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Asking for a friend - last minute bridezilla financial demand from bridesmaids

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dangerrabbit · 22/07/2017 08:52

Posting on behalf of a friend of my sister so may not be a juicy one as I do not have all the details, but I know how much you vipers love a wedding one so...

My sister's best friend is a bridesmaid today, the bride has just sprung on her and her other bridesmaids that she wants them to pay £60 each to have their hair and makeup done.

The bride has asked everyone to have their hair and make up done a certain way. The worst thing is that she wasn't upfront about the cost. Only yesterday when she said that the make-up would be another £30 did friend twig there would be any cost at all. And said she would rather do her own. And then on the bridesmaid WhatsApp another bridesmaid was like 'ohh I can do your hair like that for free - I can do everyone's' and then everyone said please could you.

Then the bride went on a really long winded rant about how she doesn't want to be a bridezilla but that her partner's bridesmaids are all having their hair done that way and she's paid the deposit so they have to get it done. That'll be £60 please!

So my sister wants the view of the mumsnet jury on this important issue and also your views on what her friend should say to the bride!

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Original poster
dangerrabbit · 22/07/2017 09:08

Exactly! It's not like this was arranged in advance

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YoureNotASausage · 22/07/2017 09:09

Purple, I live somewhere that gifts are pretty much always cash. In any case, maybe they can return what they bought if cash isn't planned.

Only1scoop · 22/07/2017 09:10

Six Brides mugs ugh
Of course bride should pay. How ridiculous.

Anxietyreallyblows · 22/07/2017 09:10

Bride should pay. I would probably pay but take the money from their wedding gift (I always give money hopefully your friend does too).

BewareOfDragons · 22/07/2017 09:15

Of course the bride should paid. And she knows it. It's why she didn't say anything earlier ... she was delaying, delaying, delaying, knowing deep down that she's being unreasonable, but wanting it anyways. And now she's sprung it on them in hope that they'll just pay up.

Bridesmaids should say no.

DPotter · 22/07/2017 09:15

Bride pays especially as it's such short notice.
Someone needs to take her quietly to one side and calm her down. It's too late to cancel the makeup/ hairdresser without paying and she's going to have to stump up.

RebootYourEngine · 22/07/2017 09:17

Im with everyone. If the bride wants her bridesmaids to have a certain hairdo/make up then she should pay.

Ceto · 22/07/2017 09:17

Bridesmaids should all just say they can't afford it, she has a choice between the free hairdo, paying for it herself, or doing without the bridesmaids.

GraceGrape · 22/07/2017 09:17

£60 is not a small amount of money.

luckylucky24 · 22/07/2017 09:18

The bride should be paying for this. If she cannot afford to pay for 6 bridesmaids she shouldn't have had 6.
At best I would offer to pay half if I were the bridesmaid.

CoughLaughFart · 22/07/2017 09:19

I can't believe the nerve of some people. If you insist on using a certain hairdresser, YOU are paying for it. In fact anything you're dictating has to happen, you're paying for.

A friend of mine was a bridesmaid at a fancy country house hotel. The bride very excitedly told the bridesmaids that she'd booked them all rooms for both the night before and the night of the wedding, they'd all be able to get ready in style... then the day after the wedding they were all presented with their bills.

Lunar1 · 22/07/2017 09:21

Cheeky cow, the bride should pay!

tigercub50 · 22/07/2017 09:21

🙂 at brides mugs

ComputerUserNotTrained · 22/07/2017 09:22

Of course the bride should pay!

Not that I'm just placemarking or anything Blush

Only1scoop · 22/07/2017 09:24

CoughLaughShock

ItsNachoCheese · 22/07/2017 09:26

If she wants their hair and make up a certain way then the £360 for the 6x hair and make up is her responsibility

LoniceraJaponica · 22/07/2017 09:26

I just wouldn't do it. The bride isn't going to know until the bridesmaids turn up ready to go anyway.

acatcalledjohn · 22/07/2017 09:30

I agree that the bride should pay. She's a twat for leaving it to the last min.

Did the BMs pay for their own dresses and shoes? How much did they spend on the hen party? This wedding business is getting ridiculously expensive.

£60pp for a hair do and make up? Especially the latter without a trial: imagine their faces sliding off halfway through because the primer/foundation doesn't suit them... Grin

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 22/07/2017 09:30

How very rude, to spring that on them all.
I wouldn't pay. If I could do it myself, of one of the other bridesmaids could make a good job of it, I don't see a problem, just a bridezilla !😄

ChasedByBees · 22/07/2017 09:32

That is really rude.

I think I'd return her present!

LoniceraJaponica · 22/07/2017 09:32

I would have thought that having all the bridesmaids with matchy matchy hair and make up is rather boring. The happy couple and 6 cloned bridesmaids in the photos sounds rather dull.

M00nUnit · 22/07/2017 09:32

Of course the bride should pay - it's extremely rude of her to ask her bridesmaids to pay for it, especially as she's the one wanting them to get it done. For HER wedding.

TheCraicDealer · 22/07/2017 09:34

I think the bride dictates = bride pays rule is fair and appropriate. That being said, I'm paying for my girls' hair and makeup and they're able to choose what they want, within reason (i.e. no sharpie eyeliner or Mohawks). The identikit BM look is a bit dated imo and you'd be lucky for the same thing to suit 4/5/6(!) different women.

Bride is being rude and is taking advantage of her friends using the "it's my wedding day!" get out of jail card and hoping none of them make an issue out of it.

Finola1step · 22/07/2017 09:35

not placemarking

I too would like to know if the bridesmaids have paid for their dresses and shoes as well.

LoniceraJaponica · 22/07/2017 09:36

It's such a shame that so much emphasis is placed on artificially staged wedding photos these days when people should be enjoying themselves instead.