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Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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PinkyPie2012 · 06/08/2017 23:55

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

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MrsDilber · 09/01/2018 07:14

Get one off eBay. Sell it on eBay afterwards. He'll look adorable.

LadyBunnysWig · 09/01/2018 07:37

Haha just seen the original date of this. I was too wrapped up imagining my DH in a kilt and needed a cool shower

AllMyBestFriendsAreMetalheads · 09/01/2018 07:43

Ahhh Zombie thread.

My general rule for things like this though - bride and groom insist, bride and groom pay.

FreddieClaryHorshieLion · 09/01/2018 07:45

Trending is based on views, not posts I believe)

Oops. Thanks :) I honestly didn’t know that.

LyraPotter · 09/01/2018 07:49

If your son isn't in the wedding party then I don't think it's especially reasonable of the couple to try and dictate what he can wear. If he's a pageboy or similar then it's a bit different.

In any event, you can hire kilts for children which would be cheaper than buying, and he would look very cute. It might be worth having a look and seeing if there is an affordable option to keep people happy.

Shineystrawberrylover · 09/01/2018 07:53

Nothing like enforcing a made up tradition to make your guests feel welcome eh?

HoppingPavlova · 09/01/2018 07:56

YABU - your child has been invited and there is a dress code.

You are making out they are the most expensive item on earth when this is not the case, you can get a cheapie so it does not matter it is going to be the one wear. As for the toilet training - if actually toilet trained or training the kilt is going to be soooo much easier than trousers would be so what an absolute win there. If not toilet trained then he will be in nappies/pull ups so there would be no more issue than a pair of trousers.

Looking back on the photos when they are older will be adorable!

Collaborate · 09/01/2018 08:16

Cut up a travel blanket. No one will notice.

Sillybilly1234 · 09/01/2018 08:27

Leave the kids at home and have a nice kids free night off with your dh.

Bouledeneige · 09/01/2018 08:29

I cant see why a kilt would be more likely to be ruined by an accident than a pair of trousers. I would've thought it would be much more convenient with nappies. I think your DS would look very lovely,

But it sounds like you just don't want to go to the wedding. I love men and boys in kilts but i can see having to buy or hire all new stuff would be annoying. I've never been to a wedding with a dress code myself.

MsMarvel · 09/01/2018 08:33

Normally at weddings where the men are in kilts, the photographer takes a photo of all the men, but would only include the men in kilts. Would your ds be upset by everyone including his dad going off for a photo but hes not allowed cos hes wearing the wrong outfit?

Thought this might be worth mentioning in case it caused unnecessary upset.

BadTasteFlump · 09/01/2018 08:34

Oh ffs I've just read 19 pages before reading the 'Zombie Thread' comment 😒. Why don't old threads have a warning in the title...

FreddieClaryHorshieLion · 09/01/2018 08:37

Just out of interest (DH went to uni in Scotland so he should probably know this. But he doesn’t have an ‘eye’ for fashion / doesn’t care... so, mumsnet it is:)

  1. Should girls just wear ‘normal’ formale wear or could they wear something ‘tartan themed’ as well? Maybe a dress?
  1. For a young boy/ toddler: Would one need to buy a whole ‘outfit’ or is a kilt with a dress shirt, socks, dress shoes and maybe pullover (depending on the weather) a appropriate as well?
Whisky2014 · 09/01/2018 08:41

1 - yes, they can if they want but there's nothing official on the same wavelength as the kilt. However we do have sashes or tartan skirts to wear, tartan cape etc

  1. Generally you would wear a jacobite shirt but you could use a dress shirt along with the socks and shoes. A pullover would be ok on a kid yes.
BashStreetKid · 09/01/2018 08:47

And yes, I also do not like doing it just because someone said so.

Fairly ridiculous, tbh. You might as well say you don't like turning up for the wedding at a specific time "just because someone said so". And you're not doing it for that reason, you're doing it to contribute to their special day. You'd presumably dress him up reasonably smart anyway, and how much by way of a smart clothes does a 2 year old have? It's not as if spending around £10 is a massive hardship, and you can always sell the kilt afterwards.

FreddieClaryHorshieLion · 09/01/2018 08:52

Whisky

Ah, good to know, thanks :) knowing DD 1... ‘me too‘ are currenty her favourite words ;)

And the only in my (uneducated) opinion traditional(ish / ‘official looking’) tartan attire for girls I’ve even seen seems to be what highland dancers are wearing...

FreddieClaryHorshieLion · 09/01/2018 08:54

Not me too like the ‘me too movement’.

If I apply lipstick ‘me too’, if I make myself a cup of coffee ‘me too’, if my DH shaves ‘papa, me too’ Grin

g1itterati · 09/01/2018 08:55

So they just want him to wear a kilt - that's it Confused. I thought the whole point of a kilt was that it was meant to be in a particular family / clan tartan? Otherwise, won't it all look a bit clashing and ridiculous?

Whisky2014 · 09/01/2018 08:57

Yeh that's right. I would love to wear that get up but unless you are a Highland dancer you don't really :( I'm jealous of my Austrian friend who for any special occasion can wear her drindl. I need something Scottish!

Turquoise123 · 09/01/2018 08:57

either get a cheap kilt or don't go.

SoupDragon · 09/01/2018 08:58

ZOMBIE THREAD

Whisky2014 · 09/01/2018 08:58

glitterati it's common for the tartan to be different as its bringing all the clans together. So if the ops husband is Scottish, it should be his clan tartan the kid wears.

Whisky2014 · 09/01/2018 08:59

Soup yeh but I'm answering recent questions!

Undercoverbanana · 09/01/2018 09:04

I know it a zombie, but telling people what to wear? No. Sod that.

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