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AIBU? Stepkids with verrucas

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thelentil · 05/08/2017 17:28

Two skids, 7 and 8 have untreated veruccas, don't wear socks, get nits, which don't get treated, they stay every other weekend. I have a 3yo and don't want her constantly exposed to this stuff. AIBU to not want them around my toddler? What can I do? Spend every other weekend bleaching and de nitting?

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FabulouslyGlamorousFerret · 05/08/2017 17:31

Start by not calling them skids, verruca plasters and comb the nits out when they come - a ball ache but one of those things, get your DH to speak to mum if he will

Gooseberrycrumble4 · 05/08/2017 17:33

Yep. Treat the veruccas with teatree and use stuff in the nits. Your partner, the kids father can do it

MommaGee · 05/08/2017 17:33

So your partner sends his children back to a parent who isn't treating their varuccas and who is leaving them full of nits? Why isn't he doing anything about their parental neglect?

Why can DH not treat their verucaas and nits?

Do you really think its acceptable to ban children who are suffering neglect at the hands of their mother from their fathers home because you have a PFB?

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thelentil · 05/08/2017 17:35

She doesn't treat them, gets mad if we ask her to.

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haba · 05/08/2017 17:35

Do you know how long veruccas last? How do you know they're not treated? I've been trying to get rid of DD's for five weeks now... not much to show for daily treatment.

MommaGee · 05/08/2017 17:35

You do realise that they're your step kids but there your childs half siblings?

What else is their Mum not doing to care for them properly?

TheAntiBoop · 05/08/2017 17:37

Why don't you treat them? The verruca you can use the freeze thingy - worked well on dd and only had to do it the once. As for the Nits, it's a pain but if you (or the children's father and equal parent) could ensure he combs through every week

Just as much dads responsibility as mums

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shouldwestayorshouldwego · 05/08/2017 17:37

Have a rule that everyone keeps their socks / slippers on in the house and put Hedrin on each time it is your weekend. Although ideally repeated every 7-10 days doing it at the beginning and end of each visit should help. Could teach them to comb each other's hair.

KittyVonCatsington · 05/08/2017 17:37

Wow. These children have two households that won't treat their veruccas or bits. Poor wee ones. I just couldn't not do anything.

OnlyTeaForMe · 05/08/2017 17:38

Arkopharma Wartstick Roll-On was the only thing which worked for the DCs verrucas - get the step kids one each.

Yes - get your DH to do the de-nitting and he'll soon talk to the ex-wife!

Cleanermaidcook · 05/08/2017 17:38

Veruccas will go by themselves eventually, just stick a plaster over them if you're worried about them spreading. Treat the nits.

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thelentil · 05/08/2017 17:38

I do get a bit pissed off that I'm expected to house, clothe, feed them and I'm also the only one that thinks their veruccas need to be treated. I hate it. They were living here while their mother was having a break from them.

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BertrandRussell · 05/08/2017 17:39

Why isn't their dad dealing with the nits and verrucas?

KittyVonCatsington · 05/08/2017 17:39

*nits not bits. Sorry.

Crumbs1 · 05/08/2017 17:39

Verrucas actually go away eventually if left alone. Nits are very common and tend to be recurrent.

ALLthedinosaurs · 05/08/2017 17:40

Those poor children are being neglected. Use glutarol if you can find it, paint it on and leave it on. It's painless and carries on working once you've put it on. Much better than the gimmicky crap and much cheaper too.

Get them to wear socks in your house. Thats a reasonable rule. Surely DP can support you with this.

De-nit them and get DP to help too.

YANBU to not want DC3 to be exposed to it, it's a PITA, but it isn't their fault. Have you or DP discussed it with their mum?

OnlyTeaForMe · 05/08/2017 17:40

And yes- how do you know the veruccas aren't being treated? DS had very persistent ones which lasted YEARS despite numerous trips to GP and treatment virtually every night Sad

MommaGee · 05/08/2017 17:40

I do get a bit pissed off that I'm expected to house, clothe, feed them and I'm also the only one that thinks their veruccas need to be treated. I hate it. They were living here while their mother was having a break from them.
So does DP not work? They love on the house only you pay for? You pay for their clothes and food without DP?

Gooseberrycrumble4 · 05/08/2017 17:40

Where's their dad? Why isn't he sorting it out?

FlowerFairyLights · 05/08/2017 17:41

We didn't find anything that worked for veruccas. Doctors advice now is to just leave them as it's a virus and they eventually fall off. (It did. I think people just think the last thing they tried "worked" when it's self limiting anyway.)

Just use the Hedrin protect and go on your/their kids each time. it's a spray like a detangling spray/leave in conditioner so no problem.

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thelentil · 05/08/2017 17:41

Yes, this has been going on for such a long time I'm starting to lose my shit. I work full time, otherwise I would probably spend more time inspecting them, they're at home with him. He says oh I told her to treat them and forgot to see if they had them still

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