Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

YABU.

As is the person who said no trainers with kilts. I am a middle aged woman happily married for many years and the one thing that really gets me wishing I was young, free and single again is a group of lads out on the town (normlly stags I think) in kilts, t shirts and trainers.

Be still my beating, menopausal heart!

Keep him in nappies which would be easier to deal with under a kilt rather than trousers (easier to take off for changing). Plenty of cheap kilts available - no need for made to measure wool. He might love to be dressed like his father. Am not Scottish but have been to a number of Scottish weddings. Boys in kilts are much admired (and it's a change from little girls being praised for pretty dresses etc). If you really don't want him to wear a kilt the tartan waistcoat would be a good option.

Small children in kilts with a sporran make a fortune at weddings. Everyone wants to put "a wee something" in their sporran. You'll need to empty it frequently to make room.

Most hire places (for your DH) give you the kilt for the week at no extra cost as they don't tend to hire many during the week anyway. And contrary to popular view, most men wear underwear under a kilt - especially if it's a hire one.

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Is it a zombie thread, though?

What is so terrible about posting on a zombie thread anyway ? Is it illegal in some countries or do some folk have an attack of the vapours ?

I know, it's only from August too. But I think it's more when people are responding to the OP'S and reading pages of stuff when it's actually happened years ago.

MNHQ should just lock old threads imo.

Whisky

I appreciated your answer :) (yes, it’s a zombie thread... but idk, is that this horrible?)

Yeh that's right. I would love to wear that get up but unless you are a Highland dancer you don't really :( I'm jealous of my Austrian friend who for any special occasion can wear her drindl. I need something Scottish!

I’m actually surprised Scotland doesn’t seem (?) to have one for women. Most places have a traditional costume for males and females (ime). Or maybe the Scottish female one just went out of fashion? I’ll have to google it.

A wee kilt is £19.99 on eBay (great quality too) and a nice gillie shirt to go with it is a tenner or so? £4 for kilt hose (special woollen kilt socks) and that's it. Not any more expensive than buying a little suit from Next and you can resell it all on eBay for almost what you paid as it doesn't lose much value. And as other PPs have said, he'll make a small fortune with people popping a bit of silver in his sporran if you get one (maybe £7-£10 on eBay)

I'm English but live in Scotland and my DS (5) wears his kilt at every opportunity. I save a fortune in comparison to his sisters who have nice new dresses for events. He's worn the same kilt for 2 years when attending any events. DH (Scottish) doesn't wear one but does when requested to for weddings. They really do look amazing.

By the way, generally Kilt hire has a set price and isn't charged daily unless over a certain time limit.

I want to know if he wore a kilt now.

I thought I was doing well reading a few pages and then replying. Should have seen it was a zombie thread. Oh well.
I want to know if he did wear a kilt after all 😂

freddie I did a quick Google and there are big tartan dresses which appear. I think no one would wear that as it's a bit panto like and not "sexy" maybe. Also a bit of an inconvenience to wear. I wore a kilt to school. Might Design a womens outfit and see if that takes off! It is a shame.

I appreciate I’m in the minority here but I feel a bit like @cough.

No problem with people being Scottish but does it have to be so performative? This “kilts aren’t negotiable” bollocks annoys me. If I were a bloke I wouldn’t wear a kilt to a Scottish w doing, why should I? Im not Scottish.

This kid is half Scottish but why does he have to be dressed up “because wee bairns in kilts are cute”? He’s a child, not a doll.

It’ll get wrecked in ten minutes. Let him be in normal clothes instead of what people 200 years ago thought was posh.

But OP, if you do decide to go for it ask one of the Scottish relations to bring one. If kilts are so bloody essential they should have stacks of the things.

Whisky

So did I :)

The last time I went to to a Scottish / ‘with kilt’ wedding DH and I weren’t married yet (and didn’t have DDs) so I didn’t think about it.

What I came up with:

1. Wear a kilt. Whether it’s a young girl or a boy, the pattern would be the same... as for women. Idk if it would look good. But I wear a pantsuit to work, which was originally men’s wear as well.

1. A sash or a ‘tonnag’. I’m assuming that this could be a pashmina, pinned with a nice brooch?

1. For some weddings one could wear a straight tartan skirt... but I’d be v careful or it might look a bit pic 1 and pic 2 (obviously not with a cardigan etc...)

1. I found this online...

The traditional women's highland dress blouse is a jabot blouse and is traditionally worn with a hostess skirt and sash. The jabot blouse is an essential item for any women's formal highland dress outfit Not my cup of tea, tbh. Pic 3

YABU and unfair. Get him a kilt, there's so many cheap alternatives. If he was old enough he'd wear a kilt for his Dad and family.

RhiWrites HOW ON EARTH is wearing a kilt being "performative"?? What a bigoted statement. And that's a huge presumption of the "default" of being English or whatever you are. Just because your culture doesn't wear kilts or saris or anything else, doesn't mean other people are "performing".

And #2... you're being bigoted on a fucking ZOMBIE THREAD.

As a Scot, kilts for children look great and you can get some fairly cheap ones. And by the way, children wear undies.

@Jings we’re both posting to a zombie thread.

I didn’t intend to come across as bigoted. I specifically said that I have no problem with people expressing their culture.

My problem was with statements like “ kilts are non negotiable at a Scottish wedding”. Saris would actually be culturally appropriate for half my family but I wouldn’t tell a woman that she has to wear one or insist a 2 year old child should wear one - especially when it would be a nightmare to maintain.

Now I’ve revived the zombie thread (sorry). But I don’t think anyone should insist their cultural attire is non negotiable.

I love kilts and I would embrace his heritage. Isn't there any on eBay you could get a bit cheaper? Or perhaps borrow one off family member if possible. Wouldn't you buy him a new outfit anyway?

It is your choice though. I wouldn't say YABU as he is you little one but it might be nice for your husband?

I wouldn't make a 2 year old wear a kilt. They are so so itchy. I don't think it is compulsory at all (am Scottish).

You can buy toddler kilts off eBay for less than £30. They are fine. My two wore them to my brothers wedding with just a smart navy tshirt on their top half, kilt socks and black school shoes. Outfit cost less than £50 (excluding shoes)

The cheaper kilts are acrylic and go in the washing machine.

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