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Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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PinkyPie2012 · 06/08/2017 23:55

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

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DeadGood · 07/08/2017 07:41

"I also do not like doing it just because someone said so."

That's how dress codes work.

Cailleach666 · 07/08/2017 07:43

dentistlakes- do you live in Scotland?

CommonSenseIsNotAllThatCommon · 07/08/2017 07:45

Nothing to add really but I love kids in kilts. And men in kilts. And Scotland. And any Scottish people I've met.

FrancisCrawford · 07/08/2017 07:45

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Dentistlakes · 07/08/2017 07:52

Yes, I do Cailleach. I was born in Scotland and have never lived anywhere else. I don't know why that's relevant though. I get you don't like trews and that's fine. I'm just pointing out that some people don't hold the same opinion. Nothing wrong with that is there?

Madonna9 · 07/08/2017 07:57

I'd get my DS a kilt, if that's what the couple wants. It's their special day and their heritage.
DS can wear a diaper under his kilt right? I'm sure they make exceptions for non-potty trained children?

ButchyRestingFace · 07/08/2017 07:58

Reminds me of the story about the Scot who was fined for contempt of court for using the word "aye"

There were quite a few instances of defendents being pulled up for this back in the early noughties.

Thankfully, the judiciary appear to have grown up a bit since then. or been told to cut the crap

I had no idea that one of my favourite words, swithering, was Scottish until recently.

Other words I'm informed are Scottish but I wouldn't otherwise have known:

outwith
amn't
pinkie
moonlight flit
skelf
get it right up you

As the for the kilt, OP is just being cussed and thrawn and should buy/hire that wean a wee kilt. Smile

SpaghettiAndMeatballs · 07/08/2017 08:03

my nephew was about 2 when he wore a kilt (his mum is Scottish) to his uncle (my BIL's) wedding - he looked adorable, but it was expensive. I think they bought as big as they could get away with - but they knew they had more weddings to go over the next year or so, so figured they'd get enough use from it - I'm sure you can hire one can't you?

MSLehrerin · 07/08/2017 08:12

I think @CoughLaughFart is just being a wee bit of a wee goady fucker here. Or a wee bit anti Scottish?

OP put the wee man in a wee kilt, eh? He'll look gorgeous and steal the show.

Agree with Scottish people modifying their language and vocabulary at times. I have had to since moving to a wee town in Ingerlund 😃 people here still like to have a wee bit of fun getting me to pronounce certain words though: world, poem, fire escape and Curly Wurly being the main ones that cause a wee bit of hilarity 😃

So, @CoughLaughFart get tae fuck wi yer dislike of wee, eh? It's a free country and people can speak how they like.

Starlight2345 · 07/08/2017 08:13

I am not sure what the issue is other than you don't want to so are stamping your feet..I think you just don't want to go to this wedding.

horriblehistorieswench · 07/08/2017 08:13

Both DH & I are Scottish. All the wedding party wore kilts at our wedding, as did some guests. It was up to them. Only 1 2 yr old boy at our wedding (DH's cousins son) & his mum put him in a sailor suit - a kilt would have been preferred (esp by him now he's 19). However I say dress your son how you want, only you as a mum can take into account things like potty training, (I mean if he did a wee wee on the kilt are you meant to have another in your change bag?) comfort, practicality, cost, etc. I agree with pp's that a wee nod to the dress code e.g., tartan waistcoat would probably be appreciated but let's face even the most zilla of bridezillas isn't going to have a bouncer at the church door to stop you going in if you haven't conformed to the dress code.

LowGravity · 07/08/2017 08:14

I wish I had an upcoming event to put DS in a kilt again. My favourite photo of him is aged 2 in a kilt laughing his head off at his cousins christening, it was a tad too big and had started to work it's way down which makes the photo all the cuter imo.
My favourite Scottish word is shoogle, use it all the the time 'jist gie it a wee shoogle' Smile

Aeroflotgirl · 07/08/2017 08:14

Get a cheapo one from e bay or amazon. I woukd suck it up for 1 day tbh

EllaHen · 07/08/2017 08:14

If pinkie is Scottish, what to other people call their little finger?

My ds is 6 and on his 4th kilt.

Aeroflotgirl · 07/08/2017 08:18

Take some trousers with you, after the photos, ceremony yiu can whip it off and put those in him, tell them he's had an accident.

LowGravity · 07/08/2017 08:19

Probably just call it their little finger, definitely not their wee finger Wink

squoosh · 07/08/2017 08:20

In the wonderful world of formal weddings, this request is not even in the minor league of Bridezillas. Go along with it, it's not such a big ask and it's the polite thing to do.

I disagree. In my opinion it's utterly bridezilla and groomzilla to ask that all male guests wear a kilt.

Gran22 · 07/08/2017 08:21

I'm Scottish, but live in England. My English born DHs family moved to Scotland, where we met, and his family all still live there. We went to a recent family wedding in my home town, the groom and best man were kilted, as were a few of the male guests, others were in suits. Whilst I like to see kilts, and I think it's fine for the bridal party to adhere to a strict code, I'd hate them to be a compulsory part of a wedding! DH would look terrible, and would be very uncomfortable, as would other male relatives.

EllaHen · 07/08/2017 08:23

Wee finger. Grin

My ds was 'the wee man' for his first year. How could anyone take umbrage with the use of wee? Eejit.

LowGravity · 07/08/2017 08:26

I changed my mind, eejit is my favourite word Grin

RiverTam · 07/08/2017 08:28

Whilst I get the impression that the OP simply doesn't want her son in a skirt, I've been to a number of Scottish weddings and there has never been a rule of all males in kilts. All of the weddings have had a number of non-Scots as guests (one had a shed load of Italians) and those men all just wore suits.

So, on balance, I think the OP is NBU. But really, it's up to her and her DH to sort out. He has a valid opinion which needs to be taken into account.

LivLemler · 07/08/2017 08:29

Whose wedding is it? If it's one of DH's siblings, go with the kilt as your DS will be one of the close family and it would be a bit rude not to, IMO. If it's someone more distant like a cousin, no one will care what your DS is wearing.

I'm in NI, aye, we love wee.

Gieitlaldy · 07/08/2017 08:35

Just a wee hint OP. Get the wee lad to kneel then measure from his waist to the floor. That is the length of kilt you need to order right now. Nothing looks worse than a kilt that is too long. (that goes for your husband too)
Once the kilt arrives get the wee one to wear it a few times to get him used to it so that on the day it will seem normal. Bare bum isn't compulsory so pull-ups will be ideal. (for the bairn, no his daddie)

squoosh · 07/08/2017 08:37

Or save a lot of hassle and expense and put him in trousers..,

Gieitlaldy · 07/08/2017 08:38

RiverTam. A kilt is NOT a skirt. Are you being deliberately goady?

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