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Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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PinkyPie2012 · 06/08/2017 23:55

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

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CoughLaughFart · 07/08/2017 00:53

Christ , someone's overdosed on the drama.

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 07/08/2017 00:57

You've actually insulted posters on a word that most Scottish people don't even register as Scottish. It is so ubiquitous that I can't imagine people not using it.

Then you went on to say that people were doing it for parody.

Pretty culturally insensitive tbh. Especially on a thread about kilts.

MeanAger · 07/08/2017 00:58

I'm opening a book. Odds on the wedding being your sister in law's are 2:1.

Seeingadistance · 07/08/2017 00:58

It's on a fucking thread about kilts for crying out loud. If you can't deal with Scottish people on a thread about kilts then you shouldn't read the bloody thread.

Grin

Maybe you just need a wee lie down, if you're finding it all too dramatic.

OfficerVanHalen · 07/08/2017 00:58

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Maci · 07/08/2017 00:59

If you have Scottish family, can you ask if someone has a child's kilt that you can borrow?

ThanksForAllTheFish · 07/08/2017 01:00

CoughLaughFart I would hardly say the word 'wee' was being used endlessly - 4 times it was mentioned in the 35 posts before your comment.

You are being rude.

WeAllHaveWings · 07/08/2017 01:03

What is your problem with the word wee? It has been used in scotland for centuries, and is very commonplace. I probably use it several times a day.

Wee = pee on the other hand is by comparison very modern, it would make much more sense for everyone to use the word pee instead.

Obviously, only if that is ok with you?

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 07/08/2017 01:04

Seeing- just getting a bit sick and tired of anti-Scottish jibes on MN. They seem to be little and often.

iogo · 07/08/2017 01:04

toddlers in kilts are the cutest thing. I'm Scottish and we got my son a kilt outfit for various weddings. All photographers loved him and he went around all the drunk uncles saying "penny for my sporran" and made a fortune! At my cousin's wedding he got about £20! Was hilarious.

YellowPaisley · 07/08/2017 01:06

CoughingLaughFart educate your wee self

Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?
ThanksForAllTheFish · 07/08/2017 01:06

TrollTheRespawnJeremy

That should have been - wee and often Grin

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 07/08/2017 01:08

It did cross my mind but I didn't want to take the piss Grin

varvara · 07/08/2017 01:11

Scottish person here. I don't know where people get off commanding wedding guests to wear kilts. Not all men feel comfortable wearing them and not all have the legs for them.

The whole kilts at weddings thing is NOT an old tradition - it only really took off in the late 80's/90's - in most photographs from Scottish weddings prior to that you'll find the bridegrooms are wearing suits. Many older men, e.g. my father aren't used to it and wouldn't feel comfortable.

Also really dislike to see very wee boys in kilts - dressed up like little dolls, as if they're accessories. Let them look like children, not mini adults.

nikiforov · 07/08/2017 01:14

My friend once told me about a cousin who wasn't allowed to say "pee" because it was 'common', he had to say "wee wee" when he needed the toilet. One day, he wanted to ask for some peanuts and said "mummy, can I have some wee wee nuts?"

Can't vouch for the truth of the story but this thread made me think of it Grin

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 07/08/2017 01:19

Sort of Varvara... it was mostly landed gentry wore kilts for events. A bit of pomp and ceremony.

So it's not an old tradition for everyone to wear kilts- but it definitely is for some families.

Clan tartans however... now there's a swizz!

squoosh · 07/08/2017 01:25

Just ignore it OP and put him in a pair of trousers. He's 2, he'll be cute whatever he wears. I don't think the 'rules' for the men's dress code need apply to a toddler.

scottishtreehugger · 07/08/2017 01:30

He will look so cute!

But please no cheap kilts, you can totally tell.

Get a proper one but second hand.

Oh, and make sure it's not too long. Most folks who wear the kilt wear it too.

scottishtreehugger · 07/08/2017 01:33

too long that is.

But although I totally think your should dress you DS in a kilt, I wouldn't like to be told what to wear to a wedding. As PP said, not all men like to wear the kilt. It's a personal thing.

Ginkypig · 07/08/2017 01:44

You realise most lots of Scottish posters moderate their language on here so that they are understood. In "real" life they use Scottish words at all times except when they are talking to mostly non Scottish speakers. It's not cliche it's just that it's rare that they actually get to talk in the way that they find natural and normal.

As for the kilt it's up to you but why have you got such an issue with it? They are cheap to get in that small a size and your point about it being grown out of quickly well that would be the same for any outfit that you have to get for the wedding

abbey44 · 07/08/2017 01:48

If it's a Scottish wedding of Scottish family, with all the males in kilts, why not just go with the flow? It'll stand out so much if you don't, and really, life's too short... You don't have to spend a fortune on a kilt for a child of that age - no more than some smart trousers, anyway.

When my DS1 was nearly 3, my SIL got married in Scotland (DH family Scottish, me not) and he was in a kilt, with red Elefanten boots (do they still do these?). He was utterly adorable and stole the show. Looking back on the photos gets me even now, 20 years later.

SenecaFalls · 07/08/2017 01:52

Many Americans also use "wee" for "little" quite often. It's probably the most commonly used Scots word in American English, except maybe for "pinkie."

GetOutOfMYGarden · 07/08/2017 01:59

If you don't want him to wear one then don't go. The bride and groom want all the lads in kilts.

TheDowagerCuntess · 07/08/2017 02:00

And yes, I also do not like doing it just because someone said so.

This is a really eye-rolly reason not to do something.

'Wee' is used for little here in NZ.

timeisnotaline · 07/08/2017 02:02

You did marry a Scottish man... there are cultural differences that actually cause problems, and then there's wearing kilts to weddings! You didn't even mention what your dh thought in your op. I'd expect my dh to be far more sensitive to any traditions of my culture if we had different backgrounds. Get your son a kilt, buying sounds affordable and easy. Put him in pull-ups, or if you strongly prefer to make a point by having him pee on his new kilt, don't. Wish the couple a very happy and joyous life together. Enjoy the wedding.