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AIBU?

Is DPs ex taking the piss?

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Dukesofhazzard · 14/07/2017 23:12

So DP had arranged with his ex to get kids tomorrow at 2pm. The reason he said this time is because he's working night-shift til 10.00am and he needs to get a few hours sleep before he gets them. It wasn't arranged that he was having them but she asked and he said the above was the earliest he could take them.

I have plans tomorrow so I couldn't help her out as I have sometimes in the past if he's just came off a night-shift. Anyway, she text him tonight at work and said that the 'people' she had watching the kids up til 2pm can't do it anymore and she would just drop them at our house 10.30am. I have arrangements already made for tomorrow morning, leaving the house at 11am. So DP will have to look after the kids after a 14 hour shift and no sleep. I know he'll just fall asleep on the couch and kids will be left to their own devices. DC are 10 and 7 but 7 year old has SN and needs supervision.

She has a history of arranging things and changing them at the last minute and it's too late to do anything about it. I feel really annoyed that I have to change my plans for her, especially as I don't believe she had morning cover arranged and arranged this knowing she'd change it at the last minute. If I don't do this DP gets no sleep and she won't have child-care while she's at work. AIBU to be really pissed off?

OP posts:
AlongcameMolly · 17/07/2017 22:10

That's your opinion Lottie. And your opinion means nothing to me.

Dukesofhazzard · 17/07/2017 22:15

This is AlongcameMolly on a step-parenting thread.

As for your accusation of me being nasty, you really should take a read through your OWN posts. As I've said before on a previous thread, you come across as extremely aggressive and poisonous, you can bite back and deny this fact all you like but it's there in black and white for all to see

As for having a personal vendetta against you, just because I explained to another poster that I've been on the receiving end of your aggressiveness, why shouldn't I point that out, it's true!

If you seriously think I have some sort of vendetta against you then you are completely deluded. You're not worth it for a start.

As I've said on a previous thread, and another poster has also pointed this out to you on here, you appear to use a great deal of projection. If you don't understand the meaning of this then run along and look it up.

You may work out that clearly you have some serious issues going on


The only one or two who were in your 'posse' were also clearly filled with irrational hatred and jealousy for their partners ex wives.
Bit of advice, if you stay with your partner Minnie and I pity the poor bastard then try to get over your obsession with her, because she ain't going nowhere


Almost the same shite you're spouting here.^

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Fruitcorner123 · 17/07/2017 22:19

alongcamemolly
fair enough I did miss that. TBH its just been OP bashing for about the last 3 pages and it is hard to read it all. Can't believe how personal people are being about a woman they have never met.

phoenixtherabbit · 17/07/2017 22:21

So your dps parents see his ex and their non biological grandchild every other week but don't bother with their two biological grandchildren who are with you and their son? All this on top of the fact this ex supposedly threatened you, your dp and your unborn child and has been violent towards your dp.
Yet you haven't told the grandparents what she threatened because you don't want to 'ruin their relationship'?

Sorry, I'm not buying it. And even IF you are speaking the truth, it makes me wonder just what kind of woman they think YOU are if they were, firstly, horrified their son was having a baby with you and are prepared to go without seeing their flesh and blood.

Even if the ex is a 'pyscho' as you label her, they obviously prefer her over you. That tells me you are worse than her. You sound extremely immature to be honest


I've got bigger fish to fry than you today but I'm certainly not going to be called a liar.

I don't give a shiny shit whether you're buying it or not but why on earth would I lie?

His parents don't like me you're right. I'm 14 years younger than dp. They were incredibly disappointed in him when he left his ex because in their world you don't leave your long term partner or husband/wife even if they beat the shit out of you on the regular (looking at you FIL)

I don't care what kind of woman they think I am. I don't care for them. They don't care for me. Doesn't make me a bad person. Flesh and blood clearly isn't important to them and if you read half the threads on here you'd realise a lot of people's parents are the same (including my own dad actually so there you go!)

Why would I tell them? I don't like them. I don't like the ex. They might as well continue their relationship surely? It doesn't impact on me and though I cared once, I do not care anymore. Not one little bit. I care for what ss has lost but my ds doesn't know them anyway.

I don't know how you can even DARE call me worse than the ex.

Have I been violent towards anyone? No.
Have I threatened to kill anyone or their unborn child? Erm, no.
Have I accused anyone of being a paedophile when they clearly are Not? Nope!
Did I kick out my own son? Erm that would be a no!
Do i post all over Facebook about how much of a slag the ex is? Nada!


Please PLEASE tell me how I am worse than her?

