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My 14 year old has just came home drunk!

183 replies

sunnnydays · 03/08/2017 23:33

And I don't know what to do!

He told me he was going to a friend's house nearby, I know his friend group and they are fairly responsible , all the popular kids though so this might not be the first time Hmm I'm very lost on what to do, as my parents just sent me to bed with a glass of water when I came in drunk, age 12!!

We live in a rougher part of Glasgow so underage drinking/smoking is very normalised and I don't want his friends to make fun of him if it turns out he's the only one not allowed to drink! To be fair, he did come home at 11pm instead of 11:30 like we agreed. (friend's house he was allegedly at lives a few doors down)

Do I wait to hear back from the other parents? Let him get on with it or give him into trouble? I don't want him to feel like he can't trust me, a few months ago DD(13) came to tell me she had smoked a few times and felt bad for not telling me (we talked about the bad side affects of smoking and she said she didn't want "manky hair or nails" so stopped!)

I've got my hard hat on, please help! Confused

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loaferloveforyou · 03/08/2017 23:35

I got drunk for the first time at 14, the following day was awful so I didn't drink again til I was 18.

You live and learn

Supersoaryflappypigeon · 03/08/2017 23:37

Hopefully he'll wake up hungover enough that it might put him off for a bit.

Other than that I have no advice I'm afraid-though I'll watch this because, although DD is 16m at the moment, the teen years aren't that far off Grin

Mrsfloss · 03/08/2017 23:37

I'd express disappointment, remind him of the law, dangers etc, but not make too big a deal.
I was a teen drinker, and the harder my oarents were on me, the more I drank.

ShoutOutToMyEx · 03/08/2017 23:39

It happens. I certainly started experimenting at that age. I'd keep an eye on him for a bit, make sure there's no vomiting etc, then have a chat about how vulnerable getting drunk in unlit fields and parks makes him, and the effect alcohol has on growing bodies and brains. Those are the things I wish my mum had told me.

Scribblegirl · 03/08/2017 23:39

Sod everyone else's kids Smile

Recovery position
Big glass of water
Check in every couple of hours

Rite of passage OP, he'll learn!

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sunnnydays · 03/08/2017 23:41

I'm trying to send him to bed, but he's sitting on the floor telling the dog she's a "weird looking cat but he loves her anyway"- very slurred though Grin I've text one of his friends parents, asking if her son had came home yet- he hasn't and I don't want to accidentally grass on anyone!

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elephantoverthehill · 03/08/2017 23:42

What's done is done. Towel and bucket by the bed and yes a glass of water. You have a whole night and probably a lot of tomorrow to think about your reaction. I would probably talk to the other parents and agree on a united front, but that is me in a very possibly different situation to yourself. As you, and I admit we've all been there.

Shelvesoutofbooks · 03/08/2017 23:42

Second that Scribble!

Batoutahell · 03/08/2017 23:42

What do you mean by 'you don't want his friends to make fun of him for not being allowed to drink'???

He's 14! He's not allowed to drink! You're the parent so it's not you that's supposed to fold to peer pressure!!!

kitnkaboodle · 03/08/2017 23:43

Don't give in to peer pressure. Letting 14 year olds get drunk is not OK Confused

Batoutahell · 03/08/2017 23:43

YOU DONT WANT TO GRASS??? Jesus Christ. Who the fuck is the parent? He's 14! Probably some of his friends are 13! Maybe even 12!

HazelBite · 03/08/2017 23:44

Give him the lecture about alcohol poisoning!
I took pictures of my Ds's when they were passed out and tormented them with them Grin
he'll feel awful in the morning, as they say that'll learn him Wink

PearlyPinkNails · 03/08/2017 23:45

How drunk is he? Will you need to supervise him over night in case he's sick?

PickAChew · 03/08/2017 23:46

The aftermath will tell him how stupid he's been. You can remind him of it for ages.

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sunnnydays · 03/08/2017 23:47

@Batoutahell All his friends are 14 & 15... and the boy's mum has just text me! She's finding the whole thing funny and tbh so am I! Planning on giving him the third degree in the morning if i can get him to bloody bed!! He won't go because "he's a free spirit"

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kennypppppppp · 03/08/2017 23:48

I was also going to say chuck him in the recovery position. And video him with a hangover tomorrow and play it back at pivotal moments.

am ignoring the gallons of barcadi I drank at that age because obviously I'm totally perfect

perper · 03/08/2017 23:48

The normalisation of underage drinking really worries me. Children's bodies are seriously affected by alcohol and they are not developed enough to process it properly- it really can damage their development. A 14 year old body is very different to an 18 year old body :(

The argument that 'ah well, I did it and I turned out ok' doesn't wash well with me either Confused

Bucket and water tonight- but I'd be having some serious words (using a shit sandwich as it's good that he brought himself home early and that should be praised- he's done something right!). You need to keep his trust so he doesn't hide it- but 14 year olds really shouldn't be getting drunk to that extent, particularly out of the house.

ineedamoreadultieradult · 03/08/2017 23:48

Sit with him until he gets tired, give him water and when he is sleepy put him to bed with a bucket and more water handy. There is no point having any conversations with him now. If I understood from your 2nd post that his friend hasn't got home yet it is the right thing to earn his parents he might have been drinking.

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sunnnydays · 03/08/2017 23:49

@PearlyPinkNails Fairly drunk- not stumbling around or anything but talking a load of slurred nonsense! Gave him a glass of water but he poured it in the plant pot.. Maybe I should video all the stupid things he's doing and show him when he's hungover!

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MissSmiley · 03/08/2017 23:49

I don't remember ever getting a hangover until my thirties so he should be good for a chat tomorrow. I'm dreading this th my eldest is nearly 15 and very curious.
Good luck.

CauliflowerSqueeze · 03/08/2017 23:51

Sounds like you're finding the whole thing a real hoot.

You could buy loads of alcohol next time and invite them all over to get bladdered together! That would be even more fun! Drinking games etc. Remind them all not to grass you up though!! Big lols.

SerfTerf · 03/08/2017 23:52

Have you got some carbs into him?

Fe s him something and issue him with a bucket just in case.

You don't want him too hungover to have "words" with tomorrow Smile

bbpp · 03/08/2017 23:53

I wouldn't go too hard on him. He's not THAT drunk, appears to be his first time with how 'silly' he's acting, he was home early and hasn't tried to hide it!

Make sure he's fine, and just give him a word about being safe and the law, but stress the good parts of his behaviour tonight & maybe make fun of how daft he's acting! It's a learning curve.

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sunnnydays · 03/08/2017 23:53

@perper Very true! I don't want to permanently damage his body or brain, but I'm not sure what I could do other than grounding him until he was 18!!

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SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires · 03/08/2017 23:54

Maybe I should video all the stupid things he's doing and show him when he's hungover!

Do this.....evil Grin

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