Mother 39 Father 44- your first thought?

[BenFolly]

Shocked?
Normal?
Ancient?
Rather them than me?

Or something else?

Sorry if AIBU to ask

I was 42 and DH 44 with our fifth. Fantastic experience, the best so far!

Yep nothing at all. A relative of mine her late 40s and him early 50s when had their first and I did think they might struggle with tiredness.

We were 26 and 27 when we adopted.

My mum and dad had kids between the ages of 25 and 43 so you're not alone!

Nothing weird about it - there are benefits to age just as there are to youth. Certainly I am more patient and accepting at 37 than I was at 22, but I cannot tell if that's due to age or simply due to 14 years at the coal front

Relatively normal, if possibly a bit old in my (very private in RL) opinion. In my defence I come from a family where women routinely marry at 18-25 and have popped out around 4 babies conservative estimate by age 39.....

In the current primary school class of DC, there are three couples with parents older than this (at birth) that I know of (among 30 kids). So among the older ones, but nothing out of the ordinary.

My first thought was absolutely nothing.
Second thought was "umm I'm not sure I understand what I'm meant to be thinking"
Third thought "When I turn 39 our eldest will be 20, youngest will be 10. Fuck I could be a granny in my 30s hopefully not!"

I only got that far bc I was really thinking about your question, otherwise I guess I honestly wouldn't think anything about parents expecting at 39 & 44.

I was 38 when I had dc2, perfectly normal, loads of parents around my age at school.

I was 38, DH 43 when we had 2nd

My first thought was And?

My 1st thought? What are you asking, don't understand.

Loads of 39 and 44 yr olds are parents.

Have I missed something?

I feel like I'm in a parallel universe reading the OP. It's a completely normal age to have a child, whether that's first, third, fifth... most people I know i.e friends, relations, school parents would have been late 30s/early to mid 40s at the time of their first child being born. It is what it is. Pros and cons whatever age.

I was 37 DH 50 when we had our 3rd

Why not, you're already in the throws of it with your first 2 anyway. But it's not about having a baby at 39/40, it's about doing the school run at 50 odd. Personal opinion, but I struggle with my 2 at 29

I was 38 and he was 46 when we had DD, so fine in my book!

And who is going to know anyway?!

My best friend is an only child. Her mum was 42 and dad 52 when she was born!
You're still young

I just had my first DC at 39. Took ages to meet the right person, then had years of fertility struggles. Couldn't give a stuff if someone out there is judging my age :/

Go for it if you want OP. I intend to try for DC2

Normal these days.
Go for it 😁

Slightly different in that my DH is 30...

Totally normal round here? The same ages me and DH were when we started a family of three. Wouldn't bat an eyelid.

Nothing unusual. Really. All good. :-)

First thought = old (sorry!)

I should add that DD is now 6 so I am 44 and DH is 52, no issues. Although DS1 (26) and DD1 (20) are both paranoid that whenever they takes DD4 out people will think that they are her parents :o

We have 7 altogether, so get judged far more on that then our ages.

Completely normal. There are loads of older parents at our preschool/primary. They tend to be a bit posher and have their own clique but my sisters one of them so I hang out too.

My friend had her first at 19, 2 dc in the middle and then twins at 43.
A lot of people ask if she's the grandmother

Lots of my old school friends aged 39/40 are having their first babies.
I'm glad I'm done as I would feel too old but I do have a chronic health condition.

Go for it!