I'm bringing up her kid because she can't be arsed and she'd rather be out shagging.

But I'm worse πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

Fuck off mate.

AlongcameMolly · 17/07/2017 22:22

I'm 'soooooo angry' am I Dukes?

I'm not the one resorting to starting a thread because I'm pissed off that my partners ex asks him to care for his own children. So what if it isn't 'his day'? They are children NOT objects.


I'm not the one bulldozing everyone's opinions who disagrees with you.

I'm not the one looking up a username to see what I can find out.

I'm not the one swearing and coming across as aggressive.

phoenixtherabbit · 17/07/2017 22:26

mollie you are coming across as aggressive and unhinged. Your basing your accusations on barely any information.

You're allowed a different opinion obviously but accusing people of lying and saying their partners shouldn't marry them etc is actually quite vile. Your attitude is awful.

Dukesofhazzard · 17/07/2017 22:31

I'm 'soooooo angry' am I Dukes
You really are - but you tell everyone else that they areConfused

I'm not the one resorting to starting a thread because I'm pissed off that my partners ex asks him to care for his own children. So what if it isn't 'his day'? They are children NOT objects
Please stick to the facts. She changed the times last minute resulting in me having to change important plans.

I'm not the one bulldozing everyone's opinions who disagrees with you
Ah now come on, of course you are.

I'm not the one looking up a username to see what I can find out
Yes, it's soooo amusing. You are just so irrational I knew there was a backstory and I was right.

I'm not the one swearing and coming across as aggressive
I think I swore onceHmm and you really, really, really, really, really are coming across as aggressive.

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AlongcameMolly · 17/07/2017 22:36

And we STILL only have one side of the story Phoenix.

Anyway, I'm not interested in what your or the OP have to say. I've wasted way too much time on this and clearly you enjoy slagging off the 'evil exs' and won't see anyone's point of view but your own.

And your bitterness and bitchiness is not worth my time.

I'm done.

Dukesofhazzard · 17/07/2017 22:38

Fruitcorner123

OP I cant believe this thread is still going but you are receiving so much abuse on here I wanted you to know I for one think you are in the right and have come across as a great stepmum. If I were you I would walk away from this thread now, the weekend has been and gone you stepped up for the kids and you don' have to answer to all these people. I have no idea why they don't get it but they clearly don't

Thank you. I know I really should leave it but..um.. it's just too entertaining to see what insults are thrown at me next.

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phoenixtherabbit · 17/07/2017 22:40

Oh molly fuck off love.

It is only one side but it's true. I would LOVE to get on with her. My life would be so much easier.

Won't see anyone else's view but my own? Are you actually winding me up or are you seriously that thick that you cannot see that's what YOU are doing?

Dukesofhazzard · 17/07/2017 22:42

AlongcameMolly

Anyway, I'm not interested in what your or the OP have to say. I've wasted way too much time on this and clearly you enjoy slagging off the 'evil exs' and won't see anyone's point of view but your own

Hmm Christ almighty^.

Nooo, come back, it's been a blastGrin.

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asprinklingofsugar · 17/07/2017 23:38

OP I remember reading this when it was first posted and getting really quite irritated on your behalf. Now that I've read through all the replies I want to say a couple of things
a) YANBU
b) I'm also sorry for all the abuse you're getting and I don't understand why people aren't getting it
c)It's a shame your DP never adopted the older child- I think I'm right in saying that if he had, he would have parental rights over them, which would have been helpful if you wanted custody now but it's too late for that now unfortunately :(
d) I hope it all works out somehow (although that does seem unlikely)
e) have some Wine and Cake sounds like you and your partner deserve to relax!

Dukesofhazzard · 18/07/2017 00:13

asprinklingofsugar

Thank you for that. Yes it is such a pity he never adopted him when they were together, could've solved a lot of problems, you're right.

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JuicyStrawberry · 18/07/2017 09:18

Anyway, I'm not interested in what your or the OP have to say. I've wasted way too much time on this and clearly you enjoy slagging off the 'evil exs' and won't see anyone's point of view but your own

They are slagging a couple of ex's off. Not you.
I'm astounded why you would still jump to the defence of someone even after them wishing people dead. Ex or no ex that is appalling behaviour and there is no excuse for it.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 21/07/2017 00:34

Oh dear, look at that, I go away for a couple of days and come back to find I'm being called "foul-mouthed" - ahahahahahah!! I'd rather be foul mouthed than bitter and unhinged, that's for certain!

Dukes and Phoenix - you've done well to carry on in the teeth of extreme provocation from someone who has a pointy stick up their arse!

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