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Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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PinkyPie2012 · 06/08/2017 23:55

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

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Allthebestnamesareused · 06/08/2017 23:58

You can get some pretty cheap ones for kids. Would you compromise on tartan trousers?

Scabetty · 06/08/2017 23:58

He will look adorable. I have a Scottish dh and the kilt is non-neg I'm afraid Wink

Scabetty · 06/08/2017 23:59

I think you can hire them.

Redglitter · 07/08/2017 00:01

Ugh tartan trousers are awful

Awww get him a wee cheap kilt. Hell look so cute. Make sure he has a wee teeny sporran. My SIL nephew was 2 at their wedding he made an absolute fortune with people putting money in his sporran. It had to be emptied several times Grin

ilovesooty · 07/08/2017 00:01

I'd hire it I think.

Oops4 · 07/08/2017 00:02

They're pretty compulsory 😊 Besides a two year old in a kilt is just about the cutest thing you'll see and he'll get lots of attention from the photographer.

It's your husbands tradition and you pick up wee mini ones for about £10-20, so yes YABU.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 07/08/2017 00:02

It's a request, ignore it if you want to.

However, you can buy or rent them cheaply (or borrow one). He will look gorgeous 😊

OfficerVanHalen · 07/08/2017 00:03

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MrsRhettButler · 07/08/2017 00:04

What does your dh think? If dh wants him to wear one then that has to be taken into consideration.

ReinettePompadour · 07/08/2017 00:04

We went to bils wedding. The brides family are Scottish and insisted on ds wearing a kilt (also about 2 at the time). I just put him in normal trouser suit and bought a waistcoat in the correct tartan. No one said a word and several men turned up in trousers and not kilts despite actually being Scottish.

At 2 years of age they still have accidents and you may want to take spare trousers along anyway so it seems daft to spend a fortune on a kilt that will undoubtedly need changing out of anyway.

SuperRainbows · 07/08/2017 00:06

YABU. She's invited your ds. Lots of people exclude children.

MrEBear · 07/08/2017 00:06

Hire it. What does his Dad want?

bloodymaria · 07/08/2017 00:06

Hire one, he'll look amazing. NO tartan trousers unless he's Rupert.

PlaymobilPirate · 07/08/2017 00:07

Yabu - what does your dp think?

sycamore54321 · 07/08/2017 00:08

A bit of a tricky one. If I had to take my 2 year old to a wedding, I'd have to buy a smart pair of trousers as he lives in joggers, shorts and soft comfy trousers. So if you need to buy something anyway, why not a kilt, as he likely will grow out of the wedding clothes without another wear anyway. But I sense it is more about your reluctance not to "do what you're told" which is somewhat understandable but by complying, you are honouring the culture of the couple and of your husband so the benefits might be worth the cost?

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/08/2017 00:09

I agree with pps. My first reaction was how adorable he'll look! You will cherish the photos, I'm sure. Smile

robinia · 07/08/2017 00:12

My first reaction was the opposite!
I like pp idea of normal trousers and a tartan waistcoat. Unless your dh has a strong opinion I'd dress your ds the way you want, not be dictated to, unless he's a page boy.

steff13 · 07/08/2017 00:13

I saw the sweetest little boy in a kilt last night at dinner. He was under a year old and just darling.

I saw more of his daddy than I wanted to when he bent over to pick up a receipt off the floor, though. Shock

WhamBarsArentAsFizzyAsTheyWere · 07/08/2017 00:16

There are loads of cheap second hand ones online. Even the new ones can be bought cheaply and then resold afterwards.

What is it you don't like about them?

HiJenny35 · 07/08/2017 00:19

As it's part of his heritage I think it would be a real shame to make a point of refusing to do it. You could get one for little cost and take trousers for after the photos if you wish but what a lovely thing to look back on as an adult.

Salmotrutta · 07/08/2017 00:20

How cute is this:-

Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?
Dinosauratemydaffodils · 07/08/2017 00:20

Totally biased as I love kilts but we went to a family wedding last year and ds (aged 20 months at the time) looked absolutely adorable in his. He's now 2 and half and can still fit in it which is handy as he will be wearing it to a wedding at the end of the month. He also wore it to a christening earlier in the year with a jumper and for some professional photos we had done.

It's a velcro one specifically for children and cost £25 I think. I'd only bother with the full outfit if he's going to be a pageboy and just teamed ours with plain shirt/jumper, long cream socks I got from the supermarket and black shoes.

I do hate inflexible dress codes though.

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PinkyPie2012 · 07/08/2017 00:20

DH doesn't have a kilt so he would have to buy or hire one for himself. Wedding is in another country so if we hire it's not like we can return them the very next day and I think they charge per day? Also I am not expecting DS to be fully potty trained by then and if he has an accident that kilt would be ruined. And yes, I also do not like doing it just because someone said so.

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sleepyhead · 07/08/2017 00:21

Don't if you don't want to, but ds2's kilt for a wedding aged 3 cost £12.99 in the local tourist tartan shop.

You may not have a local tourist tartan shop, but eBay will fill a similar function.

The cheap ones look great on a toddler. No need splash out on made to measure wool.

TestTubeTeen · 07/08/2017 00:23

And what does your Scottish DH think about this?

Why don't you like kilts?

Someone will have an outgrown one.

Just do it. Don't create awkwardness for no reason.