Found a positive pregnancy test in DSDs bedroom. DH will want her out. What the fuck do I do.

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I'm in actual genuine shock.

This isn't one of those "my teenage child is better behaved than your teenage child" because it isnt. She is far from perfect but She knows she can tell me anything and I will 100% support her decision on things.

Anyway- on to the topic.

DSD has been working hard all week and took DD out today as I was feeling unwell. She usually does her own laundry and ironing so I decided to do it for her today. Went to put some t shirts away in her drawers and found a positive pregnancy test. Thinking about it (and I know this sounds odd in a way) but I haven't cleaned out any sanitary products from her bathroom bin in the last 2 or 3 months. I know she has been sleeping with someone and she insisted she was taking precautions but as we all know accidents can happen. I assumed she was on the pill as my periods stopped when I was on it a couple of years ago

I was out when she came back with DD and she is now at work until half 12. I'm going to sit and have a chat with her and I know she is either going to be really upset because she doesn't know what to do or angry because she feels I have invaded her personal space- I genuinely didn't go looking for it. I opened the drawer and saw the end peaking out of a pair of slipper socks and knew straight away what it was.

DH is going to be fuming and will probably want to kick her out (can say this with 90% certainty). I will support her decision 100%.

She is 18 (just)

Why would he kick her out at a time when she needs help and guidance?

dont let her dad kick her out, do whatever it takes to make sure she has the support she is going to need. havimg a baby young is brutal without support and love.

Oh bloody hell. Wtf type of man would do that.
Speak to her. Keep it secret though.

Wtf is wrong with your DH? I'd be kicking him out.

Why the fuck would your dh kick out a vulnerable pregnant teenager? That a massive fucking issue!!
Secondly you need to speak to dd any say theres no judgement and you support her whatever. Id say babies are hard and she needs to think about what she wants to do and youll support her decision either way.
Im appauled your dh would kick his daughter and grandchild out.

Would he really kick out his pregnant teenaged DD?

What kind of shit father would throw his daughter out for becoming pregnant? That kind of behaviour belongs in the Victorian era.

She is lucky to have such a supportive step mum, I hope your conversation goes well xxx

Well if I were you I would get a new DH, for starters!! Support her all the way, and make sure she knows someone is on her side.

He would kick her out ?

What kind of man are you fucking married to ?

I don't understand why he would make a vulnerable 18 year old homeless. He's her dad. He should be supporting her in whatever she decides.

I can't understand how anyone would be such an utter arsehole to kick out their own pregnant daughter who is probably feeling pretty bloody anxious and terrified. If my DH did that to his/our child it would be the end, no question.
Anyway, thank god for you! Good luck with your chat.

I think it might be helpful for you to provide a bit of context, OP, because most people on here will be incredulous that anyone could want to "kick out" their own child for this reason.

Basically - do you live somewhere quite remote, is your family very religious, etc? You sound slightly naïve about contraception yourself too?

Why would he kick her out, what kind of monster would do that?! It's 2017 not 1917!

From your OP it sounds as if she lives with you full time? Does she see her mum at all?

Anyway even if her biological parents are both useless, at least she has you. If you'll support her 100% that's great. You could also suggest that she contacts BPAS or Marie Stopes for some impartial counselling, as it would probably help for her to have someone else sensible to talk to. They won't pressure her and will support her to make her own decision (which will be your approach too I'm sure).

Why would he kick her out?

Would her mum take her in if he did kick her out?

Do not let him kick her oyt. If he has an issue he can leave and fuck of back to 1926.

Maybe dh needs
Kicking out?

He'd kick out his own child? What an arsehole

Poor DSD, good thing she has you.

If I was a man who wanted to kick out his pregnant teenaged DD, that relationship would be done. The DD on the otherhand would be welcomed to stay, regardless of her decision.

She needs support more than anything, good luck with your chat.

If her dad is likely to fly off the handle she may not want to tell him.

Most of all, she needs to consider her options, and time is not a limitless resource when you're pregnant, so anything you can do to support her will be helpful.

Don't tellher dad -- it's really none of his business. He does not need to know; it's nothing to do with him; and it sounds like it would actual put her in danger for him to know.

She is over 16 and is entitled to a) have sex and b)have complete medical confidentiality. Keep dad out of it.

DH is going to be fuming and will probably want to kick her out (can say this with 90% certainty). I will support her decision 100%

You supporting her may mean the end of the marriage.

From the little you've said about him here, he sounds grim.

Is the girl's mother in the picture?

The fact she lives with her father and not her mother indicates that things are not all well.

So I feel for her already.

She does her own laundry etc also tells me that she is not that included in your set up

He will kick her out? No good father would come even close to that

No wonder she hasn't told you both

Why the hell would he go nuts and pick her out?

None of you even know what happened yet. It's very worrying that you are thinking of his reaction befire you tho k about what help and support she may need.

Does he scare you?

How could you he with someone who would throw His grandbaby out on the streets