also need to be proactive about finding a partner - time is ticking and the sooner the better!

You've put yourself in a tough position. You're also not selling yourself well.

"no home, no job, no money and no support"

I think the pool of men that would be interested in starting a family with you drops drastically knowing that you will be using them for their money and sperm. I can't imagine being pressured to marry/get you pregnant before they are comfortable doing so will help much either.

You gotta work on yourself. What can you bring to the table that makes you attractive to potential suitors? How low are you willing to drop your standards bar?

To be honest, you're going to have to work really hard and not wait for Mr. Right to stroll into your living room tomorrow and start a family with you. You need to reflect on what you do have that makes you attractive and put everything you have into it.

I was brutal. But you need brutal right now.

Can I offer some insight based on my experience? Others may disagree and I may well be spouting bs, but here goes...

Have you been in many relationships before and have you found it hard to find a partner in the past or not? I only say this because I have NEVER found it easy. I've always been invisible to men. That's how I knew in my heart of hearts that when I turned 36, I would be going it alone. And how at 42, with one wonderful, perfect DD but still no man, I am 100% sure I made the right decision

A friend of mine went through a horrid divorce a few years ago, vowed to be single and then bam, met a new partner within 6 months. She had never been single for any length of time. I have other friends who seem to just attract men like this too.

If you are in the first camp (me) I would probably say left it too late, make other plans. If however you are in the second then you will undoubtedly meet someone and probably soon.

I'm prepared to be told my logic is ridiculous, but I've only learned through what I've lived!

Dear OP, I have read all the posts here and I am confused. What do you want? You posted here under AIBU yet you don't want advice, and you don't want couselling. You want a family but not a baby. You're worried you're getting to old to have a baby yet you dismiss the long-term solutions such as egg freezing because you don't believe it works. You're in a difficult situation with no home, no money and no job - it sounds to me that by 'family' you really mean a partner to support you emotionally and financially, right?

In this case there's absolutely no way of telling whether you left it to late or not as you don't give any details of your relationship situation. Have you met someone but you're not sure whether to marry him in case it's too late for you to have children? Do you not have anyone and you're just starting to look for a serious relationship? Has your previous relationship broken down and you're left with nothing? So many questions, so few answers.

My answer is, there's no way of telling if you've left it too late, but if you do want a baby in the future, time is not on your side.

I wish you best of luck in your life.

definitely not! i married at 40 had my first baby (and only) at 44 after a few miscarriages.
i wouldn't recommend it for everyone but that's how it worked out for me.

I found that i wasn't fazed by certain things that would have bothered me had i been younger, such as tantrums in public, which i ignored and didn't give in to.

On the other hand i was twice the age of the other mums and while it didn't really bother me (or Dd) since i never looked my age, but i didn't have much in common with them so i dreaded going to children's party's because it bored the pants off me!

But going by my experience you're a spring chicken... so go for it!!!

All the best OP.

For marriage you'll be fine but having tried for a 2nd baby for some years (now 40) we've had to accept we're probably not going to get that 2nd baby. We started trying for no. 2 when I was 37 and nothing's happened. Although there are lots of ladies upthread with babies born in their 40s many women do struggle to conceive after 37 so it's much less likely that you'd get that than marriage. Sorry OP.