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Husband says I am punching above my weight

216 replies

Maybeoneday77 · 31/07/2017 06:41

Just looking to clarify something here. Yesterday my husband said he thinks i am punching above my weight. He is very into fitness and spends a lot of time on the gym. I have 3 small children, one is 6mths and I admit I have 16 pounds of baby weight to lose and don't feel good about myself at the moment.
He says it was a "nothing" comment and can't understand why I am so upset.
Who's he unreasonable twat here?

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Notreallyarsed · 31/07/2017 06:56

Comes with being a man

Actually it doesn't, no decent man would say something so hurtful and mean to his wife/partner. OP he's being a dick. DP is very good looking, and I look like a burst ball after 3 kids (youngest is 3 so I don't even have the excuse of "I just had a baby") and he'd never say anything so shit.

TipTopTipTopClop · 31/07/2017 06:56

Terribly mean.

WhoreOfBabyliss · 31/07/2017 06:57

Wow, I can see why you are upset and his backpeddling just makes him more of a twat. Tell him he is meant to go beep beep beep when he backs up, the negging bastard! It's things like this that really puts you off people.

TooGood2BeFalse · 31/07/2017 06:58

That is obnoxious. YAIBU but you are being bullied by a cock.

DonaldStott · 31/07/2017 06:58

What a cheeky fucker!!! I take it he is a demi god? Tell him you can lose weight, but ugliness on the inside cannot be changed.

honeysucklejasmine · 31/07/2017 06:59

What a twat.

joycemanor · 31/07/2017 07:01

Not sure why anyone would make a comment about having his head turned at the gym Confused OP sounds upset and explicitly says she doesn't feel good about herself at the moment. She doesn't bring up any talk of wandering eyes or infidelity. But nice job letting that little suspicion creep into her psyche as well. Lovely and supportive.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 31/07/2017 07:01

Up his own arse, much .... 🙄
Some of these gym boys, get carried away with themselves, tell him to calm himself, he's not all that !
You are a new Mummy, you'll lose your weight in your own time, he needs to lose his attitude.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 31/07/2017 07:02

Fucking bastard.
So he thinks he's "all that" then, does he? That he deserves someone higher up the rating scale than he considers you to be?
Watch out.
That's the start of him "looking around" for someone he thinks is more in line with what he "deserves".

Of course, what he actually deserves is a swift elbow in the bollocks for being such a fucking dickhead.

morningrunner · 31/07/2017 07:02

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pallasathena · 31/07/2017 07:04

Tell him he's a tart. Tell him he's a bit thick to make such a scurrilous comment as that. Tell him its a scientifically proven fact that wearing lycra too much, particularly close fitting lycra, can result in terminal cases of thickitis dickitis.
Proven fact. Got it from the Daily Fail.

RedStripeSorry · 31/07/2017 07:05

What a twat he is. Something is wrong with him if he thinks that's a nothing comment. Either he's thick as shit with zero social skills or he's deliberately putting you down to hurt you and make himself feel better. Which would make him an insecure little cunt.

Ecureuil · 31/07/2017 07:05

morningrunner he told the OP that she was punching above her weight, I.e that he is too good for her.

AssassinatedBeauty · 31/07/2017 07:05

How is it normally a compliment? It means someone with a boy/girlfriend who is considered better looking than them, I thought?

Floellabumbags · 31/07/2017 07:07

*Tell him he's a tart,

Don't want to be pedantic but I think you spelt twat wrong.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 31/07/2017 07:10

Can't see how it's a compliment at any point, really. You're right Assassinated - that's pretty much what it means - it means that you're not up to the standard expected/required, whether in a job or a relationship (or indeed, in a boxing match)

SpaghettiAndMeatballs · 31/07/2017 07:11

Doesn't he have a high opinion of himself.

Of course he's being unreasonable here. Hand the kids over, and disappear for a walk for a couple of hours 3 times a week - good for fitness, mind clearing, and not something he can complain about since he does exactly the same thing

picklemepopcorn · 31/07/2017 07:14

In other contexts it is a compliment- it means doing really well with limited resources. It could mean that he thinks she's doing brilliantly, for a woman with three small children.

If he's using it in reference to him being too good for her, then of course he is a prize pillock.

Shoxfordian · 31/07/2017 07:20

That's very rude of him

Is he usually this disrespectful?

Miserylovescompany2 · 31/07/2017 07:22

What an absolutey charming specimen of man you've got there, OP.

I think he most definitely comes under the category of GOBSHITE!

You are obviously not worthy of this prince amongst men - STOP doing whatever you do or have been doing for him, it's all been an insult to him. As you obviously haven't been good enough.

Dispose of the children - they'll be tainted! (Drop them off at the gym)

Go and start over with someone that isn't cursed with I-Am-An-Adonis syndrome.

Good luck

pallasathena · 31/07/2017 07:32

I've decided that the word 'tart'. is gender fluid actually.

Atthebottomofthegarden · 31/07/2017 07:33

What an arse.
As others say, I think he needs to step up his childcare responsibilities a bit, he clearly has an unfair amount of leisure time if he can get to the gym 3 times a week with 3 small children.

Cocklodger · 31/07/2017 07:40

LTB.

user1497480444 · 31/07/2017 07:41

what a weired thread

surely " punching above your weight" is a compliment?

Or t the very least means trying too hard and taking on too much

ethelfleda · 31/07/2017 07:43

Bloody hell, I had no idea so many dickheads existed before MN!