Mother 39 Father 44- your first thought?

[BenFolly]

Shocked?
Normal?
Ancient?
Rather them than me?

Or something else?

Sorry if AIBU to ask

No big deal I was 42 when I had my second and my husband was 41!

I was 39 when I had my first and only.

Everyone thinks I put my career first - reality 4 miscarriages over 9 yrs.

You just do not know the back history to judge.

Honestly I'd think

• knackering ! Ha ha same as any age
• also, wouldn't want age 44 to support a baby to young adult until I was aged 65. Job market very insecure and hardly any people over 50y in the city (if your DH is there)

It annoys me when men have kids at 45 and expect they'll still be working at 65. Most people are pushed out at or by 50 from well paid professional jobs.

It's happened to all of my relatives male and female

But if you're getting early pension & lots of savings / assets definitely go for it

Wouldn't think anything of it, certainly wouldn't think it was strange.

Wouldn't think twice about it tbh.

Quite normal. Glad it's not me though! Had my first at 30, felt that was perfect for me, x

"It annoys me when men have kids at 45 and expect they'll still be working at 65. Most people are pushed out at or by 50 from well paid professional jobs."

Are you saying that only people with well paid professional jobs should have children? And/or that nobody can lose a job at 50 and find another one?

Most of the people I know don't fall into the former category, know plenty in the latter: people who have picked themselves up after losing a job and gone and found another.

Late end of normal for first child. Completely normal for a third!

I started trying at 34, after being married 2 years, then unexplained fertility issues, waiting lists, treatment that ultimately failed. Then applied to adopt, rigorous checks all of which takes time and then my beautiful child was placed with me at age 1, when I was 41. I may have started earlier had I known back then what I know now, as sometimes I think I would have liked to have been a little younger, but then it wouldn't be the wonderful child that I have now so I feel very lucky.

Hi Cory

Oh yes they did all find other job, PT at Tesco, packing parcels, delivering furniture, in a chastity shop

All PT all min wage / zero hours

Most sectors clear people out at 50. Ageism is the new sexism!

How many people over 50 commuting do you see on the tube?

My FIl and dad and 2 uncles were devastated and unemployed for 1-2y after their 'restructurings'

Until they realised over 50 it's over unless your contacts start a new firm or have a new office