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Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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PinkyPie2012 · 06/08/2017 23:55

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

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Viviennemary · 07/08/2017 00:24

No need to hire one for a two year old. I think they look cute. But if you don't want him to wear one then just ignore the dress code. People can't dictate what you wear.

TestTubeTeen · 07/08/2017 00:24

"And yes, I also do not like doing it just because someone said so."

Don't be lairy.

It's a wedding. Weddings are full of protocols.

sailorcherries · 07/08/2017 00:25

When my DS was 11 months we had 3 weddings to attend and we bought a kilt, sporran, ghillie shirt (looser and more comfortable than a fitted shirt imo) and matching tartan ribbon to make flashings for under £40. It worked out to be the same price as hiring a kilt outfit or buying an outfit from Next etc.

DS was talked about non-stop at English relatives wedding (only kilt wearers, or Scots, were my family: Dad and DS in kilt) and at other two Scottish weddings there were many a men and child in kilts. It's traditional and, imo, looks better than a suit (as suits as worn at lots of functions).

Redglitter · 07/08/2017 00:26

Whatever outfit you buy him for the wedding is probably only going to he worn once or twice before he outgrows it

Threenme · 07/08/2017 00:26

It's not just someone randomly telling you how to dress your kid it is their wedding!!! If you really don't want to don't but I always think when it's someone's day especially if they aren't asking anything crazy it's nice to go along with things! Loads of weddings have dress codes they ask people to follow.

Seeingadistance · 07/08/2017 00:27

I understand your reluctance, but just wanted to say that my son wore a wee kilt to my cousin's wedding when he was about that age. We are Scottish, and my son loved his kilt, so did get a lot of wear out of it!

My son wasn't potty trained either - he was in pull-ups, and an unanticipated benefit of the kilt was that it was so much easier that trousers for changing him.

I think my son's kilt was from the Edinburgh Woollen Mill, and was about £20, from memory. Adult kilts are scary expensive, but wee ones are pretty cheap.

Redglitter · 07/08/2017 00:28

You can get childrens kilts on eBay from between £6 & £15 Grin

Oops4 · 07/08/2017 00:29

Where is the wedding? Normally when you hire kilt outfits it's for the weekend to allow for weddings etc. Don't see how a kilt would get anymore ruined than a pair of trousers? You don't have to buy or hire a full quality pleated kilt for a two yr old, basic ones are available for no more than the cost of a normal outfit.

He's your child, dress him as you please but I don't think you've got much of a reason not to other than you just don't want to, and so YWBU

HeddaGarbled · 07/08/2017 00:29

Oh, stop being so difficult and stroppy.

CoughLaughFart · 07/08/2017 00:30

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Runningbutnotscared · 07/08/2017 00:34

You are the first person I've ever heard of that didn't like a wee boy in a kilt OP.

TestTubeTeen · 07/08/2017 00:34

Er, wee is a commonplace word as used by Scottish people......

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ThanksForAllTheFish · 07/08/2017 00:35

I think YAB a little bit U. Kilts are traditional and it's not an uncommon request for a wedding - particularly if the child will be part of the wedding party or be included in the official photos.

That said, we are Scottish but didn't have kilts at our wedding (although a couple of guests did turn up in kilts). DH didn't want to wear a kilt or have our wedding photos look too similar to his DB's who got married the year previously - it would have been the same tartan. Instead we had the men tartan ties in our clan tartan. (DN was 1 at the time and also had a little tartan tie on). Maybe another idea to consider for your DS if you really hate kilts so much.

You can get kilts, particularly for children, that are more of a cotton than wool so much more comfortable and cooler. Also as others have said he will look very cute in a kilt. Best bet would be to hire one if you think it will only be worn once. Hiring kilts is very common - even for adults. I know of only a couple of people who actually own a kilt - most just hire one as and when it's needed, which is really only for weddings.

Redglitter · 07/08/2017 00:36

*Do we really need the endless use of 'wee'?

Okay. You're Scottish. We get it*

How fucking rude

Migraleve · 07/08/2017 00:39

Also I am not expecting DS to be fully potty trained by then and if he has an accident that kilt would be ruined

Surely you would just put a nappy on a 2yo or am I missing something?

As for the kilt if you don't want to then don't.

KeepServingTheDrinks · 07/08/2017 00:42

Google "punk tartan" and dec him out in your best malcolm mclaren

BUT whatever age, please always always always wear your kilt with boots and never with trainers. Boot with kilts are sexy and gorgeous. Trainers with are vile.

Just saying.

Och ay the noo! Bring on the whiskey and start the dancin'

CoughLaughFart · 07/08/2017 00:43

How fucking rude

Whereas your response is all sweetness and light.

Duck90 · 07/08/2017 00:45

CoughLaughFart

Which dialect would you prefer posters to use on mumsnet? If we know then it will avoid any irritation of showing what part of the world we are from.

WeAllHaveWings · 07/08/2017 00:46

What does you dh think? It's also his son, he's Scottish and it's his family. If it means something to him then you need to put aside your personal dislike and get on with it with good grace and not ruin the run up to the celebration for everyone else. If you dh doesn't want him or his son to wear a kilt them he needs to discuss with his family.

CoughLaughFart · 07/08/2017 00:47

There's dialect and there's parody.

Evilstepmum01 · 07/08/2017 00:48

YABU. Hire one, it doesnt cost much. Our DS was 2 when we got married and he looked absolutely amazing! He did wear his nappy under it obviously, halfway through meal, he did a huge poop which DH and I tackled together! It wasnt easy, but we managed!
He also loved dressing the same as his daddy and grandad and as is tradition he went around the wedding party collecting pennies in his wee sporran!
Its up to you, but will he not look the odd one out if everyone else is in a kilt?
Also, we bought parts of his his outfit from a hire shop near us who were selling off some of their hire stock - bargain!! Grin

Seeingadistance · 07/08/2017 00:49

Would you complain if I said "little" or "small"?

I'm Scottish, I say "wee".

And yes, you are fucking rude!

nikiforov · 07/08/2017 00:49

YABU. Just put a nappy on him - it's a wedding, they're not a time to be risking accidents Hmm your child's potty training isn't more important than somebody having to pay for cleaning at a wedding!

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 07/08/2017 00:51

Coughlaugh -That is rude. We are talking about a wee boy. It's quite easy to understand. You're just being a GF.

It's on a fucking thread about kilts for crying out loud. If you can't deal with Scottish people on a thread about kilts then you shouldn't read the bloody thread.