To move out because of his attitudes to food?

[MuckyWindows]

I moved in with DP in May. It's been a fucking nightmare since as he just eats innapropriately and it drives me insane.

Example, yesterday we bought curry and rice, a packet of popadoms and a pickle tray from ASDA as a treat meal for the night as we were child free. We get in, start putting shopping away, I go back to car and then come in to see him munching through the popadoms whilst he puts the shopping away! When he sees me he gestures for me to tuck in. I say "what are you doing?? They were for tea!" And he replies "well it doesn't matter does it? It's only a couple of hours away" - it was 2pm!!i was really pissed off ASD I was looking forward to that meal and because he'd eaten them, the pickle tray was now useless.

He does stuff like this all the time! A few days ago he munched through a bar of baking chocolate that I had bought to actually bake with.

I follow a strict diet and so buy protein drinks and protein bars. I'm also vegetarian so need this stuff to hit my goals. Whenever I go to the fridge the drinks have all gone. He just drinks them one after another "because they're nice". I've explained that they are meant as a one a day thing and he just says "I know but they're so moreish!" With a stupid grin. This means there is never any for me.

The protein bars are expensive and you only get four in a box. They're meant to last me all week. Friday he ate one in his packed lunch, one when he got home from work and went to get one after tea. I snapped and called him a greedy cunt - he said I was over reacting. Since I've moved in here my diet is all over the place because there is never anything in. He eats everything of mine. He even eats my quorn stuff and he's not a vegetarian!!! It's stressing me out so much I want to leave. He thinks it's a massive over reaction and that I should expect to share food when living with someone but this isn't sharing, it's him eating every fucking thing!!!!

Nope I wouldn't like that. Where is his restraint? Sounds just thoughtless and greedy.

I think there is a definite issue with food here, but it sounds like it's yours, rather than his.

Have you explained to him how much his actions inconvenience you, at a time when you aren't stressed out by it? It can be hard sometimes to get your point across in the heat of the moment.

I snapped and called him a greedy cunt

I can't imagine this relationship improving if you talk to each other like that. I get it's frustrating but name calling like that is horrible. If he'd said the same to you, how would you feel?

I think one of you has done food issues and it's not him OP - sorry. But if you're not happy - leave. Life's too short.

Like with the protein bars I said to him "can you not eat them, they're not sweets, they're protein bars which I need. They're expensive and need to last me all week". His reaction "oh but they taste like snickers bars!" - so buy some fucking snickers bars!!!! I've taken to storing these bars in my car now so he can't get to them. It's ridiculous and shouldn't be neccassary.

I used to live with a boyfriend that did that. I ended up padlocking my cupboard shut to keep him out. Then I came to my senses and left the weirdo.

You have my sympathy, it's infuriating to live with.

Has he any redeeming qualities?

I wouldn't like it either op. Does he have a problem with compulsive/binge eating? Is he overweight?

To me, it's a sign of disrespect that he's not listening to you or taking on board what you're saying, let alone the fact he isn't sharing food.

You have food issues OP.

I am totally on the fence.

Why are you on a strict diet?

I own a company in the fitness industry. Specficially the fitness food industry. Your post comes across as many fitness fanatics do. Food obsession.

Him eating something meant to be for dinner is annoying. But i think the issue here could be as much your issue.

Fenella..he eats all the things. How is it her food issue?

OP this would drive me crazy too.

YANBU - that would really annoy me too. You have a fundamental difference in attitude to foot which is not really compatible with living together.
You are at the opposite end of a spectrum to each other.

YANBU - that would really annoy me too. You have a fundamental difference in attitude to foot which is not really compatible with living together.
You are at the opposite end of a spectrum to each other.

Actually that would annoy me too. Yanbu.

You sound neurotic about food, he sounds like a spoilt child.

Your BF is a disrespectful wanker. Yes, you should move out.

Your diet doesn't sound healthy. Protein bars and quorn are highly processed foods and shouldn't really be in a regular diet. I'd get some advice from someone who understands what a healthy veggie diet is.

But the main problem is definitely your boyfriend!

The poppadoms thing was a bit inconsiderate, and dh has done this to me from time to time but would definitely irk if it were a regular thing. But the eating your special diet food even after you've asked him not to with an explanation is just plain rude. I'm on a special diet and dh wouldn't dream of touching anything specifically to do with it without asking or at least replacing them.

Why don't you just buy more of the food you both like?

I think your thoughts towards food Are just mis matched. He's more relaxed but then he gets to eat all the food so he would be...

I'm in your camp though. Sounds really greedy and that would piss me off. Why not wait for the fucking meal to have the accompaniments?

I think you will get a lot of divided opinion as everyone has there own ways of eating etc

XiCi - I assume he would eat it all?

I think you are both being a bit silly to argue over food. If the issue is your stuff being expensive and he eats it let him buy you some more of them, unless money is the real issue?
I do agree that when you move in together you share your food. It's only been a couple of months so you're still getting to know each other's habits etc - I'm sure there's things about you that annoy him?!

He's eating food that is meant for main meals. It's selfish. It's doesn't sound like the OP has issues. Sounds like they're following a specific diet and that is being fucked up by someone eating all the food. As they said, its expensive. Once gone, maybe there isn't any money to buy more.

Have you actually just told him to leave particularl stuff alone?

My ex was like this initially, would eat random things from the fridge so that am ingredient would be missing when I went to make dinner - like an entire pack of pepperoni when I was making pizza etc. He'd also eat the chocolate I would by myself as a treat. I'd eat one or two squares a day, he'd go and eat the entire bad. "what's the problem, I'll replace it" but rarely did.

I fucking lost it with him after months of this crap when he ate DS last Easter egg that he'd been saving. He did mostly stop after that, but tbh the whole thing was just another part of his shitty personality and lack of thought for anybody but himself.

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