AIBU?
Have an opinion when you earn 40k a year!
cluckyhen · 08/07/2017 16:46
So DD drove me mad this morning by opening 'new' milk instead of 'old' milk after already doing my head in by snapping at me and I was having a bit of a grumble under my breath about it when OH decided he was going to wade in with his opinion.
Short version of the story that still has me fuming some 6 hours and one spotless house later is he turned round and said that when I go out and earn 40k a year I can have an opinion.
Pardon? I've raised 2 children, numerous pets, followed him here, there and everywhere, moved house 13 times, done school runs, hospital trips, specialist meetings, wiped noses, arses, breaks and bleeds. Quit jobs at short notice, driven different continents and ensured that everything is done in the house whether he is with us or away and I am suddenly not allowed an opinion. I'm so angry that he has said this.
AIBU in wanting to bury him at the bottom of the garden? I've already had a sniffle as this has really got to me but am now getting ready to go out to my other job - the one that I took on as he will be working away for a year and I do need some kind of interaction with people other than grunting teenagers!
Elledouble · 08/07/2017 16:51
Oof. That's fucking nasty. Make him an invoice for all the things you've done to enable his career and then tell him he can tell you off for looking after the household when he actually contributes. while Billy Big Bollocks swans off with work for his £40k a year. Ffs.
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cluckyhen · 08/07/2017 16:54
Yep 2014newme - Forces, he only got back on Friday and did nothing but grumble. It's hard enough wading through the teen years without him acting like the eldest twat - sorry - teen.
Got a spade somewhere but alas not much of a garden to hide him in.
Might have a large 
tonight.
YouHaveBeenSummarilyDismissed · 08/07/2017 16:55
Nanny rates in my area,(which don't include giving birth or cleaning) are approx £33-£35k per annum. 50 hours a week.
You gestated for 18 months, gave birth and did round the clock care, fuck if you haven't earned more than £40k per year.
Designjunkie · 08/07/2017 16:57
Oh OP, I'm so sorry. If you've both agreed that this is how the tasks are divided then he has no right to throw it in your face, not that anyone should ever talk to someone in such a condescending manner. It sounds as if resentment has built up on his part. Would I be wrong to say that the bloom has gone out of your marriage - sorry but it sounds like he's not too happy.
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