Mother 39 Father 44- your first thought?

[BenFolly]

Shocked?
Normal?
Ancient?
Rather them than me?

Or something else?

Sorry if AIBU to ask

Round here, the absolute norm, even for DC#1

First thought would be great if that's what they both want. Ours were both in school by then, wouldn't change that. We never wanted three but if we had I would have been around that age.
My mum had my sibling at that age
My grandmother had her first at 21 and seventh at 46.
Have three friends that had DC when they were over 40. One had her first at 16.
It's not new to have kids at any age and no one else's business.

For a third child really not unusual these days I think. My friend had her first at 39 second at 40 after 8 years of infertility. I do think one is more tired with the younger ones, as so busy, but also less anxious and more able to prioritise. My 3rd was so laid back.

My husband is 53 and i am 52 . We have a 3yr old!
It is keeping us young!

Totally normal

I had dc1 at 39 and dc2 at 42. It has never occurred to me that I might be 'old'. The vast majority of my friends had their first children in their mid 30s so I'm a couple of years older, I suppose.

I don't feel it though and I certainly don't consider myself middle aged. In fact, the only thing I feel is slightly shocked that I'm 47 this year. I'm still in my late 20s in my head!

I'll be 60 when my youngest turns 20, what's your point?

the only time it's even registered as "different" was when I realised that I really do have clothes older than some of the other school gate mothers.

As you can see from most of the responses, hardly anyone thinks this is remarkable OP.
I was 41 when we had our third DC; my DP was 35 - shock, horror!

Why do you care what other people think?

I'm 36 dp is 40 we just had our 5th between us (we both have 2 teens each from previous marriages)

Planning to start trying for #6 after xmas!

I had number 5 when i was 42 and DH 37, now I'm 44 and I'd love to go again but DH says no. If you're fit, healthy and both agree then go for it. My SIL is 44 and due number 4 in September :)

Dh was 49 when we had dd..

Happy thoughts - child will be treasured.

I had DD2 at 41 and DS at 43. I waited a long time for my babies 😊

Rather them than me! I'm 33 expecting my second (and probably last) and I'm KNACKERED.

Comments like this irritate me. Children are hard work whatever your age. I dont think I get any more tired because I have a baby and I'm heading for 46. In fact, I think I am a calmer, much more patient mum than I would have been in my 30s or 20s. Have achieved what I wanted to achieve career wise, am (a bit) more sorted financially and - most importantly of all - have a DP who is supportive. If I'd become a mum in my 30s or 20s, I'd have had none of that and would therefore have been much more tired and unsatisfied than I am now. Surely that out-weighs the fact that I am a bit older than average?

Rufus27 that's the point of my comment. 10 years from now I don't think l'll be up to chasing a toddler. More power to those who do but as I said - rather them than me.

I wouldn't think anything!

(But then again,my BF was 38 when she had her first DC and her DH was 63.... they have had another since. )

Absolutely fine, but rather you than me!

On a serious note, it really does depend on individual health and energy levels. I'm 32 and my baby is 10 months. I'm knackered and have had bad health which is only just sorted. The idea of a baby at that age is overwhelming to me. But for many that's the norm and they have better health than me and that's great. I think different things work for different people, like any lifestyle choice really.

Normal. I had dc3 at 42 and dp 46. No regrets, the best one yet. No more though.

To add, I had my first at 33. She took 2 years to conceive, dc3 was conceived immediately after taking last pill. No discernable difference in knackered, but much more chilled with the last. I love being an older mum.

DB and ex-SIL. They had another 2 after that.

Newbian - I took it the wrong way. Sorry

Think what I was trying to emphasise was that getting older doesn't automatically mean you'll be more tired. I have more energy now than I did in my 20/30s (probably 'cos I waste less time worrying!).

We were in the middle of your two ages when our twins arrived (after 10 years of fertility treatment).

Go for it... bugger everyone else.

I was 39 when I had DC #3. Not unusual and not a problem.