Have an opinion when you earn 40k a year!

[cluckyhen]

So DD drove me mad this morning by opening 'new' milk instead of 'old' milk after already doing my head in by snapping at me and I was having a bit of a grumble under my breath about it when OH decided he was going to wade in with his opinion.

Short version of the story that still has me fuming some 6 hours and one spotless house later is he turned round and said that when I go out and earn 40k a year I can have an opinion.

Pardon? I've raised 2 children, numerous pets, followed him here, there and everywhere, moved house 13 times, done school runs, hospital trips, specialist meetings, wiped noses, arses, breaks and bleeds. Quit jobs at short notice, driven different continents and ensured that everything is done in the house whether he is with us or away and I am suddenly not allowed an opinion. I'm so angry that he has said this.

AIBU in wanting to bury him at the bottom of the garden? I've already had a sniffle as this has really got to me but am now getting ready to go out to my other job - the one that I took on as he will be working away for a year and I do need some kind of interaction with people other than grunting teenagers!

Is he in the forces?

That is really shocking.
What a horrible thing to say.

Yanbu at all! He was only free to go and earn because you were there supporting the rest of his existance.

Do you need to borrow a spade?

Yabu.

You should kick him in the bollocks first, then bury him.

Entitled git

Oof. That's fucking nasty. Make him an invoice for all the things you've done to enable his career and then tell him he can tell you off for looking after the household when he actually contributes. while Billy Big Bollocks swans off with work for his £40k a year. Ffs.

Bloody hell. I'd be livid if my dh treated me with so little respect. Is he always like this?

I'm popping a nice tarpaulin in the post for you.

Can we dig a big enough hole to throw mine in with him?

What a cuntish, vile thing to say.

Show him this thread and tell him he's a fucking bell end.

I would seriously question if this man actually has any respect for you.

Yanbu. Go on strike and tell him he can have an opinion on it when he's done all you've listed for years

Omg roll his balls!!!! What a dick! Whack him on the head with a stiletto then stuck needles in his eyes 👀

Yep 2014newme - Forces, he only got back on Friday and did nothing but grumble. It's hard enough wading through the teen years without him acting like the eldest twat - sorry - teen.

Got a spade somewhere but alas not much of a garden to hide him in.

Might have a large tonight.

Does he like you?

What a nasty thing to say, the jumped up fucknugget. Who the hell does he think he is?

YANBU.

Nanny rates in my area,(which don't include giving birth or cleaning) are approx £33-£35k per annum. 50 hours a week.

You gestated for 18 months, gave birth and did round the clock care, fuck if you haven't earned more than £40k per year.

Yanbu. What a vile attitude and horrible thing to say to anyone, let alone you who have done all those things for him. I'll help with the digging if needed.

Oh OP, I'm so sorry. If you've both agreed that this is how the tasks are divided then he has no right to throw it in your face, not that anyone should ever talk to someone in such a condescending manner. It sounds as if resentment has built up on his part. Would I be wrong to say that the bloom has gone out of your marriage - sorry but it sounds like he's not too happy.

You can't let that go man, cheeky bastard!

Calm down, process and have a come to Jesus meeting with him with your say. Those are the kind of thoughts that breed contempt.

Can you cost out what it would take to pay someone to do what you do and then invoice him? You probably would be earning more than that if it was costed out.

My exh once said this to me. Note the ex.