Hate bloody MAN HOBBIES

[1wokeuplikethis]

My husband has one of those expensive hobbies (LTB immediately, I know) which takes him off for nearly a whole day at a weekend if he wants wants to fully embrace it. I encourage it because what's good for him is good for us and he is wholely supportive of me getting some hobby to do (I don't have any, can't think of any, my hobby is spending time as a family).

As a SAHM to a 4 & 1 year old (who don't go to nursery) and with a husband who works full time 9-5, I actually dread these weekends because it cuts into our family time massively and it's more of me doing the same thing I do every day of the week (clue: being run ragged). I was supportive of him taking up the hobby because I love him basically. But my teeth are hurtin from gritting them as I say 'oh this weekend? Yeah no problem' and acting breezy. I have told him how I feel and he is considerate aka doesn't go every single weekend & gives me plenty of notice and we do things as a family the rest of the weekend.

I just don't like it!

Because if I didn't my dc would eat anything but sandwiches or toast or McDonald's

So then your DH needs to learn to cook as well and meals are the responsibility of both adults in the house.

There's another thread on something similar (nagging and why some men seem to not be capable of choose not to doing basic chores without being directed).

If women stopped assuming men need to be told to do basic tasks and stopped doing things for them because 'they can't...' we'd be in a better place.

I've asked/told him time and time again to cook, but he says he can't and he fine with a sandwich forgetting that there are other people in the house that need to eat.

And also because he does contribute to other stuff around they house like washing, cleaning etc he doesn't think food (shopping or cooking) is something he has to worry about

Anyway sorry to derail OP this is your thread, not about my inability to get my DH to understand how unbalanced our lives are.

Good luck with finding a hobby you enjoy - I'm still going to work on finding time to binge watch box sets

What's a man hobby?

A sexist view of life where women just look after kids clean the house and watch TV whilst men have interesting hobbies.
If I'm out cycling then pasta and pesto or a sandwich is fine for tea. Housework and cooking expand to fill the time available

lets You have my utmost sympathy if that's how he carries on with food.
I'm normally very chilled out on relationship things (and have been called out on it on here a few times), but grown adults missing the point of basic tasks drives me mad.
Maybe you should just go on strike and see how long it takes him to grow up and cook a simple dinner. Pasta and sauce is easier than sandwich.

Man hobby

lets I'd be cooking for me and the kids and letting him make a sandwich with that attitude. Dh and I are both rubbish cooks, we've just sorted out ten or so easy meals we can both do. He's a lazy twat.

I know someone whose husband goes away for 4 weeks every summer doing their hobby. 4 fucking weeks! Three young dc too.