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To move out because of his attitudes to food?

384 replies

MuckyWindows · 06/08/2017 08:28

I moved in with DP in May. It's been a fucking nightmare since as he just eats innapropriately and it drives me insane.

Example, yesterday we bought curry and rice, a packet of popadoms and a pickle tray from ASDA as a treat meal for the night as we were child free. We get in, start putting shopping away, I go back to car and then come in to see him munching through the popadoms whilst he puts the shopping away! When he sees me he gestures for me to tuck in. I say "what are you doing?? They were for tea!" And he replies "well it doesn't matter does it? It's only a couple of hours away" - it was 2pm!!i was really pissed off ASD I was looking forward to that meal and because he'd eaten them, the pickle tray was now useless.

He does stuff like this all the time! A few days ago he munched through a bar of baking chocolate that I had bought to actually bake with.

I follow a strict diet and so buy protein drinks and protein bars. I'm also vegetarian so need this stuff to hit my goals. Whenever I go to the fridge the drinks have all gone. He just drinks them one after another "because they're nice". I've explained that they are meant as a one a day thing and he just says "I know but they're so moreish!" With a stupid grin. This means there is never any for me.

The protein bars are expensive and you only get four in a box. They're meant to last me all week. Friday he ate one in his packed lunch, one when he got home from work and went to get one after tea. I snapped and called him a greedy cunt - he said I was over reacting. Since I've moved in here my diet is all over the place because there is never anything in. He eats everything of mine. He even eats my quorn stuff and he's not a vegetarian!!! It's stressing me out so much I want to leave. He thinks it's a massive over reaction and that I should expect to share food when living with someone but this isn't sharing, it's him eating every fucking thing!!!!

OP posts:
WhatWouldGenghisDo · 08/08/2017 11:06

OK Hattie, for the sake of argument:

"I'm a bloke. I'm into body-building and every week I buy a packet of protein bars and enough shakes to have one per day through the week. The problem is that since my DP moved in, she immediately eats them all up as soon as I buy them, all in a row, so I can't have any. I've asked her to stop, but she won't. She doesn't want to buy her own, or for me to get her snacks like snickers bars instead. She just wants to eat mine. I have had to give up body building since she moved in"

Do you really think posters would claim the bloke here was the unreasonable one?

FiveShelties · 08/08/2017 11:14

This has got to be the strangest thread, I had no idea that someone would make up something so bloody stupid. Curry troll! Have heard it all now.

HattiesBackpack · 08/08/2017 11:35

WhatWouldGenghisDo

No, in that scenario the OP isn't unreasonable by any means!

But, using the same language and style of the OP I imagined the role reversal to read like this:

My DP has just called me a 'Greedy Cunt' .... because I've eaten one of his protein bars!

I think I'm at breaking point now, this has been building for ages, and I need to know if I'm being unreasonable to leave him or not.
DP is into fitness and has a special diet, which I fully support, but he keeps losing his rag when I eat things from OUR kitchen, he has a lot of special food like protein bars (which are a lot like snickers bars btw) and because we often don't have anything else in if I fancy a snack then I grab one. DP basically says I'm a selfish arse, and they are for him only. Last night I ate the last one and we had a row and he told me I was a greedy cunt.
WIBU to leave him?

I think that the responses to that post would be a lot different to the responses to your example post Genghis

HattiesBackpack · 08/08/2017 11:37

*And of course therein lies the trap set by the troll, which I fell for hook line and sinker!

WellThisIsShit · 08/08/2017 12:15

Troll, or someone stuck in this situation who goes through phases of coping and moments of posting here as a vent or the seeds of trying to change?

MyPatronusIsAUnicorn · 08/08/2017 13:10

wellthosisshit usually MNHQ actually respond to reports and delete the threads saying it's a PBP, so it's not someone stuck in this situation who posts every now and again, OP won't be back. Same every time.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 08/08/2017 13:27

Imagine if a man called his wife a greedy cunt !! Shock

Forget the food, you have serious issues if you think calling your partner that is acceptable!

DeannaTroika · 08/08/2017 13:27

Imagine if a man called his wife a greedy cunt

If she acted in the manner of OP's man, then I don't see why he shouldn't.

ElChan03 · 08/08/2017 14:09

Sit down for a serious chat and try not to swear at him as that is not going to help. Is there scope for you to have your own cupboard and that he cannot eat the things in there as you need them for your diet. Tell him that by eating your special food he's not supporting you. Tell him if he's hungry to buy his own snacks and remind him that your food is for health purposes. The eating the poppadoms is also a no go. Would totally annoy me. Hope he gets the message or just padlock it all!

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