WIBU? Not giving up train seat for a child?

[FlyingFox95]

Hiya

Just looking for a tiny bit of perspective into whether I am a horrible person or not.

I went home sick from work today because I had a really painful UTI. Without going into too much detail it was so bad that I needed to be sitting down because if I wasn't I had that unbearable itch which most of you will relate to.... I have recently miscarried too so was feeling more anxious than normal about the pain. Anyway it was particularly bad so I was struggling on my way to the doctors app I could book to get it sorted. Let's be honest, they suck.

The train I was on was quite busy, no spare seats and I was sitting beside someone on the aisle seat at the end of the carriage beside the bit where the trains join up (?). A woman sits at the free seat across the aisle from me and asks if I could move to let her DD sit down (older, around 10ish i'd say) sit down. I was already in a lot of pain and feeling like shit so i said no and apologised. I didn't explain in much detail to be fair as I didn't want the whole carriage to hear about my gynecological issues.

Anyway the woman was less than impressed and glared at me for the rest of the journey. I was surprised she didn't ask anyone else in the surrounding seats. They were only on for one stop strangely enough so her DD stood beside her in the aisle without needing to move away from her at any point.

Aibu? Should I have had to move or is it as weird as i thought it was?

Cheeky cow she is!! She should have given up her bloody seat for her own dc if she so wanted her to have one!!
for you for feeling down. .

If she was that desperate for her DD to sit then why did she take the last seat?
I am sorry you're having such an awful time. Hope you start to feel a bit better very soon.

No and besides, if she thinks an adult should give up her seat for a child then she can give up her own seat!

YANBU.

Rude woman to even ask. The child can and should stand, as has always been the way.

If it was so important for her that her DD sit, she should have stood and let her DD sit.

YWNBU, hope you feel better soo.

YANBU ! and yes it was weird. and absolutely no reason why you should explain

YANBU. If she wanted her child to have a seat she should of given up her own.

Hope you feel better soon OP.

YANBU last time I was on a packed train I let DD sit while I stood. She could have done the same. You were ill.

Sorry forgot to add that I hope you're feeling a bit better now you're home

Children are supposed to give up their seats if adults are standing. You've done nothing wrong.

She actually sat down herself and expected you to vacate your seat for her dd? . Of course you weren't unreasonable, you must know that?
Hope you're better soon 💐

YANBU - I'm still relatively young(ish) but was brought up as a child that you gave up your seat for an adult - why couldn't she sit on her mum's knee?

Don't give another thought to it OP, she's the one with the problem and bad manners, not you

YANBU.
In my day (70's baby) we always stood for adults.
Young legs!

Yanbu, she should have given up her seat for the child if she felt it was that important. My kids love standing on the train and jump up the mere hint of a older person without a seat. I doubt the 10 year old was even bothered.

My 10 yr old dd would have sat on my knee had I been seated (she even does this at home) or I would have given her my seat. What a cheeky boot.

Personally, I think a 10 year old should stand for an adult. If this 10 year old was, for whatever reason, unable to stand, her mother should have given her her seat.

YANBU. A child should stand up for you.
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Of course you were right, you werent well and the girl was not a baby.
On a recent packed train including the corridors full up, I gave up my seat to a young mum who was trying to feed a young baby standing up squashed between other standing passengers. She didnt ask but gratefully accepted. Your situation was completely different so no need for you to feel bad.

You WNBU No, you weren't well enough to be disturbed, let alone to have to stand. She, however WBU even though she didn't know you were unwell.
When there were bus conductors they would call out 'All half fares stand' when the bus became full. Most of the half fares would have already automatically offered their seats anyway. If she was concerned her child had to stand she could have stood next to her instead.
Rest assured you did nothing discourteous.

She actually asked you to give up your seat, and was expecting you to stand up whilst SHE stayed sitting down too?

That's beyond rude, it's just bizarre. A little one, you keep on your lap, but at around 10 they can stand, sit on the floor, or the mother could have given up her seat if they child really needed help. (or at least tell you why she was asking if she had valid reasons)
How weird.

YANBU. If she's that desperate for her daughter to sit down then she should give up her own seat. I hope no one else obliged this entitled individual.

YANBU

I have a 10 year old..One of us would of stood or he would of sat on my lap... Esp for one stop.

She was rude and ridiculous. If she wanted her dd to sit that much she should have given her her own seat. Adults sit before kids, young legs can stand more easily ; )

Thank you for all the support!

I suffer from the ole' resting bitchface which probably didn't help diffuse the situation. The people in the seats around me looked quite amused but didn't offer their seats either, thankfully.